accepting the unacceptable

[Trinity]

Alabama has voted that it is now illegal for doctors or pharmacists to provide transgender specific healthcare to anyone under 19.


I guarantee you that there will be deaths as a result.


On a personal level, I have gone off the rails from just plain too much abuse and difficulty that is linked to being (nonbinary) trans.   And I live in a state that intends to pass the same law here.


The political rhetoric and dogma of causing deliberate harm to trans, starting with the census eliminating trans from the counts, Potus firing the military, and all references to transgender that were in a positive light being scrubbed from any executive branch offices, coupled with my own personal suffering from being trans, has taken me to a debilitating state of mind where I am carefully trying to maintain my sanity.   We live on the edge, I am not employed, my business has failed, I am betrayed by the church as a whole, and bigotry and dogma cost me a half century of my life.


That being said, its not the first time there has been oppression, during Vietnam there was a draft that took our children to the slaughtering fields and not one came back without wounds.   So what is happening to us, is not as bad as what has happened to us in the past.

And although it is unpleasant, we have open borders between states, so there are ways to get out, essentially people becoming state refugees fleeing to another state.  In a way, I already did that personally.

I have to accept the unaccepatable.   In Guyanna right now, where my wife is from, the government has rigged yet another election, people in opposition or asking for recounts have been killed, the police state has been called in to suppress anyone trying to find out the truth of the vote, because the trugh of the vote is that the people in power lost and are refusing to give up control of the government.   I can go on and on about why my wife had to flee her country, her father got them out - legally.  But she is trying to accept the unacceptable, because she can't go back to her home, it is far to dangerous and has been since she left there well over 40 years ago.

I have to accept that we are hated as trans people, but not everyone hates us.  I have to accept that we have a political party that is actively trying to kill us or eradicate us and washes their hands of it like Pilate because the way they are doing it is so subtle and so evil.   I have to accept that we have become targets of hate to be used as political chesspeices so the the party in power will win more votes based on disinformation, fear, and womens bathrooms.

I don't want to accept it, but by not accepting it, my mind is in harms way, better to accept that this is the way that it is, than to not accept it and go over the edge in fear hate and rage, because they are coming for me next, ….. perhaps.

I've already been allowed to bleed out, denied housing, fired with no reason given for dismissal, been treated as a prostitute in a medical setting and coerced into a rectal exam to see if I had any stds when I haven't had that kind of sex in over 40 years- and that's another hardship as well.   I've even had a child spit in my face because they figured out I was trans.

That is the United States I live in, a place where the unacceptable has become not only accepted but embraced, where it once was not ok to be an asshole, and now it is not only ok but is lauded, where cruelty is now the norm, hate the policy, and inhumanity to others the typical outcome and the political agenda of the decade.

How do you learn to cope with the uncopable?  its not like I could go to a shrink to get help, I don't have the funds, I don't have the medical insurance to cover being trans, I have to pay cash for my hormones, we are an oppressed group

We talk of being warriors but we are outnumbered, we do the best we can and get smarter at how to do it, but the first rule of being a trans warrior is setting up for survival in the long haul, and that means guarding your mind, your heart, and your body.

I have friends that lived in dumpsters, adept at finding food there, I know so many that overcame so much, and I also know so many that the cistem killed.

So, the topic is, do you accept that we have these issues, and are you able to cope with living in a society that is this brutal, how do you do that, to cope, keep your mental sanity, and move on?

The times we live in are harsh.  Be the diamond heart warriors of Trans.

[Leena]

The Republicans have been against LGBT rights for a long time, they just weren't focusing on trans people as much until losing Obergefell v. Hodges.

I don't know that I am coping all that well. Although I have located myself in a relatively trans friendly area, there still is some percentage of people out there that hate me just because I'm trans. Trans and non-binary kids in AL and other states that are passing these bills are going to have a very rough time.

That said, it wasn't that great being trans as a teenager in NC three decades ago. I did have to be closeted, and there was no sort of support of any kind that I knew of, and I didn't see anything positive ever said of trans people. Some people survive being a trans teen in the Southeast.

Part of being a good warrior is knowing when to retreat to fight another day. The Republican party isn't going to be defeated by trans and non-binary people alone. Fortunately, they've been pissing off a lot of other people as well.

[Ativan Prescribed]

