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Post by LivingTheDream on Dec 2, 2014 8:53:00 GMT 8
So we don't really have a rant place yet for things that suck bout transition so figured I would make one.
I'm still mostly a noob and all in this process so my rant may change in time but for now here it is:
I hate my voice. It's so manish and god just icky...hearing it recorded and played back just makes me cringe. I've just always hated it...I also hate the fact that I have to work on it, that I have to change it, that it just can't naturally sound feminine. The fact that I have to alter my voice physically and mentally makes me feel fake and I hate that too. It makes me not wanna do it, not wanna practice, and definitely causes me to avoid using it in front of others. I guess feeling like it is hopeless, that it will never sound good no matter what, doesn't help much though, eh?
Laser sucks but is bearable. Getting my hrt letter was super stressful and took way too long, had way to many delays that I was about to go diy, having the "talk" with whom I have told was uncomfortable but so far has been all good (*knock on wood*), but by far my #1 most hated thing atm is voice. (could change latter when part or full time).
So, whats your #1 thing you hate about transition (now or in the past)? What's your biggest challenge to overcome?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2014 9:52:51 GMT 8
Voice for me, too. I keep putting off working on it because it seems like such a monumental task. So maybe what I'm about to say is hypocritical, but don't feel like it's hopeless, sis. Yes, from what I've heard, it takes a ton of work and the changes are slow, but then when you finally get it where you want and become used to using your vocal chords that way, I've heard it feels as natural as talking in your masculine voice does now. Challenges always seem insurmountable in the beginning. Then we look back and wonder why we ever believed we couldn't.
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Post by EchelonHunt on Dec 2, 2014 10:14:33 GMT 8
I love that quote, Stephanie!
Voice is a biggie for me too. I AM LAZY. Plus I am self conscious of practsing my voice when my parents are home so I practise to my cats. I naturally speak in a higher pitch when talking to them anyway!
Laser hair removal... I sent an email to a local one a few days ago and haven't gotten a response back so feeling a little disheartened as they are the only local place I know of that does galvanic electrolysis. Its an hour by public transport but there's another place that is only 15 minutes away I might ask what type of electrolysis they do. Aghh!
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Post by DCW on Dec 2, 2014 11:04:21 GMT 8
When it clicks, it's fantastic.
I went through a program at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro that was great and I wish it was still offered (it was the victim of a round of funding cuts a year or two ago.) It really helped my confidence.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 3:33:23 GMT 8
I gave up trying to modify my own voice and finally decided that it just wasn't the real me that everyone was used to, besides I'm lazy too! I have to give the gals credit who have gone to Yeson in Soul and had their voice boxes worked over by Dr. Kim. they are wholly dedicated and determined to pass come hell or high water. As for me, it's not important.
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Post by bhhfmm on Dec 3, 2014 3:41:29 GMT 8
I know my biggest challenge is still how I see myself and the self loathing I have most of the time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 5:50:07 GMT 8
I know my biggest challenge is still how I see myself and the self loathing I have most of the time. One of my biggest challenges his helping you to see yourself as I do sweetie, there's nothing to loathe there kiddo!
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Post by bhhfmm on Dec 3, 2014 5:58:13 GMT 8
I know my biggest challenge is still how I see myself and the self loathing I have most of the time. One of my biggest challenges his helping you to see yourself as I do sweetie, there's nothing to loathe there kiddo! You might change your tune if you had to spend as much time with me as I do! lol
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Post by Taka on Dec 3, 2014 5:59:43 GMT 8
I know my biggest challenge is still how I see myself and the self loathing I have most of the time. but, but... why, when you look so sweet..? one thing that sucks is that it's so hard to make the girls believe me when i say they're beautiful and cute and sweet as stevia. the world is full of amazing people, and i appreciate them all.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 6:04:40 GMT 8
One of my biggest challenges his helping you to see yourself as I do sweetie, there's nothing to loathe there kiddo! You might change your tune if you had to spend as much time with me as I do! lol I rather doubt that!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 6:09:21 GMT 8
I know my biggest challenge is still how I see myself and the self loathing I have most of the time. but, but... why, when you look so sweet..? one thing that sucks is that it's so hard to make the girls believe me when i say they're beautiful and cute and sweet as stevia. the world is full of amazing people, and i appreciate them all. Me too! She's the most self deprecating person I know and there is absolutely no good reason for it and I find it frustrating although others here do it too on a sliding scale. Reminds me of those religious zealots that beat themselves with chains and cut themselves so that they can practice being humble. Pffffffffft
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Post by Taka on Dec 3, 2014 16:02:46 GMT 8
but, but... why, when you look so sweet..? one thing that sucks is that it's so hard to make the girls believe me when i say they're beautiful and cute and sweet as stevia. the world is full of amazing people, and i appreciate them all. Me too! She's the most self deprecating person I know and there is absolutely no good reason for it and I find it frustrating although others here do it too on a sliding scale. Reminds me of those religious zealots that beat themselves with chains and cut themselves so that they can practice being humble. Pffffffffft that's a really good way of practicing self-righteousness. i never heard that this makes anyone more humble. i'm not humble at all, except for when i've made a mistake, or i don't know what or how or why. step on me, and i'll be as humble as a bumblebee.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2014 18:42:58 GMT 8
Jaime, I don't know what about you is making you feel so down, but you look great, your voice sounds great, and I like your personality.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2014 23:25:31 GMT 8
Jaime, I don't know what about you is making you feel so down, but you look great, your voice sounds great, and I like your personality. Yes, she's a sweetheart and Jamie D and I both love her going way back and she knows it.
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Post by Laura J on Dec 4, 2014 23:36:03 GMT 8
It sucks that sometimes there are no magic words, no phylosiphers poetic rhyme, that will really help ease the pain of our loved ones when they are in need.. As hard as we try to make it so..
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