Trans and transition expectations

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This is an inclusive thread, not limited to any gender identification or state of transition       

How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?

How has transition measured up to what you thought it would do for you?

What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself?

Did you get what you expected?

Did you get what you wanted?

Did you get what you needed?

Be well....be safe...

Trinity

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How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?
It has exceeded expectations both personally and socially. When I started, I couldn't even imagine being as happy and comfortable with myself as I am now. I am accepted by almost everyone despite my worry that I wouldn't be. I've spent most of my life unable to imagine having friends who have my back and who I can trust, but now I have a few (I think). There are still some "frogs" as my mother would call them, but I am not as alone anymore.
How has transition measure up to what you thought it would do for you?
Again, it exceeded my expectations. I still can't fix my chest, but the changes T has helped with have been great. Not least of which is feeling more comfortable with myself and feeling like my brain is finally working.
What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself?
I haven't had any surgeries yet, but I can't wait until I get my chest fixed because I expect I will feel so much more comfortable with myself and look more like myself. I didn't really have any expectations for HRT. I just knew of things like my voice dropping (but I didn't know what I would sound like), facial changes (but again, I didn't know to what extent), and stuff like that. I wasn't expecting the positive psychological changes. For becoming myself, I think I expected to be happier with myself, but I couldn't imagine how much happier. I assumed (and sometimes still assume) that I wouldn't be accepted by anyone for who I am, but ended up meeting the first people who have been able to accept me.
Did you get what you expected?
Thankfully, no in some regards.
Did you get what you wanted?
Yes.
Did you get what you needed?
Oh hell yes.

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This is an inclusive thread, not limited to any gender identification or state of transition

How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?
I've labelled myself non-binary for a long time, but only recently accepted the trans label, due to the Leslie Feinberg quote on trans meaning transgressive gender. I'm not trans as in crossing the binary from one side to the other, but trans as in my gender is transgressive. Mostly, the only thing that has changed is the sense of relief of not living alone. Things are starting to bubble up to the surface that were stuffed, burried, tied with chains and locked down. I've been talking about it with some loved ones, and testing the waters, but mostly not living as trans.

How has transition measured up to what you thought it would do for you?
I only dream of the transition in my mind that makes me light up. So I don't know if it will measure up or make my life harder.

What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself?
My expectations are to just be myself and be happy, but also be shunned, injured worse socially in the job markets and other aspects, since it will be a gender mix and most people in my area can't handle that. They can barely handle binary trans and expect it to be flawless in order to not freak out.

Did you get what you expected?
I don't know yet. Not there yet.

Did you get what you wanted?
I don't know yet. Not there yet.

Did you get what you needed?
Just having permission to think about it, want it, and imagine it will happen some day is giving me some of what I need. And thats a good step.

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Apr 5, 2015 5:58:39 GMT 8 Trinity said:

This is an inclusive thread, not limited to any gender identification or state of transition       

How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?  My initial expectations were totally delusional until I took a deviant tangent to my original set azimuth and conceded that NB andro was the best fit.

How has transition measured up to what you thought it would do for you? Happy camper here!

What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself? I knew it was a crap shoot so expectations were in the air, found myself and it's all good where I'm at.

Did you get what you expected? More

Did you get what you wanted? Didn't know for sure initially, but yes finally centered.

Did you get what you needed? Probably could have kept the gonads in retrospect rather than being hormone dependent from an outside source but I'm not the least bit upset about their absence either as they no longer need to be dressed around like before so the gonad thing is a moot item at this point.

Be well....be safe...

Trinity

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Apr 5, 2015 5:58:39 GMT 8 Trinity said:

This is an inclusive thread, not limited to any gender identification or state of transition       

How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?I had no real expectations, except to wind up alone and bitter.  That is far different from what happened.

How has transition measured up to what you thought it would do for you?I thought I would have gotten bigger boobs.  But yes, it was the difference maker in personal comfort and truth.

What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself?Peace.  Getting what I needed.  Ending the pain.  Getting my body the way I feel it, like it, need it, must have it.  That worked.

Did you get what you expected?Far more.

Did you get what you wanted?Boobs, nah.... but there is still time.  But I got far more than I ever wanted.   Got my wildest dreams.  If I get to a c cup, then yes.  Even a B.  But I have no complaints, just a dream goal, like any other of us.

Did you get what you needed?Absolutely.  Every need.  Even what I did not know I needed, I received.

Be well....be safe...

Trinity

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◬ How has being trans measured up to your expectations of living trans?

I really had no expectations besides the possibility of people making assumptions about me. Too often do people think that you're going to start wearing high femme clothing and tons of makeup, because clearly, being a woman means fulfilling every stereotype you can! I really didn't have to explain that very much, though, luckily. I have some pretty open-minded friends and family.

◬ How has transition measured up to what you thought it would do for you?

Well, I knew that transitioning was going to be necessary for my sanity and well-being, and HRT has really done a wonderful job at making me feel balanced after 33 years of "testosterone poisoning". I'm only five months in, though, so I have a long way to go before I can make a proper assessment.

◬ What were your expectations of transition, or of HRT, or of just becoming yourself?

I expected to feel more relieved and I am. I expected some opposition, and I've experienced very little of that. I expected some confusion from some people, and there was a bit of that until I explained a few things. Then I got some reactions like "Ahhhh, okay. That makes sense." As far as physical changes go, I expected the bare minimum, but was surprised that it was succeeded. I'm starting to see some differences in my face now compared to where I was even days before starting HRT. I'm going to look pretty impressive within a year! Also, I'm obsessed with how soft my skin has become. I can't stop petting myself!

◬ Did you get what you expected?

Some things, yes; some things, no. As we all say, your mileage may vary. I'm excited to see some further progress!

◬ Did you get what you wanted?

I'm not entirely there yet, but I'm feeling pretty good about everything. Still pretty dysphoric at times, but I'm hopeful.

◬ Did you get what you needed?

Initially, what I needed was to feel more at home in this body, and to feel more balanced, and things are always improving. I can't imagine going back to my life before November 21, 2014.