Feminine and masculine sides

[nyx]

Feb 15, 2021 23:43:30 GMT 8 Droomvlucht said:

I mean, I understand what they're saying and I understand what you say, but I don't really identify as either, is that even a possiblity in your book? 

Yes, it is a possibility in the book. They start with man and woman and then go into detail about other possibilities. The sentence about what it takes to be a man or a woman, I think goes for all kinds of gender. I liked how simple it was put, that's all.

[Leena]

Feb 15, 2021 12:27:34 GMT 8 kalima said:

Reactivating this thread. I get confused when I consider my masculine side and my feminine side. I have a male side and a female side. My male side has feminine and masculine qualities and my female side has masculine and feminine qualities, just like a cisgendered female could have a strong masculine side and a cisgendered male could have a strong feminine side. Female and male are much more complex and nuanced than feminine and masculine and work better for me when considering my inner experience.

For a very long time I did see myself as having a feminine and a masculine side, but that is so intertwined with the guy my family and society in general wanted me to be, and the woman I felt ashamed to be.

That said, even though I am basically living as that woman now, I'm still going to be kind of masculine. I didn't really want to transition back when you were expected to be like some 50s ideal of femininity that many cis women rejected long ago. I never really got along too well with those that didn't, or men that wanted women to be like that.

[Trinity]

There's times where I can lose clarity, and get pulled into the binary. It happens pretty quick and it is pretty immersive, but there is always that consciousness of the nonbinary as well.

I mean, I have dysphoria, fairly severe, and its mostly a physical thing although it goes beyond that.

Yet I am aware that at the core I am nonbinary trans.

It's not the same as binary trans, or the whole woman trapped in a mans body thing. Wrong narrative there.

But the dysphoria is real and it can bite and bite hard.

So for me, I need to live as I need to live, transition as I did transition, and just be myself.

There are a million ways to be nonbinary. And transition is not needed at all to be nonbinary.

Not all that simple, but being who you are, and living it out and doing that with some measure of comfort, that to me is what this is all about. Finding peace and being ourselves.

Sh'e is very strong tonight....but I didn't say she. I said sh'e.

And that's the whole thing right there.

I need a night out stealth sh'e, going to a restaurant with a trans friend or something, or to the theater. Its been a long time.

But covid.... so Leena I get it....not easy to take it out and drive it when we are stuck in the garage.