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Post by Iona on Jan 21, 2020 11:00:05 GMT 8
I'm never quite sure whether I fit into the Relgion or the Spirituality section here - but given where we are and who we are I feel like not fitting in might be ok.
I have recently been thinking about whether and how to come out to a few of the few people of my old 'church' back in London.
('Church' here in inverted commas because it is only very loosely and broadly speaking a church. In fact, when we were coming up with a name for it, there was some discussion as to whether or not use the C word. But anyway, informally at least, a church is what it may be.)
So, anyway, I did what I would have done if I was still there, and wrote what could very loosely be described as a 'service' to do so. I'm thinking of sending it to a dozen or so of them. I trust them all, but there are only a few I really want to open up to just now.
I'm not sure about posting it here - I feel like it may be too religious for the non-religious of us, and too mundane and agnostic for the religious. Thus helping no one.
Still, I may at some point - with numerous disclaimers and warnings - if I find a suitable location around here somewhere.
But in any case, I'll let you know how it goes.
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Post by Iona on Jan 24, 2020 5:18:04 GMT 8
Well, it's sent, anyway...
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Post by Iona on Jan 24, 2020 10:54:59 GMT 8
Well, so far I have received a couple of absolutely lovely responses.
I am unsure whether to add much more here - but I will mention two things said, because they're certainly not just for me: "with you 100%", and "don't doubt it, it is good".
There are people out there who will love and support you. I hope we all find them.
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Post by ceremony on Jan 24, 2020 11:02:52 GMT 8
Wonderful Jos, such a validating experience.
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Post by Becky on Feb 2, 2020 21:44:08 GMT 8
Jos, this is fantastic! I was terrified about coming out to the two pastors of my church, but their support and positive words made it all worthwhile.
Even if you're not fully out, just knowing that there are a few folks out there who know your identity and love you for it can mean the world. <3
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Post by Trinity on Feb 20, 2020 0:56:54 GMT 8
Good for all of you.
I am too badly scarred from previous experiences, this is a volatile subject for me and a very painful one that cost me deeply.
I understand from a friend that one of my ex pastors, an old man I deeply respect who is the real deal, and I mean the real deal, that he would not have any issues with me being trans. My problem is that I just can't take another rejection or bad experience with this.
I have walked away from the church now, as a direct result of the politics of it, and the bigotry that became doctrinal. I can't go to a church that waters down the gospel, I have strong pentacostal beliefs and I live them, and I just can no longer entrust them to others.
There was a pastor that was following me on facebook on my stage name. The last time I lived in NY someone stole both of my glasses, and at the time I could not afford to replace them. That Episcopalian pastor and one other person both chimed together and paid for my new glasses. The Episcopalian church, and it was small, 50 people, paid for the transwoman's glasses.
Now what does that tell you about the real church of Christ and the true heart of Jesus?
He continues to keep an eye on me on Facebook, and has pulled me back from the edge many times recently.
I am greatful for men like him, and I hope others will step forward to turn the tide of hate away, and bring us back to what we so desperately need.
Its not to start an angry thread against the evangelicals that I want to do here. Its to celebrate the true Christians and their hearts and how they can make a difference.
I am so proud of you all. I am so glad to hear of the positive experiences, it is light rain in the desert for me.
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Post by Iona on Jun 21, 2020 10:04:15 GMT 8
So, during Covid my old community have been meeting up online, doing sessions on a whole variety of things. And I've somehow been persuaded to take people through my little liturgy tomorrow.
I'm basically going to be telling a dozen or so people I'm nonbinary. And I'm a little scared.
I'm also confident I'll be accepted though. Just worried about doing it. Just want it to be done.
Anyway, if you could, please think of me tomorrow morning...
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Post by Trinity on Jun 21, 2020 10:53:27 GMT 8
So, during Covid my old community have been meeting up online, doing sessions on a whole variety of things. And I've somehow been persuaded to take people through my little liturgy tomorrow. I'm basically going to be telling a dozen or so people I'm nonbinary. And I'm a little scared. I'm also confident I'll be accepted though. Just worried about doing it. Just want it to be done. Anyway, if you could, please think of me tomorrow morning... Wishing you the best
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Post by Iona on Jun 21, 2020 20:03:26 GMT 8
Ok, so that's done... I guess it went ok
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Post by Trinity on Jun 21, 2020 20:19:54 GMT 8
Ok, so that's done... I guess it went ok How do you feel?
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Post by Iona on Jun 21, 2020 20:21:34 GMT 8
A little emotionally drained, but relieved and happy.
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