Debunking Phalloplasty Myths

[EchelonHunt]

Myth 1: "You won't get any sensation at all" | "It won't function properly" | "You won't be able to feel sexual sensation"

Phalloplasty has improved significantly than what it was 30 years ago. You will get sexual and touch sensation, that is why they use the forearm as a donor site because it is extremely sensitive.
You can choose to have the clitoris positioned under the new phallus, in-between the balls or surgeons will deconstruct the clitoris and place the nerves inside the new phallus in which the sexual sensation can be felt. 

You can also get an implant (erection rod or pump) inserted inside the phallus where you pump one of the balls and bam, your penis will be erect and you will have sexual sensation along with that. You will also be able to pee standing up.

Myth 2: "It will look gross" | "It won't look like a penis" | "It won't look like the real thing"

When people see phalloplasty results online, it is usually only stage 1 so they judge it from that alone where it hasn't had urethral lengthening, glansplasty or testicular implants yet which are usually done in the later stages. Yes, phalloplasty is done in more than one stage, which is more than one surgery. Sometimes surgeons do it in 2 or 3 stages. 

The reality is it won't be a cis-guy's penis but it will look and feel like a penis. Cis-men penis can be showers or growers, they start out small and grow big when it's erect. With phalloplasty, since the technology hasn't been invented yet, it's just going to stay the 5-6 inch length. When you're in the showers with men, men have a glance at your penor for one second, they're not gonna be like "that looks funky" at all. It's going to look like a cis-man's penis, it's just going to be long.



This video isn't about debunking phalloplasty myths but I thought it was vitally important to share this.

A transman explaining that he is a man before having these surgeries, the surgeries don't add or remove anything from him - just enhancing what is already there.

When he saw his chest for the first time, it felt natural and when he held his penis for the first time, even though there was no sensation in it, there was still a sense of disconnect but it felt right.

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OK. I really hate to say it but a penis doesn't make the man. I know so before I get rotten tomatoes thrown at me, just let me explain.

OK So I am on the other side of the equation. If I could trade the little fucker for an innie I would. But maybe not. So I see a lot of commercials for Vagisil and feminine itch. I have seen commercials for yeast infections, Tampons, and so on. Feminine itch. Yeah I got that from Panties and the razor.  Believe it or not that cures Jock Itch. Go figure.  If you wanna' rip your nuts off just because you sweated a little too much and couldn't shower for a couple of hours to get clean and shampoo.  OK so bikini bumps suck. But with the hair and a bacterial infection. I will take the bikini bumps.

But seriously though it will always come with a downside. Whether a V or P. Well if we ar trans then we are VPs. So we should all get box seats. I don't want them but I would go with someone just to drink champagne.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is always gonna' be a trade off.

OK so this is gonna' sound a little world dominate but a transman and transwoman mate will the genetics produce another transgender child? Kind of interesting to ponder.

Sorry this was a BS answer from me but the last one may explain a lot. Sorry if I offended anyone.

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Nov 7, 2015 5:27:40 GMT 8 @jamie said:

OK. I really hate to say it but a penis doesn't make the man. . .

Sorry this was a BS answer from me but the last one may explain a lot. Sorry if I offended anyone.

You haven't offended me, Jamie, and I'd totally agree with you.  I think most, if not all, transpeople would.  I think it's only cispeople who think that it's a penis that makes the man.

Nonetheless, there are many transmen who'd like to have one, just as there are many T-girls who'd like to have all the female parts.  I'm one T-girl who would.

I once knew a guy, a cis guy.  He was a working man and hence was proud of his strength, his skills and what he could do with them.  Then he had an accident that left one leg partially but permanently lame.  He was going to be walking with a crutch for the rest of his days, which meant that he was never again going to be able to work the way he used to.  Those who knew him well said this was really hard on him.  He felt like he wasn't a man any more.

Well, of course he was a man, simply an unfortunate man who'd suffered an accident.  He was still a man, but he needed it all to really feel like himself.  And that's where some of us are.  It's not the genitalia that make the man or the woman, but some of us would like to have them nonetheless so we could truly feel like ourselves.  I've never truly felt like myself.  I wonder what it's like.

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Nov 8, 2015 4:53:09 GMT 8 @foxglove said:

Nov 7, 2015 5:27:40 GMT 8 @jamie said:

OK. I really hate to say it but a penis doesn't make the man. . .

