Impactful Movies or TV

[Ayla]

I have had many attempts at sharing books, websites, documentaries, joint therapy etc with my wife to help achieve a common understanding of the trans experience, but I have failed on most occasions.  Even where we have both started to view a program or documentary she appeared uncomfortable, seemed to lose interest or much later hit me with a left field question which spoke to fears rather than understanding.

This is why I was so surprised that when I downloaded a copy of Transparent she expressed interest in seeing the first episode.  Over several hours of continuous viewing we had both watched the entire season.  This led to a pretty good discussion and I think, hope, a new level of understanding and insight  for both of us.

This was a very positive and unexpected blessing.  Have you had a similar experience?  In particular would you recommend something similar that is also entertaining and informative?  It seems that this type of show encourages discussion, is less intimidating, and is something that two folk can enjoy in a relaxed and non threatening manner. 

[Edge]

I can't say that I have for trans related media exactly, but the night I came out o one of my Christian friends, I watched a movie called Saved with her which is about acceptance of different kinds of people and lives in a Christian community. She most likely would have been fine with me anyway, but I felt the movie helped me get my nerves up and gave me a way to lead into it.
I feel like Laverne Cox in Orange is the New Black can help a lot since she's shown as being a regular woman and the show is popular.

[Ayla]

Mark

Appreciate your thoughts and ideas. I have been impressed and encouraged by your success with your wife. My wife knows my life story. She and I have discussed this many times..intellectually she also understands and accepts the reality of my trans and my non binary experience. Her issues appear to relate to the widely differing end points of the transitions that she has read about. She is ok with where we are. In fact she says that she likes who and how I am, she sees this as an improvement but remains discomfited by physical change. Today her comments ranged from "you look like Bruce Jenner" to "I like your hair, it gives you an edge". She does seem to like the pony tail which I rocked this weekend and a man bun seems to be a realistic next step. It appears to be the journey, the unknowns and whether she will have a relationship with me at the end of it which discomfits her. She says that she won't live with a woman and doesn't believe that I can in good faith say or commit to not transitioning physically.

Regarding You Tube, counselling, biographies etc, she likes to process ideas and emotions at her own pace, by herself. She is a very private person who will typically do her own reading and reach her own conclusion. The transparent series was a surprise for her and I. Will take your advice and see if we can't 'discover' and enjoy other programs together.

Safe travels

Aisla