rationalisation and trans

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How much do you rationalize in or to cope with being trans?

One of my shrinks jobs is to cut through mine.

People on the forum, one or two especially, do that with me, call me on my bullsh.t.

I rationalize to make what I cannot accept, acceptable.

I seek truth, especially about my gender, who I am.

It's usually clouded in a thousand internal and external pressures.

Maybe we need it to cope. To be happy, believing a couple tweaked truths to get by.

For two years I have struggled with the beard.

Now I shaved it, just down to lip hair, and I feel like a hypocrite.

I like not having it. I think it's cool when I do too.

But the moment wife said how would you look with just mustache, it was gone.

I do what I have to in order to cope with being transgender in places where that gets tough.

I believe what is necessary to get through the day, yet am aware deep inside of the probable raw truth. That is in the core, the real deal.

Do you rationalize too?

Love to all,

Trin.

[Patty]

I don't have to anymore, all I have to do is be me.To add to that since going full time the fear is gone and I have gained control over everything in my life nothing is a compromise anymore except a few unrelated things with Kathy. I think my situation is unique though, because of total acceptance at home.We are just two mature and sometimes immature women on the journey into the future.
Trinity, progress has been made ,rejoice, if you remember someone told you go slowly and give it time the adjustment period can seem like forever when we want everything now. Patty

Had to add this, received my Medicare card yesterday, Patricia JoAnn------FEMALE!

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I don't waste any of my time and energy thinking about this kind of stuff it's all moot at this point in my life anyway. But to be honest I can't believe how some of you folks over-think this stuff to such an extent that you drive yourselves nuts over it.....Sheesh! It's either going to come naturally along with the daily prodding via your normal HRT regimen or you are forcing something on yourself as more of a compulsive obsession in which case you might find that you are doing yourself harm and have become your own worst enemy. That in itself deserves some serious forethought because a person can't continue to live in a double minded mode and ever have any meaningful sense of fulfillment and happiness.

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Like I said, folk are not afraid to cut through the bullshit here.

Time for me to step back from the heady threads and just try to help folks here if I can.

There is ego tangled up in it anyway, hard to ditch that, I hate it.

I could overcomplicate an omelet.

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Mar 31, 2015 22:00:29 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Like I said, folk are not afraid to cut through the bullshit here.

Time for me to step back from the heady threads and just try to help folks here if I can.

There is ego tangled up in it anyway, hard to ditch that, I hate it.

I could overcomplicate an omelet.

True, but that doesn't hold us back from caring loads for you Trin, go race that Kart and get bugs in your teeth and wind in your hair, life's too short
to let it overwhelm you!