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Post by Leena on Jul 20, 2016 13:15:42 GMT 8
Feeling very feminine lately, but still presenting androgynous at most. Went out last night and had some guy in a car repeatedly call me the 6 letter F word when I was crossing the street. Felt like everyone was staring at me all night, but it didn't stop me from trying to have a good time. Does make me consider why I present androgynous instead of just en femme if people are going to hate on me either way. You should have asked him what kind of idiot he is. Tranny starts with a T instead of an F and clearly we aren't Faggots and the word Faggot is politically incorrect and considered possible hate speech. Not to mention Defamation of Character which could turn out to be a lawsuit. So if he hit you after calling you "faggot" then that is a hate crime. OMG you could have been rich. Or just as good he could have been in jail or better yet and you could have been both. Rich and him in jail. Look Veronica. You can't let idiots bother you and ruin your good time. Was that the only asshole you encountered that night? If so then that is not so bad. So what? You are presenting as andro and someone calls you a "faggot"? For me one asshole can't and doesn't ruin a whole night. Look hon. I have been dealing with this shit all my life. When I came to terms fully with it I may have been 13. I knew something earlier, especially that I felt like and wanted to be a girl, but not when it hit me like a ton of bricks. My stepdad was from south Alabama and I went with them on vacation. Don't ask me how but his fucking mom picked it up right away. She told my mom, my stepdad and me that I was gay and a fag. Really? at fucking 13? WTF did I do? Back the trans was kind of unknown or idiots couldn't figure it out. So either you were gay or straight. At least there anyway. I think it was a town called Coden Al. Close to Dauphin Island. I remember that I was upset and I actually went away by myself and cried. She was a drunk racist KKK (Yes she and her husband were actually in the KKK) bitch anyway that kind of reminded me of a troll. Her husband was more of a bitch than I turned out to be because he didn't say shit but later came on to me. Really? So who is the "faggot" here? Or actually who the fuck is the gay child molester? Not me for sure. That is way worst than being gay. I turned him down so thank god he didn't take it by force. Yeah later I found out that he molested his granddaughter that they had custody of and she was two years younger than me. And this stupid bitch that called me a fag and gay and every fucking thing else under the sun let it happen and knew it was happening. Fucking hypocrites. Of course back then a so called boy with long hair was kind of unusual but not really though. But curly long hair that looked way more girly than "guyly"? There are a bunch of fucked up people in the world and believe me, it ain't us. I guess that is what kind of made me curious of guys. Maybe I just was curious or she put that shit in my head or maybe it was just always in me anyway. I did like girls too. Plus other shit happened with a gay step brother that I never told anyone about but it was not consensual. It could have been possibly even as young as I was but he took it without consent. This happened even before Alabama. Maybe I enjoyed it just a little? Its fucked up sounding. I know. So don't let name calling ruin your night or life. A lot of people even when I was trying trying to be a guy thought I was gay and used all the names. Well I'm not gay. I am bi or used to be anyway. Now I am a straight trans woman more or less. I have a boyfriend and for the last year or so have been exclusive for guys. So with that last sentence written and in context of the OP, to quote Shania Twain, "Man, I Feel Like a Woman." I'm not sure how confronting someone in a car at busy intersection could have ended well for me. By the time I got to his car, the light would probably have turned green, and I would be in a bad situation, or if I had got to him, what am I going to do, try to pull him out of his car? Stand in front of his car and hope he doesn't run me over? It didn't ruin my whole night, but I was a bit more paranoid about people staring at me. I keep wanting to push myself further and further, I know I will get some negative reactions. Actually, I'm more surprised that I haven't got more so far.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2016 0:01:06 GMT 8
