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Post by Iona on Aug 19, 2021 5:00:53 GMT 8
Make that the week after next - but that at least certainly should happen. Which was today. It did happen, and the nurse was lovely. It looks like she should be able to see me in person in a week or two. It is an hour an a half drive each way, and I'll have to see her a couple of times, but assuming there are no problems I guess I could be starting in a month or two! Very excited!
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Post by Trinity on Aug 19, 2021 7:03:27 GMT 8
Make that the week after next - but that at least certainly should happen. Which was today. It did happen, and the nurse was lovely. It looks like she should be able to see me in person in a week or two. It is an hour an a half drive each way, and I'll have to see her a couple of times, but assuming there are no problems I guess I could be starting in a month or two! Very excited! Well now, this is huge for you isn't it
I bet that drive seems like nothing with all that is happening now. It's a huge change.
Do you have support at home?
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Post by Iona on Aug 19, 2021 9:01:52 GMT 8
Which was today. It did happen, and the nurse was lovely. It looks like she should be able to see me in person in a week or two. It is an hour an a half drive each way, and I'll have to see her a couple of times, but assuming there are no problems I guess I could be starting in a month or two! Very excited! Well now, this is huge for you isn't it
I bet that drive seems like nothing with all that is happening now. It's a huge change.
Do you have support at home?
Oh yes, it is massive. And yes, that drive is fine (and very beautiful). My wife is being absolutely as supportive as she can be. But it is unknown territory. I know it's going to be a challenge, but we've tried to be as open and honest with each other as we can be. Obviously we're going to need to keep being open and honest and make sure we're both OK with where things are going. It is exciting, but it's a bit scary too
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Aug 19, 2021 10:06:52 GMT 8
Walking on the path that you have an idea of where it can/night/possibly go is scary only if you don't stop to look at everything along the way. Even the most treacherous path still has things of wonder and beauty, if only you see them for what they are. It's more scary to know the destination and what you are supposed to see on the well beaten path. It's scary like saying you do this in life and then you die, it was never meant to be like that. It's the journey, never the destination. Stepping forward can at times be a scary thing to do, but not stepping forward is just giving up, stuck in the same old stable sameness. You choose to seek out the adventure of moving forward or you settle for whatever scraps you can find while you sit on the side of the path and wonder what if. If there is one thing NB are generally about, its having that sense of wonder at each bend on the path ahead.
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Post by Iona on Aug 19, 2021 20:39:18 GMT 8
It looks like she should be able to see me in person in a week or two. One week from today, in fact! (I don't know what that emoji means, but it seems to cover it!)
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Post by nyx on Aug 20, 2021 17:04:16 GMT 8
Make that the week after next - but that at least certainly should happen. Which was today. It did happen, and the nurse was lovely. It looks like she should be able to see me in person in a week or two. It is an hour an a half drive each way, and I'll have to see her a couple of times, but assuming there are no problems I guess I could be starting in a month or two! Very excited! WOW! So great to read this! I am really happy for you. I have some news, too: 1) my psychiatrist is willing to write me an idication letter for hrt, I'll have to give her the therapist's reports once they are there, and then she will do it! If all goes well, I might start before the year ends. 2) I'm out at work! I am starting on september 1st, and have already spoken to the staff department, and they can change my email adress and doorplate before I arrive there. There is some software that will still have my old name, but this has to wait until I have my documents changed, which will take 1-3 years, so for now this is all I can get, but it's great to have my correct name and title for my colleagues to see. I also spoke to my soon-to-be superior and she is really cool with it, so I'm looking forward to start there being just myself. 3) I ordered a supplement ID that can be used for ID checks which has my correct pronouns and new name on it. For strategic reasons, it will have the gender 'male' on it - I still need to stealth my way to medical transitional treatments, so for now, I'm playing male. Right now, it's fine for me and male feels better than female. 4) When I went to the photographer yesterday to get a passport photo, I felt great, wearing a black men's shirt, my binder and black men's jeans, looking quite handsome and very nonbinary... <3 It is all turning out well, although I feel still unable to talk to my mother, she doesn't even know my new name that soon will know everyone out there... but right now, I want to be happy about all the good things!
