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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Jan 4, 2021 9:36:57 GMT 8
Was reorganizing my closet and came across a pair of size 11 high heels I bought a long time ago but could barely squeeze into. Fit almost perfectly now. The left one has a big gash in the heel though. This does mean my feet have actually shrunk, and I might be able to buy shoes in a physical store. I've really been missing doing that at Payless, though they have reopened online at least. I had noticed some of the size 12 ones I bought at their closing sale really are too big, and was wondering why I bought them because I did try them on. LOL, I'm a women's 14 extra wide. My choices are almost entirely kinky drag queen boots or black orthopedics. Thank goodness for online mail order - there are at least a few options there. Those sexy drag queen black orthopedics boots... Ever watch the movie Kinky Boots? If not, it's worth watching.
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Post by Becky on Jan 4, 2021 22:09:57 GMT 8
So, a few days ago, my wife and I were helping a good friend install and paint a wall-to-wall bookcase. Her husband, who's not really into her projects, went out to have lunch with some old friends. He apparently did a liquid lunch, because he called 4 hours later to say he needed to be picked up and driven home. When he got back, I could see that he was INCREDIBLY drunk. He came over, and started hugging and kissing me. I'm sure he thought he was being funny, but it was AGGRESSIVE hugging and kissing. I felt his stubble, his hot breath, his muscles and masculine body and... ...I absolutely HATED every moment. I've been questioning my sexuality recently, so the good part is that this put any question of being into masc-presenting folks to bed. I'm totally sapphic, y'all. I'm all about women, demi-women, and pretty boyz. Of course, an easier label for my sexuality would be "married." But it's good to know how I fit into the big picture of gender and sexuality. My experience with that would have been much, much different. My body would have taken over and the feelings would have been overpowering and last for decades. And as a married person the guilt over it would be very difficult even while fighting it off It's happened before with me, each time literally fighting it off, and then wishing I hadn't, except that I totally had to, and would never cheat on my wife, so there is a conflict between body and love.
Good for you, more answered questions!
Love the "married" line too.
You're lucky Becky. And your wife would have decked that guy....
Hugs.
LOL, my wife was there! She "redirected" him to another room of the house. We saw him and his wife again yesterday, and apparently he had no memory of that afternoon. I said, "You don't remember kissing me? I thought it MEANT something to you!" We all had a good laugh. But seriously, I was growing confused because of my sexual attraction to more androgynous folks. But even there, it only seems to be just the people who exhibit more femme-leaning traits. It does mentally help me to know more about my own sexuality, even if I'll never act on it.
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Post by Droomvlucht on Feb 6, 2021 16:30:30 GMT 8
Happy: there's snow coming. Looking forward to throw snowballs in the garden and hear the sound of the snow. Unhappy: there's snow coming. Just when schools and daycares are opening again. That's going to be so cold and annoying and slippery, blegh. In stead of having more time to work I'll probably have less.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Feb 7, 2021 11:28:54 GMT 8
Happy: the sun is finally going to be shining again for the next ten days at least. Unhappy, its going to be sub zero F temps for the next ten days at least. Highs and lows.
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Post by Leena on Apr 23, 2021 6:12:33 GMT 8
Happy: Got my first vaccination dose today. Was thinking about just doing guy mode when this day came, but did not. Also, they asked my gender on the appointment sign up form and I was able to select nonbinary.
Unhappy: Still got called sir and Mr. [Lastname] by the receptionist checking me in and [Legal Firstname] by other people there.
More happy than unhappy, I'm basically done with presenting masculine and gendering myself as a guy. If I'm not going to do it for something important like this, what am I going to do it for?
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Post by Trinity on Apr 23, 2021 7:57:02 GMT 8
Happy: Got my first vaccination dose today. Was thinking about just doing guy mode when this day came, but did not. Also, they asked my gender on the appointment sign up form and I was able to select nonbinary. Unhappy: Still got called sir and Mr. [Lastname] by the receptionist checking me in and [Legal Firstname] by other people there. More happy than unhappy, I'm basically done with presenting masculine and gendering myself as a guy. If I'm not going to do it for something important like this, what am I going to do it for? One of the things I dislike a lot from hospitals and dread getting a mamogram is the deadnaming when the records have not been changed.
They are pretty good in Orlando, and my general person is also my HRT endo, I go to a place that treats most of the trans people in mid Florida, people drive hundreds of miles to get to this clinic.
I'm sure LA has good places that would use Leena and not whatever the heck the old name was.
I'm not changing my name. And I have yet to have a nonbinary selection on any form I have ever seen, though the questionaire at the clinic does ask what my gender is, including a host of categories, I think I either chose nonbinary or just "other".
MTF other to be exact, physically I guess both of us fit that one.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Apr 23, 2021 10:00:44 GMT 8
Lol, I had to fill in my nationality and mothers maiden name along with gender on my shot form. Nationality was easy, I've always been american because I was born in this country, mothers maiden name was dill pickle and gender was minnesotan. I mean what does any of that have to do with anything about me that is important? Nationality is a misleading thing in this country, because people like to say where their ancestors are from, but mine happen to come from so many fricken places that mutt is not acceptable to me, I was born here so thats the nation I am from. Mothers maiden name? WTF is that even good for, as if it means anything at all, it is essentially her dead name if you think about it, and she remarried after divorcing my father and nobody even asks if my last name is the same as his, could be anything in todays world of easy name changes, I should have just put down Darth Vader or I.P. Daily for that matter, I mean really, WTF??? Gender is whatever I think it is at any given moment, I have put anything and everything down before, it isn't even a question that most people can honestly answer, your sex maybe but then they never did check my chromosome to be sure so it could be anything as well. The lady who took the form and then told me I had to watch a boring commercial for the vaccine maker just stared at it and slowly smiled, I dead panned a what? at her and she just turned and walked away, didn't bother to even challenge it, I assume it made her day like it did mine to give bullshit answers to bullshit questions.