No you don't really have to confront him and never get in front of a car and try to confront them. But there are other ways. You could have asked him, "Why? Does it turn you on?" And then blow him a kiss or give him a little wink. Hell he has the right to think of you however he wishes, he can even give his opinion and you have the same rights. Plus a little question that will usually shut them down will give you a little satisfaction but I do have a CCW but usually carry a tazer. Hell you don't even have to say anything, just wink or blow him a kiss. That is usually enough to embarrass the shit out of them. Besides one asshole does not a village make so he may have shown his ass but way more others will be more respectful and yes if you are shy it does hit the ego and makes you self conscious. Just human nature. I know this will sound like bullshit but the more secure you are with yourself then the less paranoid you will be after one of these incidents. I mean I am not a woman. I am a feminine trans woman. Some will hate it, some will respect it, some will have no opinion, some will have strong opinions but keep them to themselves and some will even like it and even maybe attracted to that aspect. Not much different than anyone else in the world. Some people are rude to obese people and less than beautiful or handsome people. Some people may not like someone just because they don't and some will say stupid shit and others will be respectful. some people are attracted to some others and some people are repulsed by some others. We are no different than cis people even in that context. But one bright expectation is that we are becoming more and more noticed and more and more people are empathetic to us or sympathetic. We still have a long way to go but we are getting there. I mean we have to date a little different and one of the questions if someone wants to get closer to me is, "Tell me everything you think you know about me and then ask me everything you want to know about me." But first I let them know my opinions of the LGBT community. If they think the same then I will hint. If they can't catch it then I ask the question. A lot actually pick up on it and directly ask and I tell them. If they like it fine if not then fine, it was nice to meet them anyway. I do not want to fool any potential dates. That can be dangerous but not as much as telling them up front. If it seems like they have an attitude then I will ask a bouncer to walk me out to my vehicle or taxi. But why come to a bar or club that is frequented by LGBTs if you aren't willing to take that chance of meeting one? I mean I'm sure some guys and some girls will visit these clubs hoping to find a threesome between themselves and two lipstick lesbians or themselves and two bisexual guys. But that is really fantasy land though and you can not live in a fantasy world because real life always comes back and kicks you in the ass. Like I said, I am a feminine Trans woman and I have a boyfriend that towers over me and twice my size so I feel really safe when we go out. How long my BF stays with me or I with him, I don't know. Real life happens. Right now it's good but it's in it's first stages. I do not use the bathroom in front of him or him me. I do not let myself go other than camping or so on where there are no showers and such. But the facial and chest hair has to go but the legs, underarms and arms can go a little bit. I hate it but he don't mind though. Cactus legs don't bother him but at home HELL NO. Everyday for me. Hell it may last a long time, maybe even forever. We'll have to see what life has in store for us. I am falling but have fallen before. It seems like he is falling too. But one thing that I adore is that he is allowing me at my pace to fall completely. He has already bought me some hellacious jewelry in the way of earrings, necklaces, bracelets and anklets. We go shopping and he pays for the clothes I like which he actually likes to see me in. In a year or so if he buys me a ring at the way its going I may even say OK.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 21, 2016 1:11:07 GMT 8
I just feel me today.
Sh'e. Was in bed till now, took care of my libido (they let my t levels go up from zero and my libido, which has always been strong, is back), epilated my legs and really feel totally sh'e.
Sh'e is not a girl.
Sh'e is sh'e.
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Post by Leena on Jul 21, 2016 15:17:16 GMT 8
No you don't really have to confront him and never get in front of a car and try to confront them. But there are other ways. You could have asked him, "Why? Does it turn you on?" And then blow him a kiss or give him a little wink. Hell he has the right to think of you however he wishes, he can even give his opinion and you have the same rights. Plus a little question that will usually shut them down will give you a little satisfaction but I do have a CCW but usually carry a tazer. Hell you don't even have to say anything, just wink or blow him a kiss. That is usually enough to embarrass the shit out of them. Besides one asshole does not a village make so he may have shown his ass but way more others will be more respectful and yes if you are shy it does hit the ego and makes you self conscious. Just human nature. I know this will sound like bullshit but the more secure you are with yourself then the less paranoid you will be after one of these incidents. I mean I am not a woman. I am a feminine trans woman. Some will hate it, some will respect it, some will have no opinion, some will have strong opinions but keep them to themselves and some will even like it and even maybe attracted to that aspect. Not much different than anyone else in the world. Some people are rude to obese people and less than beautiful or handsome people. Some people may not