Assessing where my gender is at (with a poll)

[FaerieKim]

Asking myself some key questions:

Preferred clothing/appearance: feminine, slightly androgynous


Preferred pronouns/terms: I enjoy female ones but don’t make a big fuss about it


Name change? Yes, my name is Kim, want to change it officially


Laser hair treatment on face? Yes please


Sexual needs: passive, submissive


Preferred gender of sexual partners: Women or feminine and/or androgynous presenting people of any gender. No preference for sexual anatomy

Hormones? Not sure


Genital surgery? Probably not


Does your biological sex fit your true nature? It seems a bit off, especially with regards to secondary sex characteristics


Do you have an internal sense of your own gender? No, I feel somewhat genderless but with strong feminine tendencies

[EchelonHunt]

Only you will know the truth.

But since you asked, I would have to say non-binary or non-binary (trans)woman. Yes, it's possible to be both non-binary and (trans)woman.

You are a lot like me, in a way.

Even though I am AFAB, I am medically transitioning to male but I don't want to assume a male identity. I am genderless with varying degrees of femininity and masculinity (although femininity tends to scale a lot higher), I wish to be full-time "female" in the future but retain my male body underneath the feminine clothes. I absolutely abhor the male sexual secondary characteristics - the facial hair, the body hair, the hair loss, yuck, yuck, yuck! Thank god I'm on low-dose T. I plan to start laser hair removal on my face ASAP (ideally, I'd love to be completely hairless aside from eyebrows and hair on my head) and start treatments to combat hair loss. I also want to feminize my voice but this is not a huge priority.

Reasons why I don't think you're the other options:

Feminine, submissive man: A man, even feminine, wouldn't change his name to Kim or experience mild dysphoria over secondary sex characteristics.

A crossdresser: A crossdresser retains his male identity and body, experiences sexual excitement by wearing female clothes, dresses in female clothes occasionally but rarely full-time. I suspect you aren't like this, as you told your story earlier, you got turned on from being treated as female. Not in a derogatory way but as in respecting the feminine aspect of your gender during the sexual encounter.

A transwoman: Possibly? You could be a transwoman who doesn't follow the traditional narrative of being socially female, name change, taking full-dose HRT, FFS, BA and SRS and sex marker change, etc, instead forming your own narrative, e.g. being socially female/feminine, name change, low-dose HRT and being non-op.