community family and forgiveness...trans unity here

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What drives our forum?

Caring, compassion, love.

What happens when members struggle?

We help.them.

We seek to understand them.

We love them up as we do our children.

We offer advice and wisdom.

If someone derails, what do we do?

Give them space?

Reach out online and off line?

What good is anger and resentment and bitterness compared with forgiveness and grace and love?

Who are we?

We can be the best you know. We have what it takes here.

Are you forgiving, gracious, seeking to love?

Do you need to reach out to us, do you struggle, does it hurt?

Let us heal your hurt. The deep one. The one way inside.

Blessings dear ones, open your arms.

Heart wide open..

Satin Joy.

[Metamorph]

Thank you for this. I hope you apply the same words to yourself.

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I think these thoughts are commendable but a bit pie in the sky unattainable in the real world which is comprised of light and dark, black and white heads and tails, right and wrong, good and evil, ying and yang, positive and negative. To ignore everything we think is negative is tantamount to wearing rose colored glasses and refusing to deal with reality. Having dealt with my own penchant towards alcoholism I occasionally re-read chapter 5 in the AA Big Book to keep tuned up, I realize that the alcoholic's prayer is very meaningful to many including myself, this version being the one most commonly used in meetings is a watered down version of the original.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Here the original version that some people hated because it refers to God and not just some ambiguous higher power and makes a much more positive statement not of the things I cannot change, but of the things that I can. I hate the word can't because it always really translates to won't. What bothers me most about my alcoholic brethren is what I perceive in each as a desire to run and hide from anything perceived as negative rather than acknowledging a problem and dealing with it head on. I'm not criticizing anyone in particular, it's just a generalization about most alcoholics and we all need to deal with it on an individual basis.

The AA Prayer of Serenity

God, give us grace to accept with serenity

The things that cannot be changed,

Courage to change the things

which should be changed,

and the Wisdom to distinguish

the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,

Enjoying one moment at a time,

Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,

Taking, as Jesus did,

This sinful world as it is,

Not as I would have it,

Trusting that You will make all things right,

If I surrender to Your will,

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,

And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.

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I agree with Metamorph. Just apply the same to yourself hon. We all need help and understanding sometimes.

Is there such a thing as derailing threads? Or do they just morph into something else. Evolve. Most of the time conversations go off in totally different directions than when they first started. Since this is like a bunch of friends talking together with one another, hell derail any thread that I create. Just let it go wherever it goes. Let it morph and evolve into something less bullshitty than what I first come up with. Add to it.

[Ayla]

Mar 24, 2015 17:34:31 GMT 8 Trinity said:

What drives our forum?
Caring, compassion, love.

What happens when members struggle?
We help, we seek to understand (and to) ..love them..
We offer advice and support ...online and off line?

Who are we?
We can be the best... We have what it takes...

SJ

Good questions, fair questions, hard questions.

As Shan says we are human, we are from perfect.  We have experienced a lot and have experienced quite a few challenges and setbacks, but we do care for each other and for anyone else who we meet on our travels. 

So I think we share similar experience and understanding of what it means to be trans and non binary.  We know how hard it has been for us and for others to find meaning, acceptance and expression.

But first and foremost I think that we see the forum as a source of support, understanding, insight and friendship.  This forum is all of this and then some.

This forum is not perfect.  Yes we sometimes misbehave.  But we do try to cut each other some slack, and respect others as we in turn would like to be respected.

Yes we can be better.  It takes vigilance to remain accessible, friendly and relevant.  Cultures can quickly decay when behaviors are left unchallenged.  But there is no reason why we cant continue to grow and to help others on their journeys.

Safe travels

Aisla

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They are hard questions.

I need time to respond to them.

The questions make us look at ourselves. They are questions for me, for you, for us, to try to raise the forum higher.

Its a playground too, the forum is, and the diversity is worldwide, as is the gender perceptions.

Its hard not to step on toes, on fears, not to trigger. God knows I trigger too easily, and too obviously. Then if someone was the agent of the trigger trouble will come. Hurt feelings, all of the stuff....

So I am careful about criticizing anothers gender, or making suggestions to them. Just ask questions.

But I see this as a collective organism, organic anarchy, all bound together by a common need.

What is that need?

[Ayla]

SJ

"What is that need?"

For me it is:

To understand and to be understood

To accept and to be accepted

To love my truth and to love others for their truth

To help others as I have been helped.

Safe travels

Aisla

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Good comments Julie! In a perfect world and a perfect family all of that is true and righteous. Unfortunately there isn't a perfect world or a perfect family and the world isn't always a tolerant and happy place run like a Facebook page where everyone get's "Liked" and "Friended" by everyone else, that's part of the reason I don't waste my time on Facebook or even have an account there because it's phony, superficial and not true to life. Speaking for myself I'm not able to blow kisses at everyone or blow a lot of complementary smoke up everyone's skirt about how pretty or wonderful they are because I'd be lying and just gaming with their self esteem and emotions and I won't compromise myself like that. I'm thinking in terms of another place where it was common practice and where people lied about how attractive someone was when in reality they wouldn't invite them to a dog fight. As for me I'd rather not see that go on here, I prefer being real with everyone and want people to be real and honest with me even when it hurts.