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Post by Trinity on Jun 17, 2018 21:00:24 GMT 8
Happy Fathers Day.
I know this is a particularly hard day for transfolk, especially amab.
Just extending my love and care to all of you, reaching out with a gentle hug.
My wife got up and asked me if i was a dad or mom today. I said dad, i will always be dad.
Of course she asked. Im full transition, the only difference is i have a penis and my psychology is a blend with a lot of male components in many ways.
Then i told her i gave a sperm not an egg.
I need to appologize to the forum. The combined stress of finances, codependency, a controlling wife, losing that show, tenant yurn over and the business going upsidecdown, plus my hrt adjustment, has taken its toll. It is affecting my posts and my thread launched in negative ways.
But happy fathers day, snd for those who have lost children to their transition, loving hugs, and we will hold you here if you need to cry.
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Post by Becky on Jun 17, 2018 22:09:29 GMT 8
Thank you for reaching out on this day, Trinity. Some of us are feeling joy, some of us are feeling sorrow, some of us are stressed, many of us are scared. All of us can feel your love and concern for us.
To all the Dads on the forum, I hope you can feel the love and hugs I am sending your way.
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Post by Trinity on Jun 18, 2018 1:43:09 GMT 8
This day has been jell for me.
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Post by Trinity on Jun 18, 2018 5:00:37 GMT 8
Hey
'm doing a lot better.
Tough day, happy ending.
Love to all here
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Post by Leena on Jun 18, 2018 5:04:52 GMT 8
Got wished a Happy Father's Day if you are one when buying groceries. Misgendering aside, why would someone do this? Would it make a father that much happier, or just make guys who can't have kids, or lost kids feel bad? Sigh, yet another day I wish I stayed at home...went shopping to try to have some fun today, as later on I will feel obligated to call my father who I don't exactly get along with.
Stupid holiday made up to sell greeting cards.
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Post by Leena on Jun 18, 2018 7:54:53 GMT 8
Happy Fathers Day. I know this is a particularly hard day for transfolk, especially amab. Just extending my love and care to all of you, reaching out with a gentle hug. My wife got up and asked me if i was a dad or mom today. I said dad, i will always be dad. Of course she asked. Im full transition, the only difference is i have a penis and my psychology is a blend with a lot of male components in many ways. Then i told her i gave a sperm not an egg. I need to appologize to the forum. The combined stress of finances, codependency, a controlling wife, losing that show, tenant yurn over and the business going upsidecdown, plus my hrt adjustment, has taken its toll. It is affecting my posts and my thread launched in negative ways. But happy fathers day, snd for those who have lost children to their transition, loving hugs, and we will hold you here if you need to cry. I've been a bit harsh lately. I am finding that my feminine side is a kind of a bitch. Guy side was always the "strong silent type", that's easy for me to pull off, though as I find my voice, I need to make sure that I don't alienate people, especially here. I probably could have made my point using a softer tone...
Phone call with Dad wasn't all that bad. Still don't really like this holiday. Might have wanted to be a mother, but never really wanted to be a father, even though these roles don't necessarily have to be as binary as some people make them out to be, and don't really like being reminded about not being a parent.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Jun 18, 2018 8:14:49 GMT 8
I haven't gone out today, it's raining anyways, but I don't want the grating 'Happy Fathers Day' said to me, they don't know if it is or isn't, and they say it more for themselves than for me, it makes them happy, but not me. I never hear it from my kids, a big nothing day and I try to forget it like I do my birthday. Another whatever that isn't really an accomplishment, it's the countdown to old and then dying, a reminder that I have x amount of time left. But yah, Happy Fathers Day to those who want to hear it, I don't mind saying it for those who want to hear it. And it seems like a confession going on about attitudes and stuff, and I'm included in that as well, I know some of my stuff is out there and rough on the edges. But that just happens and for any of you who feel guilty for being testy or just plain pissed as hell, no need to apologize, the forum is the place to let it out, just don't hurt anyone if you can help it and acknowledge that you did if it comes to that, so Happy Fathers Day again and anyways....
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Post by Trinity on Jun 18, 2018 10:00:08 GMT 8
My wife and i had a terrible fight this morning.
It doesnt matter why.
Church was al about how to be a stereotypical man.
After church, when ee hot home, she took the car and left.
Seeing my marriage ending on fathers day, i grabbed 3 bottles of water and a coffe thermos and phone and started walking. No wallet no id.
If she had not come looking for me or called, i would have kept walking. Not gone home.
I made it 3 1/2 miles, said a kinda goodbye to my very dear friend, and was near the thruway. An easy walk. Trucks doing 70.
But she called.
We woyked our stuff out.
Today massively sucked.
One kid called, 2 didnt but i know its tough today. I texted, one answered. The others gotta be tied up with the kid i know she bought a fathers day thing for me.
Its not even trans its all just life.
So. For fathers day today, i just hope we all survive it.
Goodnight my dear ones
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Faithfully Married.
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Post by Trinity on Jun 18, 2018 10:02:21 GMT 8
By the way she and i just hot in the car and drove for hours. It was good.
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Post by Becky on Jun 18, 2018 20:24:29 GMT 8
The stores would never allow it, but I wish there was a just a "Parent's Day" or even "Guardian's Day" to honor everyone who helps children grow up. This would cover gender issues, and issues of adoptive and foster parents.
My wife, son and I travelled to have lunch with one of our favorite former students, who lost her father to cancer a few months ago. It felt totally fine with me to not even mention the holiday, and to just enjoy conversation and someone else cooking for a change.
This particular student probably knows more about me than any other, so I can let my guard down a LOT when we talk. We discussed how many of her friends are closeted gays, who are terrified to come out because their families belong to the Church of Christ. I mentioned that one of our neighbors is a Church of Christ pastor, and she said that I should do my gardening in a dress.
Most of the time, that line of conversation would scare the heck out of me. Instead, I talked about openly wearing toenail polish to the public pool, and we talked about how ridiculous it is that things have to be gendered. I think she basically knows I'm N.B., even though I only called myself "Gender Non-Conforming." It was a really free discussion, and it felt wonderful.
After that, the day was spent just watching my son play on a playground. I didn't need it to feel like a holiday yesterday, and certainly didn't need to feel like it was a day to honor me. I just love simple days, spent with people who love and support me. I wish the same for all of you, no matter what day it happens.
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