Sorry this was a BS answer from me but the last one may explain a lot. Sorry if I offended anyone.

You haven't offended me, Jamie, and I'd totally agree with you.  I think most, if not all, transpeople would.  I think it's only cispeople who think that it's a penis that makes the man.

Nonetheless, there are many transmen who'd like to have one, just as there are many T-girls who'd like to have all the female parts.  I'm one T-girl who would.

I once knew a guy, a cis guy.  He was a working man and hence was proud of his strength, his skills and what he could do with them.  Then he had an accident that left one leg partially but permanently lame.  He was going to be walking with a crutch for the rest of his days, which meant that he was never again going to be able to work the way he used to.  Those who knew him well said this was really hard on him.  He felt like he wasn't a man any more.

Well, of course he was a man, simply an unfortunate man who'd suffered an accident.  He was still a man, but he needed it all to really feel like himself.  And that's where some of us are.  It's not the genitalia that make the man or the woman, but some of us would like to have them nonetheless so we could truly feel like ourselves.  I've never truly felt like myself.  I wonder what it's like.

Thanks Foxlove. I would really like to have the innie too but unfortunately I don't. But both can be pain in the asses when it comes to hygiene. My boyfriends, I always wanted to take a shower and them too before we did anything. That can be fun in itself. I don't want to smell it after it has been sweaty all day. I clean really good and they will not see that. But the same thing with women too. I've had girlfriends that thought Douching was a waste of time. I would ask them seriously? If you want my lesbian ass down there then go to Wal-Mart or Walgreens and pick up a douche.

LOL I may be a little slutty sometimes but I will be damned if I will take a "whore's bath".  Nope I want the full on loofah scrubbing, exfoliating, shaving everyday and moisturizing. As much for me as for them. I want the same from a Lover too. I want a clean smell, perfume or cologne. Makeup don't really matter but cleanliness really does. So don't come from the gym and expect me to be in the mood. We can bathe together and make that a little fun but... No stinky and sweaty. Now during the act if we get sweaty then that is OK. Maybe I'm a little OCD too?????

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I think you could write the handbook on hygiene, Jamie.

[EchelonHunt]

I don't think I'd feel more of a man than I already do if I got phalloplasty. Gender doesn't enter the equation for me since I am genderless. I only feel like a boy in terms of sexuality/sexual behaviour and in terms of how I see myself, both physically and mentally. I certainly believe I have a male brain (even being socially brought up as a girl, I'm still dense as fuck when it comes to girl things lol) but I don't identify with the concept of masculinity or male stereotypes. I do feel very strongly feminine and at times, I don't want to say I feel "female" but I do want to look like a girl but have a boy body.

What phalloplasty would do is help me feel more comfortable in my skin by easing the dysphoria and allow me to function properly in sexual and emotional aspects of romantic relationships with people I care about.

With this body I currently have, I have never had a sexually fulfilling relationship with another person. For a long time I thought I was asexual but as time goes on, it seems to be more about dysphoria than anything else.

Every time I've taken somebody in bed, I've given them the time of their life. They've enjoyed themselves immensely. When they've tried to recuperate and give me a fun, wild time, nothing happens. It's not that they were inexperienced, far from it, it's because my relationship with my body is disconnected on such a level that unless I have a functioning 5 inch penis and balls in-between my legs, like I see myself have inside my mind every time I masturbate or envision myself having sex, nothing is going to substitute that. It also doesn't help that my vagina is literally dead in terms of sexual sensation but I've heard that's not uncommon among both transwomen and ciswomen.

I've tried packers, tried STPs, tried all the kind of dildos that have different ribbed bases that are designed to stimulate the wearer. Nothing works and it just makes me feel like shit because in my mind, I know a floppy piece of silicone is fake, the sound of the bullet vibe buzzing below reminds me that I'm anatomically female. It's not real, it's not a part of my body, I can't feel the sensations of the person enjoyment, there's nothing intimate about it to me. It feels staged, forced, a gimmick.

It's no wonder over the years, I've become averse to sex and want little to do with it but despite that, I still have a strong libido and yearn to have a sexually satisfying experience one day. It just kills me that the only chance or possibility that may happen is when I get phalloplasty.