The warriors are few and far between no matter who they the warriors for, they are the ones who stand up for the oppressed.
The republicans have always played the patriot and true american game, they are neither.
Self centered and corrupt, the politicians lie their way through life and in the end, they die as simple liars, they don't have any real claim to fame, the real americans and patriots get that and its the republicans who insist we need to kill people.
They all die a lonely death and they all know it, but they are the ones who are so weak in spirit and mind that they can't simply rise to the occasion and be real honest people.
Republicans all claim others doings that are actual things that stand the test of time in history, republicans are this countries nazi and kkk, they are the ones that history always spits on because they deserve it so much.
Bullies and passing the blame for themselves on to others and making up even more lies to cover the lies they made the day before, they have nothing, they are the thieves who stole your money, stole the country's money.
The rich are only powerful when they are rich, and it doesn't make them better persons, it makes them even more petty in how they deal with life, the only thing that rich people have is money, they lack in all the qualities that make people better persons.
It's the same old flim flam game that they have always played and just like you can always find a succker to place a bet on three card monte or the shell game, they will always be there playing that game.
Cheats who send our kids to war but give thiers a pass and send them to college where they don't have to work for a grade, daddies money buys them one, look at trump, a total failure in school, his own father detested him for being stupid and sent him to military school, not normal for rich people to do except to punish their kids who couldn't make the grade with their parents.
Trumps degree was bought, and its the same for all republican kids and republicans who do manage to have a degree, they didn't earn it and its obvious because of the sheer stupidity of them.
They will always blame their perceived wrongs on other people and convince others that their perceived problem is a real problem, the only real problem is that kind of person to start with, they perpetuate the evil that is their life because they were either to stupid to make the grade and had to have daddy bail them out in life or they are the ones who start the neighbors cats on fire because they are that cruel, they are the bullies because they can't win any other way other than to threaten and intimidate, look at that little weasel hitler and his bunch, all weasels and weak, until they managed to come up with a plan to take over a country, and they did it by shear bully power, they intimidated the already weakened people in economic depression that cost them a wheelbarrow of cash for a loaf of bread that one bill paid for a year before.
Kicking people when they are down is one of the only ways they get ahead.
people who vote republican, or in this coming election, the nazi kkk white supremacist racist bigots are simply more of the same, it takes more than a handful of warriors to save a battle, especially when all the battles are the little ones they blame everyone else for, multiple battles.
You want to vote republican, then be prepared to be looked down on forever in history, look at all the republicans since they took over the democratic party because theirs was failing (true story, look it up, they stole an entire political party and then turned it into the same one again).
There is nothing in this country that makes it illegal to be assholes in general, but you can't stay assholes and expect the country to go along with your assholeness, doesn't work that way.
If you believe any of what republicans tell you and you vote for them, be prepared to be fucked over again by them, every time they get into power they screw the economy, every single time, there isn't a time when they haven't, they are piss poor at taking care of themselves let alone a country.
The best thing that trump has done is to show all of this and bring it to the light, in AL they are as crooked as they come, they are not the majority there anymore than they are anywhere, they are in power because they cheat.
Do you think that the people in that state really want to fuck over so many people in so may ways? They don't, they are still trying to regain the power they had decades ago before the republicans took over and declared all of their bullshit reasons why they can and will be able to cheat for the next hundred years, but they won't, the playing field is leveled by the internet alone and now that people are used to it and can't live without it like their phones, they are taking a look for the truth, because as far as they knew, america has always been great and to say you are going to make it great is just another lie from the liars themselves, the republicans.
Look at then right nw trying to make it out that trumpavirus-19 is just the flu, more lies because they can't control it, so make it go away by lying, except it isn't working, not even Dr trump himself with his genius IQ of a baboon can make it any more less obvious that they haven't a clue about what they are doing, as if a stock market id=s the key to stopping a pandemic.
Here's the thing, as more and more of the so called trump supporters are saying they aren't and its because of all the reasons, it just lets even more be able to say they aren't voting republican either, because they are sick as well of pretending like they are all doing the right thing when they know damn well they aren't, its their stupid pride in saying it was good enough for their daddy, but you know, their daddy never said anything so fucking stupid, as they gain more self respect, the more of them will be demanding they get self respect and tell their neighbors who tell them they have to vote republican to just fuck off because a vote for republicans is the next best thing to voting for Nazi's.
And this is whats happening and its gaining a lot, the republicans didn't shoot themselves in the foot with trump, they cut their legs off along with their self respect.

[Yuki]

I think I've accepted a lot of things a long time ago that no one should have to accept, and this sort of thing isn't much different. I mean, yes it makes me angry.. of course it does. But at the same time, it doesn't do much harm to me mentally because I'm not very surprised. I expect things to get worse right now before they start to get better again. That seems to be how it works. Some progress will be made, certain people will hate that and will hate that they're losing their power so they'll do everything they can to mess it all up.. until enough people start to fight back and make some progress, again. I guess that's where the saying of taking two steps forward and one step back comes from, or however it goes.

People will make some progress and then become complacent enough that the shitty people will have a chance to do their shitty things, again.

And we need the people who pretend to care when it's easy for them, to start actually caring enough to do more than say "I support you" and then pat themselves on the back because they said that to a trans person, and they think that's all they need to do today.

I don't have much power, since what I'm able to do is limited due to circumstance right now, so I just try to not let this stuff get to me because I already know it's going to happen.. just like the bathroom thing in NC. But that didn't mean that all of NC hated trans people. Charlotte actually stood against it, in it's own way. Not that that's enough.. but none of it surprises me, anyway.

Maybe I'm just used to expecting the worst, I don't know. I don't know how I got this way, though. Maybe I'm just emotionally shut off to a lot of things, and that's not necessarily healthy either, even if it means this stuff doesn't bother me as much.

I could use that shrink, too. lol.

But people will probably start making progress again, soon... hopefully, anyway.

[Ativan Prescribed]

It pays to be able to emotionally shut off the ruminating about the bad, if you can't come up with the solution, it just makes no sense to think about it over and over.
I can easily shut down emotions if I have to, it is the survival trick I had to use a long time ago and I had to use it every time they made me do a stay in the psyche units, you just shut down all of it.
If you let yourself become sick over the bad that is going on all over it seems, then what you see is mostly the bad, it takes stopping that emotional bad in your head to be able to see all the good that is going on and there is a lot of it.
Yah, the asshats that make the effort to say they support someone and then walk away and don't actually support them other than those few words are pretty useless.
But its still better than nothing and the more people who hear it and then decide to say the same thing, it upsa the odds that one of them will do more than lip service for others, and once one of them does something more, then maybe others will as well.

It's kinda how things politically are going right now, people are saying they are sick of supporting trump and the republicans, they are sick of supporting their neighbors who support trump, and once a few of them break free from that crowd they got stuck in, then others are following.
Its on the downhill slide for republicans now, they are losing steadily in the polls, still not enough, but people are genuinely sick of their LGBTQ stuff when there is so many more things they should be doing that they just aren't.