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Post by Trinity on Oct 13, 2021 3:53:33 GMT 8
So Leena is being pressured to detransition, Hana is having challenges and big decisions, and I am being pushed hard to detransition, which I think is very wrong, and to leave the board, which I don''t agree with either, you are my friends.
There's different ways of dealing with it all, I prefer to deal with it in Christ, standing on truth but also being sensitive to their needs, the biggest thing being that they never signed up for me being nb, I thought I could fight it and should fight it and eventually I caved and they still feel betrayed about that.
I was wondering what choices worked best for you and your loved ones.
I try to compromise but there are boundaries.
No I am not detransitioning. But I'll take a fresh look at my own boundaries and needs and theirs too and see where they meet up, and I want an answer on the spiritual side of what this all is as well. That specifically only I can answer based on my personal faith.
I hope everyones paths are the gentlest possible and the right ones for them and their loved ones.
My greatest fear has always been to lead someone into a place where they self decieve, or do something spiritually very bad for them, or cause choices to be made that harm them or others. it is the biggest reason I have become scared to post much any more, I just have seen so much collateral damage over the years, and it horrifies me. Its in my own family.
Love to all here.
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Post by Leena on Oct 13, 2021 6:07:30 GMT 8
I'm not going to detransition either, and it bothers me when cis people make it all about them. It isn't even hard to just accept loved ones being nonbinary/trans, quite a lot of other people's loved ones do.
It's not like there is another treatment for dysphoria, even if some think there is. I also thought I could fight it, and while I was able to for a long time, dysphoria seems to get stronger over time. I can't imagine going back to that.
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Post by Trinity on Oct 13, 2021 6:43:50 GMT 8
I'm not going to detransition either, and it bothers me when cis people make it all about them. It isn't even hard to just accept loved ones being nonbinary/trans, quite a lot of other people's loved ones do. It's not like there is another treatment for dysphoria, even if some think there is. I also thought I could fight it, and while I was able to for a long time, dysphoria seems to get stronger over time. I can't imagine going back to that. Neither can I. I cannot go back to hating the face in the mirror again, ever. They don't and maybe can't understand how painful dysphoria is.
Even though I can fly the matrix any way I want, there's certain things I can't stand and they happen to be male kinds of thing, matrixy male sure, but also on the physical side, it causes real pain for me.
Hugs
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Oct 13, 2021 10:30:25 GMT 8
I'm not going to detransition either, and it bothers me when cis people make it all about them. It isn't even hard to just accept loved ones being nonbinary/trans, quite a lot of other people's loved ones do. It's not like there is another treatment for dysphoria, even if some think there is. I also thought I could fight it, and while I was able to for a long time, dysphoria seems to get stronger over time. I can't imagine going back to that. And thats the thing, they make it about them, as if you betrayed them when all of it is selfishness on their part, if they love you they should support you and not be trying to talk you into being what you are not. It is the core of bigotry in itself, if you had been born with different skin color would they do this? No, because they would say it was how you were born. Their problems are that you came out to them and they are trying to find excuses and not understanding, it is a very selfish thing to do, it isn't even as if you were in an accident and disabled, and they are trying to make you whole. They might think to themselves that it is only good intentions on their part, and don't listen to the pain they are causing. They have to know up front and first that you have always been you and that you haven't changed, you might look different, but the core you has always been who you are, just as they have always been who they are, if that's true anyways. Myself I would be tempted to ask them when they made the choice to be bigoted or ask if they have always been bigots, if being a bigot is more important to them than love.
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Post by Trinity on Oct 13, 2021 10:31:48 GMT 8
It's back to normal here with me with my wife
Just greatful for it.
In bed, nightwear on as normal, dysphoria at bay, being Trinity, being me.
Love you all.
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Post by Trinity on Oct 13, 2021 10:34:44 GMT 8
The determined ignorance or deliberate refusal to listen to the medical side of it is baffling.
But I think some of that could be changing now.
I hope so.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Oct 14, 2021 9:23:30 GMT 8
It is changing, more and more people are coming out and most of them are NB, its a lot more than came out as trans and its only been in the last couple years, but I don't know if the pandemic caused this or not, but this year has had a lot more people coming out than ever before. And it just drives the republicans crazy, because being republicans they can't come out even though you just know the percentages would be about the same. The only pushback as a group is that group of trump flag waving confederate flag waving, don't tread on me flag waving self proclaimed patriots yelling at clouds and screaming at kids to stay off their lawn and waving guns around in their fake military camo garb that makes them look like a parody more than anything, the meet for important meetings at Denny's crowd, the group that thanks god for waffle and pancake houses and bar stools that swivel so they can watch both big screen TVs while arguing with the others just like themselves in bars that only they would go to.
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Post by Becky on Oct 16, 2021 2:17:22 GMT 8
I find it nearly impossible to explain what things are like for me to cisgender people, including my wife. She doesn't understand my pain or my needs, and that makes me so sad. But she loves me, and we help each other as a family in other ways.
I've chosen the current status quo to keep my family together. I'm fully out as non-binary, and I've adopted an androgynous gender expression. I'm shutting out my desire for an orchiectomy and HRT. Nothing in life is ever perfect. We try to find the best possible reality, and this may be mine.
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