I want to experience hot, sweaty, passionate sex with somebody, where we orgasm together and lay in each other's arms afterwards like all's right with the world. Not this repetitive shit of my partner getting all the fun and I'm left with a case of forever-blue-balls that can't be cured unless I have phalloplasty.

It makes me both angry and sad that all it takes is surgery for me to feel normal in my own skin. If top surgery is any indication, my dysphoria will decrease and suddenly fixate onto another area of my body. But after that final surgery, there will be no more sexual female characteristics so that in itself is weird to think about, that one day, it will all be over and I can sigh in relief. That day, along with my many plans for the future, is what keeps me going. I long for the day to come.

I'm 26 and I've never had the experience of having an orgasm with another person. Am I alone in this? Apparently not, in Hung Jury, a published book that documents the sexual experiences and lives of transmen, it was said that transmen in the book end up getting phalloplasty in order to feel complete, to be able to complete the emotional and sexual connection to their partners. I feel this is what I'm going through and it sucks, not in a fun way either. Yeah, sure, sex's overrated but I still want that experience, that first time to remember. I want to have many good sexual experiences so all the bad ones become a thing of the past, so I can look back and see how far I've come.

But that's not just all I want. I want to feel my penis against my thigh in bed at night or when I walk, I want that empty space in my briefs to be filled with a real dick and balls, not a STP or a packer that feels fake and falls out (even with harness on). Peeing standing up is a big deal, it's one of the first things that I wanted puberty to fix me when I was a little kid but it never did. I want something that is permanently attached, something that is a part of my body like it has always been, not something attachable, something that feels alien in my pants. I want to lift my skirt and see a cute male crotch, not a crotch that is undeniably female in shape. I want to be able to look in the mirror, see my flat chest and bulge in my undies and feel at ease in my skin, to no longer hate the female anatomy and hormones that once tormented me on a daily basis, threatening to throw my mind into absolute disarray and down a path to a premature death by suicide.

Funny you should mention hygiene, pre-top surgery, I hated washing my breasts. That didn't mean I would avoid washing them though, I'm OCD too and need to be clean everywhere. So I washed them, hated every second of it, the way I could feel the tissue under the skin, their weight, the very large "female" nipples. When I healed up from top surgery, I wash my chest and it is the best feeling in the world. I look forward to washing my chest, instead of dreading it.

Now I hate washing my vagina more than anything. I don't avoid washing it because gross, the thought alone of not washing my vagina makes my skin crawl. I'm already unbelievably hypersensitive to when vagina smells start to get rank from sweat and whatever. I absolutely loathe that why must my vagina be dead in terms of sexual sensation but I can still feel it drip discharge from that forsaken area?! That has always horrified me ever since puberty started working its "magic". I could never get used to it. I'm sure dicks would leak too. In all honesty, I would much rather leak from my dick than from my vagina. I've tried accepting my vagina as something I could live with, maybe enjoy using as there had been non-binary folks who were happy with their body without any need for surgery. I tried but every bone in my body, every cell in my brain screamed in retaliation. I can't do that. I respect if other non-binary folks can do that, I just cannot follow that narrative. It's not for me.

Genitals both have their pros and cons, both of 'em stink and both of 'em have their uses. Everyone is different, that is the beauty of it all. Love reading the responses here

Before I get phalloplasty, I do want to have full-body laser hair removal or electrolysis. Absolutely hairless except eyebrows and hair on top of my head. The pain will be worth it to no longer shave anymore and admittedly, it would be ridding some of the dysphoria too.

Facial and body hair aren't any fun for me, not when I want to be a pretty, smooth boy.

[Ativan Prescribed]

There is much that can to be said about being inside of anothers body, and or having someone else inside of yours.
It is much more than the next level of closeness with someone.

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Nov 10, 2015 2:05:02 GMT 8 Ativan Prescribed said:

There is much that can to be said about being inside of anothers body, and or having someone else inside of yours.
It is much more than the next level of closeness with someone.

I definitely agree with Ativan. Love is love. but giving that something special and coming together no matter what orifice. That is the ultimate. No matter what it is. You are giving a part of yourself to them and it should be out of love. As a tranwoman, giving someone that something special and letting them inside is something not to be taken too lightly. So whether a strapon from a lesbian lover or an actual penis from a guy lover. I'm kind of slutty but I ain't no whore. OK in my younger day maybe it wasn't quite true love but it was a sort of love.