like someone just because they don't and some will say stupid shit and others will be respectful. some people are attracted to some others and some people are repulsed by some others. We are no different than cis people even in that context. But one bright expectation is that we are becoming more and more noticed and more and more people are empathetic to us or sympathetic. We still have a long way to go but we are getting there. I mean we have to date a little different and one of the questions if someone wants to get closer to me is, "Tell me everything you think you know about me and then ask me everything you want to know about me." But first I let them know my opinions of the LGBT community. If they think the same then I will hint. If they can't catch it then I ask the question. A lot actually pick up on it and directly ask and I tell them. If they like it fine if not then fine, it was nice to meet them anyway. I do not want to fool any potential dates. That can be dangerous but not as much as telling them up front. If it seems like they have an attitude then I will ask a bouncer to walk me out to my vehicle or taxi. But why come to a bar or club that is frequented by LGBTs if you aren't willing to take that chance of meeting one? I mean I'm sure some guys and some girls will visit these clubs hoping to find a threesome between themselves and two lipstick lesbians or themselves and two bisexual guys. But that is really fantasy land though and you can not live in a fantasy world because real life always comes back and kicks you in the ass. Like I said, I am a feminine Trans woman and I have a boyfriend that towers over me and twice my size so I feel really safe when we go out. How long my BF stays with me or I with him, I don't know. Real life happens. Right now it's good but it's in it's first stages. I do not use the bathroom in front of him or him me. I do not let myself go other than camping or so on where there are no showers and such. But the facial and chest hair has to go but the legs, underarms and arms can go a little bit. I hate it but he don't mind though. Cactus legs don't bother him but at home HELL NO. Everyday for me. Hell it may last a long time, maybe even forever. We'll have to see what life has in store for us. I am falling but have fallen before. It seems like he is falling too. But one thing that I adore is that he is allowing me at my pace to fall completely. He has already bought me some hellacious jewelry in the way of earrings, necklaces, bracelets and anklets. We go shopping and he pays for the clothes I like which he actually likes to see me in. In a year or so if he buys me a ring at the way its going I may even say OK. Sometimes it's best to walk away. I don't want some random homophobic or transphobic guy in my life a second longer than he has to be. I do need a much thicker skin though. Wanting to avoid confrontations like this has kept me from living my life as the non-passing trans woman I am. It's made me settle for slightly androgynous male as my public presentation, which isn't really who I am. It's really starting to bother me as much as pretending to be a man. I will never be a cis woman, barring reincarnation. I can walk out that door over there as en femme as I can possibly be, there's no one that's going to stop me except me, though I still stop me.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 21, 2016 21:18:14 GMT 8
That social comfort thing is a real driving force. But so is resentment at cis females being able to fully enjoy being themselves, even unconsciously, while we feel constrained.
My wife is complaining about my nails, which are long. I am really getting tired of interference by others with who I am.
Choices.
Feeling pretty nonbinary, they, getting my oil changed.
I feel like an androgyne who has a major physical and sexual full out she component.
Was just talking to a guy that was almost a caricature of a male. I enjoyed it, it doesnt threaten me so why not? I'll just enjoy the guy as who he is.
Im so glad i dont have to pretend to be a guy. I did sissors cross my legs guy style, my body language did shift, and i wasnt flashing my nails....
If he is so insecure that he is on stage guy, why provoke it with being overly sh'e around him? Lol he'd hold the door for me and be clueless if i was out sh'e and i'd like that.
I know i'm lucky to have "passing priveledge".
My heart goes out to those who dont. It must be hard.
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Post by Leena on Jul 21, 2016 22:50:12 GMT 8
Still feeling non passing trans woman today. I'm feeling OK with that though. I may still be genderfluid, but I feel like a trans woman most of the time. I don't know that I need to go full time, but I really want to be out as Veronica at least part time in real life.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 21, 2016 23:51:56 GMT 8
You have a really great attitude about it all.
Those I know that dont pass or are genderqueer wind up pretty strong and not caring about the passing part. They find a way to look great as themselves, find safe places to be she, and overcome much with positivity. Of the few i know.
