Entering non binary publicly

[Trinity]

You Go Girl!



Good for you dear. Love to hear this.

[Shan]

Mar 16, 2016 2:05:23 GMT 8 @cherie said:

So, as of today, I have permission from my wife to enter bigender fully. I can start to buy outfits, make up, a hand bag, etc. with the blessing of my wife. This may very well be the best day of my life.

Congratulations to you Cherie! 

[Shan]

Mar 16, 2016 2:05:23 GMT 8 @cherie said:

So, as of today, I have permission from my wife to enter bigender fully. I can start to buy outfits, make up, a hand bag, etc. with the blessing of my wife. This may very well be the best day of my life.

You might be surprised and find that your wife will enjoy shopping for girly things together. My spouse has gone with me and found that it was fun for her and she enjoyed giving me her smart advice about things I was not too sure of.

[FaerieKim]

Mar 16, 2016 2:05:23 GMT 8 @cherie said:

So, as of today, I have permission from my wife to enter bigender fully. I can start to buy outfits, make up, a hand bag, etc. with the blessing of my wife. This may very well be the best day of my life.

That's great. So happy for you.





You're lucky your wife is so accepting. Mine wasn't able to be until after we separated. It's like she needed me to be a man while we were together but now that we're apart she can be supportive of my transgender needs. Still, I count my blessings too. I'm lucky we're still really good friends even though we're no longer together. Not everyone has that either.



It's a great feeling when you can first start to express yourself femininely. Takes a while to get it right. But it's exciting trying stuff on for the first time. Have fun with it 

[Shan]

Mar 16, 2016 5:25:17 GMT 8 FaerieKim said:

You're lucky your wife is so accepting. Mine wasn't able to be until after we separated. It's like she needed me to be a man while we were together but now that we're apart she can be supportive of my transgender needs. Still, I count my blessings too. I'm lucky we're still really good friends even though we're no longer together. Not everyone has that either.



It's a great feeling when you can first start to express yourself femininely. Takes a while to get it right. But it's exciting trying stuff on for the first time. Have fun with it 

Remaining good friends following separation or divorce is a great blessing. It's always good when partners still care for one another even if they don't care to continue to live together. I'm always sad to see hateful, angry break-ups.

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Mar 16, 2016 5:25:17 GMT 8 FaerieKim said:

Mar 16, 2016 2:05:23 GMT 8 @cherie said:

So, as of today, I have permission from my wife to enter bigender fully. I can start to buy outfits, make up, a hand bag, etc. with the blessing of my wife. This may very well be the best day of my life.

That's great. So happy for you.





You're lucky your wife is so accepting. Mine wasn't able to be until after we separated. It's like she needed me to be a man while we were together but now that we're apart she can be supportive of my transgender needs. Still, I count my blessings too. I'm lucky we're still really good friends even though we're no longer together. Not everyone has that either.



It's a great feeling when you can first start to express yourself femininely. Takes a while to get it right. But it's exciting trying stuff on for the first time. Have fun with it 

Thanks.  It has been a long hard path to get here.  Communication has been key.

[Valerie]

OMG I ACTUALLY JUST BOUGHT MY FIRST HEELED BOOTS TODAY!!! Like legit, i don't know what came over me, but i think I was just like so feeling confident in myself, and who I was after my counseling session, and i went to mall, and i was at shoe store, and went looking right away for heeled boots, and there was none i liked at payless, but there was an adorable heeled shoe i would have loved, but none in bigger sizes!! And I couldn't ask an associate if they had a bigger size because i didn't know what my size was in women, and i didn't wanna like actually call attention to myself either.

But whatever, so i stopped at this other store, and I saw a pair of heeled boots in a size 12! And I was like YAAAASSSS (internally. not out loud) ANd i tried them on, and they fit with some room still in front, and i just instantly bought them. AND THE BEST PART THEY WERE ON SALE! I JUST PAID $20!! MY FIRST PAIR OF SHOES AT $20!! FUCK YEAH, GO ME GETTING DEALS!