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Aug 21, 2021 9:55:37 GMT 8
This is great! It's going to take time with your mother, she has known you as daughter for how many years... But the more you just go about life and make progress and she sees that you are still the same person and when she recognizes how happy it makes you, it will change with her. But its going to be a slow awakening for her most likely, she might be just waiting for you to not go down this road, but as she see things going well and that the basic you, the feelings you have, the core person who you are, she will see that gender is just not that big of a deal. I know it is for you to get life going as who you are, but all in all, there are so many things in life that are much more important, the goal is to be recognized for who you are as your gender, but also that you are who you are in all things besides. Your mother sees you as changing your gender, which is not true, you are just presenting as the gender you have always been, a unique opportunity that is a bold step forward and takes you out of the matrix that society tries to rule you with, it is a very big deal and I'm happy for you. Just remind your mother that your love for her has not changed, that you haven't changed, that this is who you have always been and that it makes you happy and more secure in knowing you can step forward holding your head high.
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Post by Trinity on Aug 26, 2021 13:01:15 GMT 8
Renegotiated my contract with my main client today, favorable to me.
Good for them too, more service provided by me where they need help.
Plus the work from home thing is in place, so I don't have to go in, better for me, the car, time working....
So they continue the working relationship and increase it, and I am out trans there, though I present nonbinary.
Nice.
Hope everyone is ok here, quiet as usual.
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Post by Iona on Aug 26, 2021 22:14:22 GMT 8
Just had my appointment with the nurse who was lovely. Just need to get blood tests and one more appointment with her, all being well...
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Post by Iona on Aug 26, 2021 22:20:20 GMT 8
Also had a really tough, but really good, serious talk with my wife at the weekend which made me feel a lot better about my transition. It's still scary, but being open about everything is so important
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Post by Trinity on Aug 27, 2021 4:04:23 GMT 8
Also had a really tough, but really good, serious talk with my wife at the weekend which made me feel a lot better about my transition. It's still scary, but being open about everything is so important Communication and sensitivity is everything, as well as taking it as slow as possible.
She is transitioning right along with you.
I'm still amazed my wife is still with me. One of the reasons I never challenge her use of pronouns unless in a dangerous situation outside, is that whatever rationalizing she needs as a straight woman to stay with me, is just fine with me. I just want her to stay.
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Post by Trinity on Sept 6, 2021 11:33:18 GMT 8
Also had a really tough, but really good, serious talk with my wife at the weekend which made me feel a lot better about my transition. It's still scary, but being open about everything is so important Are you hanging in there, quiet one?
These are usually very intense times for folk like us and we are here for you.
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Post by Iona on Sept 6, 2021 21:05:00 GMT 8
Are you hanging in there, quiet one?
These are usually very intense times for folk like us and we are here for you.
Hanging in, yes, just about thanks. It hasn't been an easy couple of weeks, but for no good reason it seems. I have another appointment with the nurse tomorrow, and all being well I should get my prescription. I guess I'm a bit all over the place about that - really excited, but worried it won't happen, won't help or won't work, or, I don't know. I know I want it, but I am keenly aware that I don't know quite what will happen. I suppose that is a bit scary.
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Post by Iona on Sept 6, 2021 21:07:46 GMT 8
Ungendered and accurate, for some reason that made me feel really good - thank you Trinity.
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Post by Trinity on Sept 7, 2021 0:37:35 GMT 8
Are you hanging in there, quiet one?
These are usually very intense times for folk like us and we are here for you.
Hanging in, yes, just about thanks. It hasn't been an easy couple of weeks, but for no good reason it seems. I have another appointment with the nurse tomorrow, and all being well I should get my prescription. I guess I'm a bit all over the place about that - really excited, but worried it won't happen, won't help or won't work, or, I don't know. I know I want it, but I am keenly aware that I don't know quite what will happen. I suppose that is a bit scary. Savor it. It can be as big as losing your virginity, at least it was for me, I felt the estrogen receptors fire on the little pill, and it was everywhere.
Or it could be a small nothing, it all depends on the person.
Anyone else remember what their first estrogen dose felt like?
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