nurturing the child with, caring for your inner self

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What do you to care for yourselves and meet your needs?

Most of us have an issue with this, that our needs were not met, or that we were not nurtured, taken care of, valued

What do you do now that you are the mother or father of your trans nature?

For me, as an example

I take her and give her whatever clothes she wants

I let her talk to her transsisters and brothers

I take him to the racetrack, let it all hang out

I paint her nails, shave her legs

I get him fast cars and motorcycle, and keep them running

I give them a mate to love and cherish

I let them feel

I pay attention to what they need and want, I don't ignore them

I never, ever yell at them

I tell them that I love them, all the gender components that are me.

What do you do for the child within, whoever it may be?

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Let me try to jumpstart this.

If I don't pay enough attention to components all hell breaks loose.

She will try to get your attention.

She will flirt, flash, post, joke...anything to get noticed.

She is desperate for it. It's like the pendulum. Fifty five years of repression, and then wham.

No surprise, is it..
And if I don't nurture her, the child, dysphoria will and does eat me alive.

He...me...have had attention. But that part that is now free, the only attention she ever had was scorn, hate, abuse.

That ain't just me folks. It's all of us, mirror image for ftm or nbftm or androgynous. Some component usually is not cared for or run away from or hated.

Hence the thread. Are you aware of it yourself, and what are you doing about it?

What caring thing are you doing for you today?

Love it all...good, crazy, wild, angry...at the core there is a reason.

Me, she wants attention, she gets it here. I get it here, me Sh'e, transsexual Nonbinary me.

I believe all of us walk tightropes, some are easier than others. But what I found recently is its not forced balance, it's an extension of love.

Why can we love others but not us? All of us? Covered mirrors and all.

I love you, some even passionately. Why then not love what I love, I see you, candles in the night, diamonds being shaped to brilliance.

Embrace all of you. You deserve this.

Love from me to you, from the fairy of the unicorn forest. From trinity.

[Laura J]

I neglect her terribly I'm afraid..
I know she cries all the time yearning to be let out,
But I don't know what she wants much of the time,
I just sense her loneliness and longings.
When she cries, I cry, like right now, for no other
reason than she is reading and writing this with me.

What do I do for her.? I torture her..
We walk past her favorite clothes shops, perfume
counters, and shoe stores, but my still hardened heart
won't let us go in, even though it feels like every cell
In my body is pulling at me. I try and make her nails shine,
I give her diamond earrings and necklaces, and make her smell lovely,
but it never feels like its enough, most of the time not even close.

I do let her hang out online with the other girls, she feels
happiest then, next to actually living as herself in real life,
I know it makes her forget my meaness for not allowing her out enough in real life.
She loves to hang out with some special MtF girls we know on another page,
she especially loves Jamie Lynn, who treats her so well, as completely female,
even though She knows her keeper feels male sometimes.

I search EBay and Amazon for secret beautiful gifts
I know she would love, but money is sparse for too many
niceties, and I think she understands that.

So we go on long walks together, and talk, even including God into our threesome of heartful feelings and needs.
Maybe thats enough for today. I tell her I'm getting stronger
and bolder every day, and eventually I know in my heart we will walk openly as one.

But now, now I feel guilty, like an evil ruler, a jail keeper,
holding the most beautiful woman from my dreams captive,
refusing to give her her freedom because on my selfish fears.

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Forgive yourself. She is just you, but you never saw it like this. Embrace all of you. Fear is human. Love conquers.

Keep it integrated dear, it's all you. He, she, just you. But it's a way I see it.

Ativan may get on this one, to help. I started to split apart and almost wound up in a psyche ward. Take care of you,,don't stuff it, and be mindful of wifey. You don't have to dress or buy to love all yourself. You just need to love. Be.

[Laura J]

Its just a mixing of my imagination and reality.

Sometimes I wonder what I'd be like in a world with no other people.? No inhibitions.?

Sorry if I was a topic killer..

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Topic killer? No dear. It's purpose was exactly this. To care for ourselves. To see if we are doing that.

And it's not imagination, gender centers, but that should be talked of, see the gendermerge thread. I think it's important.

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I don't really like the idea of seeing my trans nature as my child. It is part of my nature and, therefore, part of me. Honestly, I see my trans nature more as part of a trickster archetype thing. I also don't see it as something that needs to be taken care of in any way other than what I do to take care of myself anyway.

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Differing gender perceptions. Maybe different life experience...I had spent fifty years running from it so there is a need to restore. And since starting the thread there's more blending for me...abuse plays a part in this thread.healing from abuse, self inflicted, or social.

[Laura J]

These topics all bring us to a better understanding of ourselves and each other.
Regardless of differing views, they all help as a whole in putting the pieces of our own identities together, and allowing us to see where we can go with it, no matter where we are now.