Post by Cypres on Nov 21, 2016 23:28:25 GMT 8
I never know where to put my stuff, maybe it fits here... or a least I hope so.
Trigger Warning
I have to communicate something, it is not that I did not try to talk to anybody about this before, but nobody seemed to get the problem so far or at least let say I wasn’t able to explain the gravity of the problem. When I started on low doses of t everything was a bit stressful for my body but it seemed to go fine. Then not totally unexpected a lot of the abusive ways my body has been treated resurfaced and it grew into a strong unreasonable fear of being raped again or triggering somebody else. It appears to fade a little now, but I have been dealing with this for the past 3 years and was not able to share it very well. I think the main reason is, I don’t and can’t talk about much of my past sexual history and that appeared to be a necessary requirement in order to be understood. Anyways, what happened is that my body broke down and I developed a since three years not healing chronic yeast and bacterial infection problem which right now I have to manage on a daily basis in order to make it bearable, but it seems my body lacks the strength to get itself back together.
This in turn, somewhat protects me (because it made me avoid any bodily contact to people which might trigger me), but also made everything worse, cause now I do not only have additional bodily discomfort but also I always feel I am disgusting (which matches all too well with the idea of being disgusting because trans) and could infect somebody else. Oh my, I just realized the additional dimension of the continuance of violence, maybe I am afraid to past my traumas on? Anyhow I am so lost with this and doctors where no help at all. The last suggestion I got was stoping T, but I was also in between put on local estrogen, which did not make the situation in any way better. And weirdly or understandably I don’t want it to be the T, please, that would mean it is all my fault and it can’t be my fault … Also this overshadows my transition to such a huge extend, that I think it was all a bad idea … but at this point I can’t go back either ...
My last chance now is to change apartments, because while it’s likely that it is psycho-somatic to some extend, it also started when the construction at my house started. And since then I have developed other chronic health issues as well. So I finally found a new place into which I will move at the beginning of next year and I am so afraid that this might not help, because then I am out of options, there is nothing left I could to, except maybe go to a clinic and do trauma therapy, but I am not ready for this, I fucking can’t …
Trigger Warning
I have to communicate something, it is not that I did not try to talk to anybody about this before, but nobody seemed to get the problem so far or at least let say I wasn’t able to explain the gravity of the problem. When I started on low doses of t everything was a bit stressful for my body but it seemed to go fine. Then not totally unexpected a lot of the abusive ways my body has been treated resurfaced and it grew into a strong unreasonable fear of being raped again or triggering somebody else. It appears to fade a little now, but I have been dealing with this for the past 3 years and was not able to share it very well. I think the main reason is, I don’t and can’t talk about much of my past sexual history and that appeared to be a necessary requirement in order to be understood. Anyways, what happened is that my body broke down and I developed a since three years not healing chronic yeast and bacterial infection problem which right now I have to manage on a daily basis in order to make it bearable, but it seems my body lacks the strength to get itself back together.
This in turn, somewhat protects me (because it made me avoid any bodily contact to people which might trigger me), but also made everything worse, cause now I do not only have additional bodily discomfort but also I always feel I am disgusting (which matches all too well with the idea of being disgusting because trans) and could infect somebody else. Oh my, I just realized the additional dimension of the continuance of violence, maybe I am afraid to past my traumas on? Anyhow I am so lost with this and doctors where no help at all. The last suggestion I got was stoping T, but I was also in between put on local estrogen, which did not make the situation in any way better. And weirdly or understandably I don’t want it to be the T, please, that would mean it is all my fault and it can’t be my fault … Also this overshadows my transition to such a huge extend, that I think it was all a bad idea … but at this point I can’t go back either ...
My last chance now is to change apartments, because while it’s likely that it is psycho-somatic to some extend, it also started when the construction at my house started. And since then I have developed other chronic health issues as well. So I finally found a new place into which I will move at the beginning of next year and I am so afraid that this might not help, because then I am out of options, there is nothing left I could to, except maybe go to a clinic and do trauma therapy, but I am not ready for this, I fucking can’t …