The kids look really cool in their expressions. Exotic really.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2016 7:13:29 GMT 8
You know, this is really not that much of a consolation but there are a lot of cis women that have body and image issues. It's really kind of fucked up and seems to be a predisposition of the human mind. It just goes to show that we as women are as much women when it comes to body issues and not just gender dysphoria either, when it comes to specific gender thinking. I mean I go shopping in Ts or Tanks and shorts wearing flip flops and confuse a lot of people. Most are either respectful, really don't know because I do claim to have a twin brother running around and the ones that are idiots I refuse to let them fuck my life up. But damn, posing as a guy I have heard a lot of shit thrown at cis women about their looks or body shapes or hairstyles and choice of dressing. So maybe we are more female than some cis females even. Not genetically though but psychologically for sure. Don't believe me? just look at some sights that features the most beautiful goddesses in Hollywood without the miracle of makeup. I mean Cameron Diaz has some really messed up skin or used to anyway. I mean guys really got the long end of the stick on this one. They can be hairy, have scruffy beards, wash and go hair, clothes that don't have to match and boots or tennis shoes and the one day we ask them to dress up (for most girls that would be our wedding day) they seem so uncomfortable. We got the short end because our formal wear is a lot more comfortable than theirs. We just have to spend a few weeks dieting. But even in a formal dress I have a breeze blowing up there, not to mention I have no body hair which actually traps the sweat. My shoulders are usually bare or close to it when our poor men have to have a noose around their necks, hairy bodies which trap sweat, shoes and socks and long pants. Not to mention a freaking jacket either with a suit or tuxedo. So shaving everyday may seem like a bitch but there is a level and comfort to it especially during the summer. You can always add clothing to stay warm but you can only take off so much to get cool before you are charged for lewd conduct. But yeah Veronica, a thick skin is always a plus. I mean my god with all the beauty adds, tv shows and movies with beautiful actresses and so on out there and if you listen to them we should all be going to the supermarket dressed to kill. Full on makeup, hair fixed instead of a pony, high heels, short skirts and so on. But we don't all do that. I have heard women that I know referred to as frumpy, mousy, so so or OK and even a few times "no way". But when we all go out together and we are all dressed up then the total opposite occurs. When freckles and flaws that are covered up by makeup and brows that are accentuated and hair is done sexily and the clothes accentuate the contours then guys have a totally different opinion. Yes there is natural beauty but very few cis women actually can pull it off. We all have flaws, freckles, maybe a little too much "jiggle" (yes I am guilty of that too) but when the makeup is on and the high heels accentuate my legs and my short skirt shows the smoothness of my legs and the bra accentuates the female bumps and my hair is fixed just right, then it is a different world and different vibe. No I don't tell everyone I meet and if they can't figure it out and just want to buy me a drink then shame on them. I'll take free drinks, thank you. I have a boyfriend and contrary to popular belief, I am not a slut. Or not anymore anyway. But today is like every day. I feel like a freak of nature but still female though. I do believe my femininity is here to stay. I got and still am so tired of fighting it that it ain't even worth the effort to hide or fight it anymore. I mean my drivers come to my house to check in when they take time off and to just talk sometimes and see all my frilly girly shit. One even caught me in my full on nail polish, dress and in the act of putting on makeup. He told me good for me. They all know I have a boyfriend so some think that I am gay and I have 2 that are gay themselves and one so close to being a trans man that "he" even talked to me about it one day because he figured out I was trans too but the other way. I told him like I do everyone here to follow their own heart and screw everyone else. His girl friend drives with him on one of my reefer trucks. And she respectfully refers to me in female pronouns. We are always gonna' have body image issues though. this isn't a gay or straight thing or a cis or trans thing. Some people feel like they are too fat. Some people feel like they are too skinny, some people hate having curly hair some hate having straight hair. Some think they are ugly. Some think their dicks are too small, some think thier boobs are too small. We will always see the flaws and scars and a lot are internal. Actually most are internal. These flaws like an underbite or over bite or a mole on your face or being chunky or too skinny or with a big nose or a big chin or a high hairline or super low hairline and so on are imperfections. I tend to seem them as unique charateristics. Those theat do think they are "perfect" have one really big flaw... Their egos are bigger than their brains or capacity to love in most if not all casses. For instance, the perfect body style for me would be Milla Jevovich. I know her tits are virtually non existant and she is skinny as hell and her facial features would never launch a thousand ships to get her back from Greece. But hey, beuaty and perfection is in the eye of the beholder and as long as your mate and partner thinks you are beautiful, that is all that really matters. hell Bailey Jay has the perfect body and looks for most straight guys even and some women. She actually has a bigger thingy than I do. With a boob job, I could wear the same size bra. So Bailey is quite a few people's perception of perfection. We too are someone;s ideal mate. We just have to find them and they find us. It may not last for ever but it will be perfect as long as it does last. If it is less than