And i'm sooo excited, and happy with my purchase!! I'm actually currently wearing them!! They're soo great. Just only problem is me trying to get use to walking in them. It's hard! But I actually walked from my house to the cafe in them. Like this is first time I've actually gone out in more than just makeup. Usually i just brave enough to go out in makeup, but today i'm breaking in my beautiful black heeled boots!!! :3 And I couldn't be happier. I just feel so validated in them!!!

[Shan]

Hahahaha love it Valerie, you are really such a fun kid, consider yourself hugged big time! ((((Hugs))))

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And this weekend I bought myself my first outfit. A nice autumn dress (blue paisley), scarf, makeup, lipstick, new red nail polish and underwear. I now have my first complete outfit.

[Valerie]

Mar 21, 2016 3:43:15 GMT 8 @cherie said:

And this weekend I bought myself my first outfit. A nice autumn dress (blue paisley), scarf, makeup, lipstick, new red nail polish and underwear. I now have my first complete outfit.

Ahhhh omg that's like sooo super exciting :3 congratulations omg it sounds sooo cutes

[Trinity]

Mar 21, 2016 3:43:15 GMT 8 @cherie said:

And this weekend I bought myself my first outfit. A nice autumn dress (blue paisley), scarf, makeup, lipstick, new red nail polish and underwear. I now have my first complete outfit.

That is a big deal honey....

I only have a few outfits.

I am sitting in my living room with my wife and wearing one now....no wig on...70s style skirt and blouse, real pretty, hand on her knee and caressing her back...kitty slippers...

I like clear polish for some reason.

That something to look forward to for you.

Huge deal for you.  Smiling here...

Yeah thats a big deal.... how did you feel shopping?  Took a long time for me to get comfy with that one, still have trouble in the lingerie section...

This is so cool...

[Shan]

Mar 21, 2016 3:50:31 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Mar 21, 2016 3:43:15 GMT 8 @cherie said:

And this weekend I bought myself my first outfit. A nice autumn dress (blue paisley), scarf, makeup, lipstick, new red nail polish and underwear. I now have my first complete outfit.

Ahhhh omg that's like sooo super exciting :3 congratulations omg it sounds sooo cutes

Yes it seems that she's got good taste style!

[Deleted]

It does actually feel a big deal. It is the realization of years of fantasizing, years of counseling, many hours of deep, hard discussion, and many hours lying awake at 2 in the morning. I can finally dress and appear in resonance with how I feel inside, when I need to. I no longer feel shame, or self loathing. I can be me, both spirits.

It was quite hard to do, I was fairly anxious as I entered the store, but after a while I calmed down, and really started to enjoy myself. And once I was enjoying myself, no-one noticed me at all. It was bliss. ????

[Valerie]

Mar 22, 2016 2:17:18 GMT 8 @cherie said:

It does actually feel a big deal. It is the realization of years of fantasizing, years of counseling, many hours of deep, hard discussion, and many hours lying awake at 2 in the morning. I can finally dress and appear in resonance with how I feel inside, when I need to. I no longer feel shame, or self loathing. I can be me, both spirits.

It was quite hard to do, I was fairly anxious as I entered the store, but after a while I calmed down, and really started to enjoy myself. And once I was enjoying myself, no-one noticed me at all. It was bliss. ????

Congratulations, Hun!!!! That's so super exciting!!! I'm so glad to hear that you were able to enjoy being more of yourself! Rock on!!

[Shan]

Mar 22, 2016 2:17:18 GMT 8 @cherie said:

It does actually feel a big deal. It is the realization of years of fantasizing, years of counseling, many hours of deep, hard discussion, and many hours lying awake at 2 in the morning. I can finally dress and appear in resonance with how I feel inside, when I need to. I no longer feel shame, or self loathing. I can be me, both spirits.

It was quite hard to do, I was fairly anxious as I entered the store, but after a while I calmed down, and really started to enjoy myself. And once I was enjoying myself, no-one noticed me at all. It was bliss. ????

Once you find yourself confidence all the dark clouds blow away.