Do you have multiple gender presentations?

[Trinity]

Curious with the newbies as to if they have a static typical blended look or work the gender spectrum visually?

I have a core look that is fairly nb but can be anything anytime and dig it.

I like the blend the best.  Feels very true to self.

Hormones come into play here too, body dysphoria.  I got my body fixed, still at it.  So under the first layer you find sh'e big time.  Regardless of how guy the outside looks.

Whats your look, whats nonbinary feel like to you?

Blessings

Trinity

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I've always looked feminine in the way I present myself, but I've been extremely uncomfortable. Looking back at old photos the only thing I see is a boy wearing make-up and dresses. Very odd feeling for me. I played to role so well, I even (sort of) fooled myself.

The last couple of years I've dressed in men's clothes more and more; it's the only way for me. I've basically stopped wearing make-up; only a light base which you can't see. I still haven't cut my hair, but I will sooner or later. I have a few adjustments left until I feel fully comfortable with how I present myself.

These changes occurred before I knew I was trans, I just naturally drifted towards these things.

As far as my body, I don't feel that I need to change it that much - I want to be less curvy, more androgynous. Other than that I'm fine with having a female body. So right now my status is: genderless at the core, personality and how I present myself man (although right now I would say boy ), body androgynous/female.

I really feel I'm starting to get a clearer picture of who I am as a trans person - this feels amazing. How wonderful to discover who you are. 

I've read somewhere that not all non-binary people consider themselves to be trans, but don't they fall within the spectrum either way? 

[Trinity]

What is trans....?

That thing of your eyes peeking out of a costume or veil is common to me. So is a core not gendered other than as self.

But what is trans anyway? Nb to me means gender varient from social construct or conscious of being more than just one gender at some level.

But what is trans? Am i just because of hrt and body dysphoria? Some say no, trans is if i want to be and am a girl inside. I disagree.

I think anything variant from the binary or birth binary is trans.

Its a good question.  It sounds like another box.

Thoughts welcome here.

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I see trans not as short for anything, but a term on its own that encompasses every non-binary identity.
The word itself can mean “across,” “beyond,” “through,” “changing thoroughly,” etc, so I would think that would include all of us who are beyond the binary.

However you want to identify yourself - your identity is yours, not someone else's.

Yes, in a way calling yourself trans is putting yourself in another box, but at the same time it's a box without boundaries, at least for me.
Trans = freedom to live and think outside the box. No matter how difficult that freedom might be at times; it's also a privilege.

There's a lot of power in words. At this point in my journey I need to own the word trans; that word meant discovering myself and finally feeling human.

It feels like I've been fumbling in darkness all my life, wearing an ill fitting costume and being forced to play a role - the process of shedding that costume and letting go of that role has been and still is painful and confusing at times, but the feeling of freedom outweighs any negative. I feel hopeful about my future, for real, for the first time in a long time.

[Trinity]

Oh that is good stuff in that post....



I'm feeling quiet today, regathering my mind.
More later.

[EchelonHunt]

Trans because we become so much more, a changed but better person than we were before, being trans is transcendence I no longer fear death and due to my struggles, I can think, "I have been through terrible times and survived. If I can survive being trans and all the hardships along with it, I can survive anything!"

Lee, I can relate to your description of yourself. Only difference is that I'm not OK with my body but I think everyone knows that about me by now I call myself a boy instead of a man too. Sometimes the man part does slip out if I'm speaking logically and detached from my sense of self and emotions.

I present as androgynous boy to class and as femboy to LGBT events. Dressing as my true self, a femboy/trap/girly girl in clothing/appearance but visibly boy underneath clothes, gives me overloaded feelings of happiness. It feels like I could burst, pop like a balloon!

While I do like wearing my casual t-shirts and jeans due to comfort, it's become boring nowadays. Since wearing a skirt and knee-high boots, that's all I want to wear. I love the cold sensation of wind rushing up my legs, it's a quick way to cool down on a hot day. Being stuffed into jeans with little breathability is gross. I've even stopped wearing my 3/4 pants and started wearing the female shorts which cut off mid-thigh.

I want to push the envelope next year. I would like to introduce Victorian era style into my closet. Going to begin very subtle, start out Kodona/Ouji fashion style (Prince/boy version of gothic lolita), maybe shifting to girly gothic lolita or a balance between the both. I'm excited and can't wait! I may look into joining a local gothic lolita group to help feel a part of their community and supported.

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... being trans is transcendence, so true.

Yeah, I've figured that out.  It just goes to show how many different nuances of being trans there is. The important thing is that we figure out who we are and where we are comfortable. 

I'm learning so many new things. I had to look up what Kodona/Ouji fashion is and it looks very interesting. Victorian era clothing is beautiful. I'm sure you will look amazing. I'm into the dandy style of fashion myself. I've never had much interest in fashion, but that was just because I was looking in the wrong section, go figure.   I really like DapperQ, so many great styles. 

[Durka]

Everyone seems to have their own story and their own way of doing things, and that's great

For me, I've been wearing "men's" clothes since my early 20's. It's how I feel comfortable, however I don't hide my female form. I have wide hips and a larger bust than I'm happy with. I long for a more androgynous form, and I feel like making a change. I am hoping that losing weight will help with diminishing this.