perfection then it is not meant to be anyway. When my BF and I go out, I dress for him only. If his idea of beauty was something that I totally didn't care for, I would still do it for him. If he wanted me to go out as a guy then I would do that too. I wouldn't care for it and it would make me way more uncofortable as going out as a trans woman but I would still do it though. Thank God he likes me as a woman instead of a man. I just really can't do the man shit anymore. He actually asks me before we go out, " Hey Baby, is this OK to wear?" OMG. Guys cant match clothes worth a shit. I don't care and tell him perfect. I do not want others, especially other guys to think he is "henpecked" or "pussy whipped" even though his girlfriend has no vagina. So if you were an obese cis woman or an ugly cis woman or less than desirable cis woman, you would probably face the same ignorance. But we are trans and some people think that gives them a pass to say dumb hateful shit. It don't. Usually people that say dumb hateful shit are under the influence and you can always write down a tag number and call the cops for a suspected driver under the influence and since quite a few of my family members have and are still in law enforcement, they usually end up finding something. They may not blow a .08 or above on a breathalyser but an open container in the US is still against the law in all 50 states. You would never be contacted again because you are jsut a concerned citizen but he would go through a search and possibly a big fine or even jail time. But you have to decide what to do. A lot for me depends on how I feel about the person and situation. Sometimes and idiot needs to dance on razor wire. LOL most people where I live at that time of day has either had a couple or have open containers in their vehicles. OMG Driving a big truck I see all kinds of shit. I learned from Hunts Point NY to look into all vehicles passing you because that is a lot of commodity on a 48' or 53' reefer coming into the "hood". Yeah I have raced in the Hunts Point 2500 from Cally to the NYC over many a weekend. But one word of advice from an idiot that knows no better than giving stupid advice? Just be Veronica. You can only be you girl and the more you realize that and the more comfortable ytou become with that then the more confident you will become with who and what you are. You are a trans woman so be a proud trans woman and buy some bear spray or go and get your CCW permit or mve to an area that is trans friendly. The Log Cabin Republicans websight will show you the most LGBT states and our Republican Allies in the senate and house. I was surprised because Kelly Iota was one and Orrin Hatch is another. Check it out for yourself though. Yes my state sux but the city or NOLA don't though. That is where we spend our weekends. What happens at the French Quarter stays in the French Quarter. And OMFG!! I don't even want to talk about what happens in The St. Louis Cemetary. Been there and done that with this freak of a BF I am with now. But only in the parking lot because we have way more respect than that. He may be a freak but OMFG, I am thinking of asking the others im my little paranormal group to add him in with us. He may not be able to make the investigations because he has a "real job" or "jobs" but he can go through all the evidence and is willing to just to spend time with me. Ahhh. Truly though that makes my heart melt. Damn can any other guy be so perfect? He is scared of ghosts and the paranormal so I think I would shield him from the investigations in the dark even though he deals with death and the dead on a daily or weekly basis at least. Sometimes a monthly basis. Yeah we live in a small town but death is always waitin patiently. I could not do what he does and I don't think he could do what I do on paranorma investigations but I have no problem letting him see what he can catch through the IR cams, Flir cams, Digital voice recorders and so on. Maybe I am falling for this guy and falling hard. Someone willing to face their own fears for me and my love is kind of "storybook" love. Actually Saturday and Sunday nights we have an investigation and I think I may invite him to join in the darkness with me. Then I would kind of hold his sanity in my hands. So if he can trust me especially since this one particular place is supposedly a "hotspot" as much as I can trust him to protect me when we go out then maybe this is the guy for me. Test by Fire time. My answer to what he wants may depend on this. I hate giving tests but.... How the hell else you gonna' know if someone trusts you to protect them from what they fear the most. I fear the living idiots. Not dead disembodied spirits. Not even the so called demonic spirits or demons even. I am scared of idiots and I trust him to stick up for me. So if he trusts me as much as I trust him then. So it don't really matter what genetic gender but trust is the one key to making relationship. He works with women and he works with men and still tells me I am the "special one" he was always looking for. A female with a little bit more that he likes orally at least. Yeah he is top. I do not want a man LGBT or whatever else as bottlem. First off is that I can't perform. Second is my thing is pretty much non existant and the only thing that comes out is clear. He seems to like the oral though. OMFG I love the oral. My turn and his. He want to marry but isrespecting my negative views on marriage. After this weekend if he can trust me to keep him as safe in the darkness as I trust him to keep me safe under the sunlight, flourascent lights and neon lights and spot lights then I may even consider it. Dammit. I should have put all this personal shit in my blog so Jayce move it if need be. Biut today is like every other day. The female is overbearing and I surrender. I am a woman. I guess I will always be.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 22, 2016 10:05:53 GMT 8
Way into the female myself right now. Way way into sh'e. Even she.
It goes like that for me.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 22, 2016 11:57:43 GMT 8
Jamie you're a riot girl.
Love ya.
