Coming out on Facebook

[abbynormal1929]

Hi everyone,

So just yesterday I came out on Facebook as non binary.  Many of my facebook friends already knew, but some didn't, including work friends, and some family members.  I'm kinda anxious about how some of them may respond in person.  My wife that I'm recently separated from (but still are friends, living together, with 2 kids) kinda encouraged me to.  She recently came out as bisexual on Facebook, and she was kind of encouraging me to.  I wanted to do it in a witty way, that kinda fit my personality.  Here's what I said


Hello Everyone. A lot of people know this about me already, but there's something I need to say. This Gender-non Binary individual is... A Progressive Rock fan. Some people may look at me and say: "Why do THEY like progressive rock? progressive rock is for nerds." Others may Say: Why aren't THEY using THEIR skill to rip it up in a progressive rock band? What's wrong with THEM? But I am proud to say I'm a Gender Non-Binary Singer-Songwriter, who is a Progressive Rock fan. But Seriously: Gender Non-Binary: They/Them/Their


Afterwards I got kinda anxious that some of my lgbt friends would see it as making light of, or kidding around about something that is very serious and difficult for a lot of people.  I guess I'm asking if people think it was an appropriate way to come out, and what to do about anxiety, or possible rejection.  I know some of my co-workers aren't exactly lgbt friendly, but I'm more anxious about ones that I'm closer to that haven't really expressed a view on lgbt issues yet.

I don't know, what do y'all think?

Jeff/Abby

[Ativan Prescribed]

Some people are just to serious for their own good, as can be said for many progressive rock song writers in fact.
I'm serious about that as well as NB seriousness, you just can't take anything so seriously that it stifles yourself.
I could say something about trump supporters here, but who takes them seriously anyways?

[Trinity]

May 24, 2020 1:03:26 GMT 8 abbynormal1929 said:

Hi everyone,

So just yesterday I came out on Facebook as non binary.  Many of my facebook friends already knew, but some didn't, including work friends, and some family members.  I'm kinda anxious about how some of them may respond in person.  My wife that I'm recently separated from (but still are friends, living together, with 2 kids) kinda encouraged me to.  She recently came out as bisexual on Facebook, and she was kind of encouraging me to.  I wanted to do it in a witty way, that kinda fit my personality.  Here's what I said


Hello Everyone. A lot of people know this about me already, but there's something I need to say. This Gender-non Binary individual is... A Progressive Rock fan. Some people may look at me and say: "Why do THEY like progressive rock? progressive rock is for nerds." Others may Say: Why aren't THEY using THEIR skill to rip it up in a progressive rock band? What's wrong with THEM? But I am proud to say I'm a Gender Non-Binary Singer-Songwriter, who is a Progressive Rock fan. But Seriously: Gender Non-Binary: They/Them/Their


Afterwards I got kinda anxious that some of my lgbt friends would see it as making light of, or kidding around about something that is very serious and difficult for a lot of people.  I guess I'm asking if people think it was an appropriate way to come out, and what to do about anxiety, or possible rejection.  I know some of my co-workers aren't exactly lgbt friendly, but I'm more anxious about ones that I'm closer to that haven't really expressed a view on lgbt issues yet.

I don't know, what do y'all think?

Jeff/Abby

Complicated personal choice.  My facebook is under one of my stage names, the trans one, all the way sh'e.  And I am very vocal.

On my professional web page, its both stage names, the nonbinary/cis name and the trans one, and I make no bones about it all, but the branding is subtly different.

I have no family on my facebook pages, only professional friends and activists and a few folk from here.

If its on the pro level, its a lot of decision making, but its like this with me.  I am an artist who happens to be nonbinary trans.  I am not a nonbinary trans who happens to be an artist.  There is a difference.

Nobody in my family gets to see my facebook stuff.  That part of my life is my own, and I share it with other artists and trans people, its not for them.

I reveal my gender to family selectively and verbally.

But its all totally personal, and there is nothing wrong with doing it the way you have.  Everyone is different and your choices are your own, I just hope it turns out well for you.

Trin.

[Becky]

I love the creativity of your post - congratulations on coming out!

My Facebook account has my assigned-at-birth name, but it lists me as non-binary and uses they/them pronouns for me. Anyone who digs would realize I'm N.B., but I haven't formally come out yet. It's almost like I'm in the closet, but keep pushing the door a bit further open.

You are so brave!
<3

[veganicecream]

May 24, 2020 1:03:26 GMT 8 abbynormal1929 said:

Hi everyone,

So just yesterday I came out on Facebook as non binary.  Many of my facebook friends already knew, but some didn't, including work friends, and some family members.  I'm kinda anxious about how some of them may respond in person.  My wife that I'm recently separated from (but still are friends, living together, with 2 kids) kinda encouraged me to.  She recently came out as bisexual on Facebook, and she was kind of encouraging me to.  I wanted to do it in a witty way, that kinda fit my personality.  Here's what I said


Hello Everyone. A lot of people know this about me already, but there's something I need to say. This Gender-non Binary individual is... A Progressive Rock fan. Some people may look at me and say: "Why do THEY like progressive rock? progressive rock is for nerds." Others may Say: Why aren't THEY using THEIR skill to rip it up in a progressive rock band? What's wrong with THEM? But I am proud to say I'm a Gender Non-Binary Singer-Songwriter, who is a Progressive Rock fan. But Seriously: Gender Non-Binary: They/Them/Their


Afterwards I got kinda anxious that some of my lgbt friends would see it as making light of, or kidding around about something that is very serious and difficult for a lot of people.  I guess I'm asking if people think it was an appropriate way to come out, and what to do about anxiety, or possible rejection.  I know some of my co-workers aren't exactly lgbt friendly, but I'm more anxious about ones that I'm closer to that haven't really expressed a view on lgbt issues yet.

I don't know, what do y'all think?

Jeff/Abby

I'm impressed you came out on facebook! That's great!

I hope it went well!

Did you get a good reception?

[abbynormal1929]

Didn't go badly, I think it went over some people's heads who aren't familiar with the term non-binary, and the they them pronouns. I actually had to explain the joke to my mom, and she already knew I was non binary lol. In general, the people that did respond were supportive.