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Post by Trinity on Mar 9, 2021 10:31:39 GMT 8
Do you believe that gender dysphoria is "progressive" - that it gets worse as time passes?
I launched this thread 8 years ago somewhere else and it got really bad as a result of the binary responses and the standard trans narrative.
So, here it is a long time later, and the question remains valid to ask again, although I have my own answers for it. YMMV.
As to myself, it was true in my 50's, but what was said and said by many was not true for me. It was not an inevitable path to binary transition, once I hit my nonbinary sweet spot, I have been doing great.
An interesting question though. I think that over time, supressing who we are just wears thinner and thinner until we explode and become who we really are, and once we hit that, equilibrium sets in after time and it settles down into some kind of normal for us.
The fear generated by the "inevitable progression" doctrine is likely one of the things that kills a lot of us.
It's an interesting question. It may have different answers depending on if we are binary or nonbinary trans.
And then there's that boomerang effect, when we go too far to one direction, and over time, realize it wasn't what we thought and settle somewhere else. Some even having regrets, we've seen that here too, but only one or two folk and they came here because any other forum would eat them alive for it.
Thoughts?
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Mar 9, 2021 11:09:44 GMT 8
There is no inevitable, just isn't. While aa lot of can't have so want it even more plays into it a lot, once you have what you thought you wanted will likely bounce back to equilibrium, and there goes that inevitable idea right there. There is such a thing as buyers remorse, but then how would you know if you don't try, so by making do with whatever works for the time is probably going to be enough, give or take. Most all of dysphoria is taken up with the idea that presentation is very key to yourself and how you feel, and it can be a strong motivator for many, but it isn't a cure to just look like this or that. The real proof is in knowing yourself and sticking to your own feelings and not letting society push you one way or the other, its really in understanding yourself and how you feel than in looking or acting in certain ways. Consideration for the fact that you have always been and even if that is just coming to the surface, you haven't changed, you are on a path of discovery about yourself. It's fine to try things and try a lot of things, its how you discover what works for you and what doesn't. But a lot of initial dysphoria can be just finding the right things for yourself, don't keep buying dresses if buying another one isn't doing it for you, it isn't magic, try new things for yourself, really discover what lies under that mountain of shit shit that society pushes on people. It might be just as simple as stopping the pile from getting bigger or just sidestepping it as best you can, its about know yourself more than anything else. And because life just is never this stagnant pool of stable sameness, it is always going to be changing, and you should too, what worked for dysphoria today might not tomorrow and what you don't think will work can just as easily work tomorrow. Life is a journey, the destination is death, its a never ending path of discovery and what you discover about yourself today is going to be different than tomorrow and never count something as this is the answer, the questions need to be refreshed and so do the answers. While dysphoria is a big deal, it is not the end all of things, taking care of it today is no guarantee that the next day something else is going to change, the point is, be open to your self and be always willing to change as you need to, not just want to. The negatives are usually not as negative as you assume them to be, look carefully and see that they are just you figuring yourself out and that is a never ending process.
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Post by Leena on Mar 9, 2021 12:11:37 GMT 8
Mine did before I started HRT, though a big part of that was the effects of T seeming to accelerate as I got older. It was relatively low when I was a young adult that was slightly androgynous.
I can't say there isn't some progression now compared to even a year ago though. Some things that didn't use to bother me before kind of do now, but I'm not really afraid of binary transition. I perhaps was earlier on, but transition related things aren't inherently binary or nonbinary, though they are a series of answers to mostly yes or no questions. Some nonbinary and binary trans people have done most if not all combinations of those answers.
I'm not sure there even is a clear line dividing nonbinary and binary trans, though outside influences use these divisions to further divide us. They also make it hard for those of us that have a sweet spot is near that line.
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