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Post by Leena on Jul 28, 2016 6:33:56 GMT 8
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Post by Jennifer (Tink) on Jul 28, 2016 7:25:22 GMT 8
Today I am feeling very female. After talking to one of my closest friends, she convinced me to start clothes shopping that would help bring out the feminine side of me. This would be the first time I have ventured into this area and am nervous but excited at the same time. This would be my first time letting myself present female and the opportunity feels refreshing. I just need to take it slow Now .... time to get my legs shaved.
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Post by EchelonHunt on Jul 28, 2016 8:04:24 GMT 8
A bit late to the discussion but don't feel too bad about not passing, Veronica. A cis-woman got thrown out of the Target bathrooms because someone thought she was a dude (I wonder how horribly embarassed that person was when they found they were incorrect in their absurd assumption based on appearance)
I feel more non-binary today as well. The past week, I was feeling distinctly male, was seriously thinking of going stealth after phallo and growing a beard. Tried the beard thing, only lasted a day until I looked in the mirror, couldn't recognise myself and I began to dissociate (moreso than usual) so I shaved it off.
Today, I have that longing to be visibly female, live my desired like a pastel goth person, to be my ideal body weight and have my body completed as male under the female clothing as it should have been.
I'm not sure if my goal of looking visibly outward female is going to be accomplished well. My young androgynous looks help me pass as female or young boy but when I speak, I get tagged as dude right away. I need to train my voice to be more soft and feminine. I noticed when I am relaxed, my voice comes out smoothly, gentle and it sounds like the "me" in my head when I think my thoughts. But when I'm nervous, I default to gruff, monotone male!
I still want to push the evelope at class, be more daring with my clothing choices. Its too cold to wear my womens shorts that make mah booty look good! I thought about wearing leggings under the shorts but I don't have any thick comfy leggings. I thought about getting boots just to switch things up. My current shoes are just about done, there is a hole somewhere because when I went to class the other day, it was raining and water soaked the bottom of my toes of my socks! I was like, "How?!" But it was fun walking around without one pair of sock/shoe while my sock and shoe dried off.
Anyway, I notice no matter which way my gender shifts, I feel the same regarding my body in that it HAS to be male in order for the dysphoria to be alleviated.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 28, 2016 10:06:33 GMT 8
Uncomfortably androgyne, we went shopping in Walmart in long island, it felt like a hostile environment and I wanted out.
Stared at by a guy, I just smiled and said hello, that works. Macho type, caught him trying to figure me out.
Asked about wig refreshener spray and got passive discrimination by the worker. With my volatility, I went my way, but was boiling. It doesn't take much.
Got triggered by the wife a couple times. Got triggered by a kid at work looking down his nose at me because I am gender nonconforming. You wanna base my value entirely on being a male androgyne and negate all the years of respect I earned in this business? Kids got a lot to learn. But at that age, they are f---d up usually anyway if they are on the male proving grounds.
Jayce, add air into your voice. My typical move, happens naturally with me if I am allowing sh'e to be dominate on the female side. You get a whisky voice that can be attractive. I can drive a man wild with it if I want to...
My definition of the androgyne is shifting after seeing andjey Pejec (spelling??). Similar sense of self there.
And there is this thing going on with me that its finally ok that I was born Perry. That little boy that it wasn't ok to be who they were.
I was never, ever meant for the binary male, and I am mentally so not a woman. I really am the stranger.
As to the op, I don't have time for an hour or two of dilating just so i can get the full sexual needs met. I am quite fine being me and living as the full out androgyne.
My perception of what that is, is changing. In a good way. The blending of self is completed, there is no longer any gendersplit at all.
That is HUGE for me.
Jennifer you are right on target IMO. Welcome once again to the forum.
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Post by Trinity on Jul 28, 2016 10:15:44 GMT 8
Feeling more non-binary today. I have some masculinity in me, it's not just physical, though I am not a man. I wish I didn't flip all the way to binary MtF like I sometimes do. It would be one thing if I stayed there, but I never do, though when I'm there I still think I will. When I go out as sh'e it is an immersive experience and I don't want to stop being sh'e. Its not practical for me to live like that though. And then I wonder if I am full out transsexual mtf. But when I am fully functioning as an androgyne, I feel very comfortable too. And I realize its very much who I am. Both experiences are total and real. Its hard to explain it. In each case i'm fully myself, but my social perception of myself is different, and I am really enjoying the femininity that i hide under the outer garments for work. Just as a woman would. But I am not a woman. Nonbinary is wild stuff, isn't it.
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