What do you do to mimimize trans related stress levels?

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Wondering what you do to drop your stress levels living your truth out.

How do you handle it? How do you get through the day?

Do you hide, brave it out, live it anyway?

Do you take breaks, bubble baths, candlelight and inscense?

Do you ..... ummmm.....

How do you handle dropping stress levels, making it a little easier... to be your truth, to be trans.

Love to all here

Nails out hair down heart wide open

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[Ativan Prescribed]

I don't let it become a focal point, I accept it and focus on everything that is of concern.
It is there, but I try not to and usually don't let it become the main focus, there are to many other things as well.

The truth is that it is a part of who I am, along with so many others things as well.
I live it as it is, I don't let it become a part of others focus. It is a thing, a part of me.
I would rather let others focus on what all of me is doing, and that's a part of accepting it as it is.

Today I let myself focus mostly on the idea that I can and will go longboarding, I need to look into what I might need to do that.
Sure my gender is a part of it, and that makes it as much fun as most anything, when it is.

Stress comes from thoughts of the past, recent or distant, and allowing them to become a part of my future as expectations.

I think about how much pain there might be for doing something like that and know it will be worth it for simply trying to do that.
I don't want the pain in my life to be about a part of me, I'd rather it came from some dumbassed idea that I can do something I haven't tried.
I think about that hole I didn't see coming last summer, the one that became a wall of water coming at me as I tilted down into it.
I think about if I will be able to try that again, if I will be able to find it again, so I can do it better the next time.
My gender is a part of that as well as the rest of me is.
A part of my gender has a say in it, a part of that thinks in terms of how, the other part thinks more in terms of, fuck yah I can do that.
I drop the levels of stress from living my trans truth by letting it be a part of what could be a very bad idea, but could be a very good idea.
It depends on how well I can focus when I need to, to focus on letting it be a part of me. To let it be what it is, me, I.
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[Laura J]

I think it mostly makes it better to just go on with your day, and not try and analize things too much.

If there's one thing I envy about the CIS world, its that they don't have to give they're identity a second though, they just are what they are, and don't have to think about it. Depression is just depression, a bad day is just a bad day, they're gender has nothing to do with it.

One thing I'm working on myself, is just allowing myself to feel comfortable in my own skin, regardless of what I feel going on inside of me, whether I'm feeling male, or in an infeminiate mood swing.

Another thing I'm trying to be aware of is to try and hold on to that infeminate side when under stress, because naturally stress triggers my male personality, and I don't like the way that feels..

If I feel really stressed, I have to find some "quiet time" to collect myself, or I tend to say or do things I often wish I hadnt later..

I realize now how much worse alcohol made things years ago, and its like a pat on my back realizing that, and having no desire to go back there..

[Kira]

Dysphoria is like a boa constrictor. Try and ignore it or move in the opposite direction and it makes it worse, accept it and move closer to being feminine, it becomes stronger. It just gets stronger. The less you get the more you want, the more you get, the more you want. I want to be able to have babies :-\ I have tried to minimise it but I don't know how. Every day I think about it. Even if I can have a normal relationship, which I also think about a lot, I can never give birth. I have to accept that. I don't know how. It's like trying to stop an idea, a primal urge from haunting you. I don't know. Too much of my life is about being Trans. I am tired of it. I am trying to learn meditation to empty my head and live in the moment. I don't know what to do., the glorious UK system for trans people has offered me not a single councillor visit or even talked about it.

[Malachite]

I play video games, but I primarily like to just sleep just to get through it.

[Ativan Prescribed]

Feb 7, 2015 9:38:48 GMT 8 Kira said:

Dysphoria is like a boa constrictor. Try and ignore it or move in the opposite direction and it makes it worse, accept it and move closer to being feminine, it becomes stronger. It just gets stronger. The less you get the more you want, the more you get, the more you want. I want to be able to have babies :-\ I have tried to minimise it but I don't know how. Every day I think about it. Even if I can have a normal relationship, which I also think about a lot, I can never give birth. I have to accept that. I don't know how. It's like trying to stop an idea, a primal urge from haunting you. I don't know. Too much of my life is about being Trans. I am tired of it. I am trying to learn meditation to empty my head and live in the moment. I don't know what to do., the glorious UK system for trans people has offered me not a single councillor visit or even talked about it.

Mindfulness is one way that people look at it, it seems to be the current word for it. It is living in the now, more than living in the moment.
Now isn't necessarily this very second kind of a thing. Think of it as more of what is important now as opposed to the unknowns of the future.
Don't let the past's distractions also be distractions in the future that's coming, but isn't here yet, isn't affecting you in the present, your now.
It's simply said, but can be hard to do or even learn for some, but it is being more focused on what you need to be doing, in order for the future to happen in the ways it should.
Meditation has a place in this for those who can and do learn to simply empty the unnecessary thoughts in that moment of meditation.
A pause in reality to get a better look at it perhaps. It is up to the person meditating. Mindfulness is focus on more important things around you, that are the most important.
What those are, is up to you, but learning that kind of focus, not necessarily the moment, helps a lot of people in practice.
It's learning not to drag what isn't necessary from the past into your now that is getting ready for the future that will become your now and then move into the past.
More than simply going with the flow, it's understanding and knowing what that flow is.
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