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Post by nyx on Apr 23, 2021 16:28:28 GMT 8
Happy: Got my first vaccination dose today. Was thinking about just doing guy mode when this day came, but did not. Also, they asked my gender on the appointment sign up form and I was able to select nonbinary. Unhappy: Still got called sir and Mr. [Lastname] by the receptionist checking me in and [Legal Firstname] by other people there. More happy than unhappy, I'm basically done with presenting masculine and gendering myself as a guy. If I'm not going to do it for something important like this, what am I going to do it for? Great you did it I think you don't need guy mode for anything if it doesn't feel right for you, as long as you are safe. Maybe the more confident you are with your presentation, the easier it gets to be correctly gendered because people can sense it in a way, I think - but if you feel ok with correcting people, I would go for it because why not, if they need someone tell them how to call you... but that's just my thoughts. I think it depends on the situation and how you feel about it. Lol, I had to fill in my nationality and mothers maiden name along with gender on my shot form. Nationality was easy, I've always been american because I was born in this country, mothers maiden name was dill pickle and gender was minnesotan. I mean what does any of that have to do with anything about me that is important? Nationality is a misleading thing in this country, because people like to say where their ancestors are from, but mine happen to come from so many fricken places that mutt is not acceptable to me, I was born here so thats the nation I am from. Mothers maiden name? WTF is that even good for, as if it means anything at all, it is essentially her dead name if you think about it, and she remarried after divorcing my father and nobody even asks if my last name is the same as his, could be anything in todays world of easy name changes, I should have just put down Darth Vader or I.P. Daily for that matter, I mean really, WTF??? Gender is whatever I think it is at any given moment, I have put anything and everything down before, it isn't even a question that most people can honestly answer, your sex maybe but then they never did check my chromosome to be sure so it could be anything as well. The lady who took the form and then told me I had to watch a boring commercial for the vaccine maker just stared at it and slowly smiled, I dead panned a what? at her and she just turned and walked away, didn't bother to even challenge it, I assume it made her day like it did mine to give bullshit answers to bullshit questions. Your post basically made my day...
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Post by Leena on Apr 24, 2021 1:35:20 GMT 8
Great you did it I think you don't need guy mode for anything if it doesn't feel right for you, as long as you are safe. Maybe the more confident you are with your presentation, the easier it gets to be correctly gendered because people can sense it in a way, I think - but if you feel ok with correcting people, I would go for it because why not, if they need someone tell them how to call you... but that's just my thoughts. I think it depends on the situation and how you feel about it. Yeah, I don't know I'll ever be one to correct people, I've seen a few too many viral videos of that going badly. I think just ignoring it is usually the best way to go.
It might happen less if and when I change my legal name, though the receptionist first called me sir based on my appearance, and then asked my name which I had to give the name on my ID and they made a big deal about the name having to match. While my presentation wasn't guy mode, it was still somewhat androgynous I guess even if nothing was from the men's department.
It's really more that I am done using my old masculine voice and mannerisms and trying to be gendered as a guy in some situations. Doing that tends to make me misgender myself and go back into questioning.
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Post by Leena on Apr 27, 2021 3:58:46 GMT 8
Got catcalled by a guy across the street when I was drying off my car after washing it. I wasn't even wearing anything sexy like various movie scenes like this, just a hoodie and jeans.
He started to cross the street to approach me but got held up by cars, so I decided it was dry enough and got in and quickly left. It's going to take awhile to get used to unwanted attention like this. Does it ever happen?
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Apr 27, 2021 4:25:47 GMT 8
Ahh,.. the standard wiggle of drying off a car at the carwash...
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Post by Trinity on Apr 27, 2021 7:02:54 GMT 8
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Post by Trinity on Apr 27, 2021 7:14:55 GMT 8
Got catcalled by a guy across the street when I was drying off my car after washing it. I wasn't even wearing anything sexy like various movie scenes like this, just a hoodie and jeans. He started to cross the street to approach me but got held up by cars, so I decided it was dry enough and got in and quickly left. It's going to take awhile to get used to unwanted attention like this. Does it ever happen? You'll learn.
I think all women do, but we didn't have the right of passage the teenage girls did.
Getting hit on, especially preop no op, is a trip and a half.
There is an art to learning how to handle it. You will....
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Post by nyx on Apr 27, 2021 14:49:32 GMT 8
Got catcalled by a guy across the street when I was drying off my car after washing it. I wasn't even wearing anything sexy like various movie scenes like this, just a hoodie and jeans. He started to cross the street to approach me but got held up by cars, so I decided it was dry enough and got in and quickly left. It's going to take awhile to get used to unwanted attention like this. Does it ever happen? I think this happens to all female-read people from time to time because society sucks, but everyone finds their way to handle it. Since I started to present less feminine, it triggers my dypshoria though. But I act like usual, by ignoring them and thinking how ridiculous those guys are. If I feel safe, I sometimes give them a disgusted glare or simply laugh at them. I mean, all they are communicating is: Oh I sensed a female, and females are objects to look at and comment on their bodies. Maybe it's just my point of view, but I think it's just stupid toxic masculinity... On the other hand, it means you are being read as somewhat female, which means you are passing. But yes, it is a thing that happens, being catcalled...
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Post by Becky on May 13, 2021 20:52:14 GMT 8
Happy: I wore subtle eye makeup and purple-painted nails to my second COVID vaccination and got compliments!
Not so happy: This second shot is kicking my butt! I'm more than ready to feel normal again.
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