Life update!!!

[charley83]

Hello all my amazing friends. I have been so busy the last few months. Times has flown by so fast. It's been a while since I was on but I have good news.
The husband (otherwise known as dick) has been in jail for 2 months and has another 2 months to go. Well unless they finally get around to filing theft charges on him from another county. Surprise surprise he's clean and sober at this point but I WON'T be going back to him. I should be able to file for the divorce in March (fingers crossed). I am currently working from home during the week and also working at a local restaurant 3 days a week. Most my money has gone to Christmas and fixing my car that was down for 2 months. My roommates were amazing and let me use their cars whenever I needed to.
Even though it's basically been about a years since me and dick seperated I hadn't allowed him to touch me for over a year prior to that. I thought I had issues with with anyone touching me and being intimate with me. Well I am happy to say that was just my issues with him and people I can not trust. Someone from my past has come back into my life. Sadly he has the same name as Dick so it's been fun so I just call him Boss. We have known each other since we were teens and dated as very young adults. He is slightly younger than me so I foolishly let him go but remained good friends. He got married 14 years ago and his wife did everything to keep us from eachother. I stepped back and gave them space. Well 14 years later they are finalizing their divorce because she cheated multiple times and put him in debt. We have been talking and "dating" for a few months and things are going great. Its like we were never seperated at all. He understands what I've gone through and is being patient with me. Oh and the plus side, he is accepts me being both feminine and masculine. He identifies as Bi. We are both taking to a woman I met. I've always been interested in polyamory as long as it was with people I trust and so far things are going good. I am finally getting to explore things that I have been forced to keep hidden for the past 13 years.
I feel like this is a step in the right direction. I am finally standing on my own two feet and heading in the right direction.

[Trinity]

Major hugs

You were in such a desperate shape when you came here, I am so glad you are happy and whereever your path leads we care about you here.

You are a seriously courageous human.

[Ativan Prescribed]

Nov 28, 2021 2:14:36 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Major hugs
You are a seriously courageous human.

You are one of the people who are smart enough and courageous enough to keep stepping forward on your path.
This is what the forum is about among other things, but stressing to keep moving forward is everything.
You can do it and are an Impressive example of what shear will is.
Majorly happy at the good news...

[charley83]

Anyone else having issues getting notifications from here?

Thank you my awesome friends for all the love and support through everything. I don't know what I would have done without you.

I am smiling, a real smile for the first time in years. I felt like my genders were at war constantly and it confused me so much. I always knew I wasn't fully female but not male either. My masculine side was always fighting to get through when I was with the ex. Now that I am free to be either or and not be judge for it, it's freeing and no longer stressful to wake up and try to suppress a part of me that needs to come out.
Lately I have been more feminine. She is very happy and wants to show that off. Make-up has now become part of our routine. My masculine side just accepts this.

For the first time in over 10 years I completely feel like I can be who I really am. So many people have seen the difference and commented on it. My jeans have come out of hiding and my cowboy boots have become a standard when I'm not working. God, I love being me and feeling this euphoric feeling when I get ready every day. A part of that I attribute to the fact I have rekindled a relationship that was perfect before and is just as good now. Who knew being part of a triad was what I needed.
He is amazing and accepts both sides of me and even embraces my masculine side. My girlfriend is perfect. She loves the different sides of me and is always eagar to see who will emerge each day. From now on I will refer to them as Boss and Jo.

I feel like I could go on forever, that's how happy I am now.

Oh and I'm working with a probono lawyer to get my divorce filed. Ok I gotta go and get kids to school.

[Trinity]

Unbelievable change, so happy you are doing so much better

[Ativan Prescribed]

Yah the notifications are lacking half the time, it can take hours for it to catch up and sometimes isn't there at all.
Good to see a smiling picture!

[charley83]

Wow I can't believe it's been since the beginning of December since I posted. It's been a very busy few months. I am working 40 hours a week and have become shift leader at my store. I am working on a 10 day stretch with no days off. I'm basically throwing myself into work to get over a nasty breakup.
Long story short, he was basically cheating on his wife with me in the beginning and they split officially 2 weeks later. Then on Christmas he cheated on me with her. Then a little over a week ago she calls him while he was here threatening to kill herself because she just can't deal with seeing us together. Even though she even admitted that she told him to contact me. So he went running back to her and then informs me that they are trying again. So all he'll broke loose and my inner bitch/asshole came out and since then I have been a very opinionated insufferable person. I did have a very adult conversation with both of them and tell them both i don't want them to contact me in the future unless it involves someone in his family that needs me for anything.
I was trying to grow out my undercut but that got cut again that night. My exusband is being released from jail middle of next month and the divorce proceedings will start soon after. Hoping for a peaceful dissolution but he's already fighting about paying child support and wanting shared parenting. Nope sorry ain't happening. I currently am gaining all my old friends back. I have my best friend Chris back after 6 years and it's amazing. He's the ex husband's cousin but we were friends first. Oh and I was able to file taxes as single because we have lived separately all year and found out he was getting half of my child tax credits so I am getting $10,000 back. No one in my life knows how much I'm getting though. I'm keeping that to myself. I'm putting most in savings and I'm working on getting refresher classes done to get back into nursing.

Charley is back!!! They are not letting anyone tell them what they can and can't do!

[Trinity]

Good to hear from you

Best of luck with all that, sounds like you have your hands full but it also sounds like you are rebuilding your life and that will be a good thing.

You needed a break, and some stability.

All the best

[Ativan Prescribed]

Sounds like things are up and down but its always going to be like that, it is for everyone, the people who say it isn't are lying, everyone hides a lot of lifes shit.
But sounds good, things still moving forward and upward and thats doing better than half the people.
Slam dunk the ex husband, you certainly don't need his fuckedupness affecting your life or the kids, he's going to have enough problems just staying out of jail again, getting out doesn't mean all is forgotten, he's a watched person of interest for everything that happens in Ohio now.
The path might become narrow like a razors edge but you will survive, it's all about balancing it all.