lessons from Ativan

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Without eulogizing them...they are such a free and wild spirit, they are bound to show when least expected...  what lessons did you learn from Ativan?

For me they taught me freedom, and the happiness of living as a Nonbinary with a hormonally altered body.

They taught me to stand up to others, and showed me a dark side to this world and a warriors mind.

And the political part of standing up for the Nonbinary community, and ourselves.

But my biggest takeaway other than stopping ruminating is this freedom to be radically.genderqueer, true I don't wear a skirt outside, but I sure as heck don't fit any norms one expects.

What did you learn from Ativan?

I know they don't like being put on a pedestal.  But there are things we learned we don't want to forget.

The single most influential person on my personal gender was this crazy soul.

Hope their quiet New journey is going well, the one of reevaluating and redefining their needs, the solitary path they desire right now.

Blessings

Trinity Satinjoy

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I have always been mindful of what a deep thought process Ativan has along with a tireless ability to write almost exhaustive commentaries in an effort to drive a point home. I don't have nearly as enquiring a mind as that, nor do I have such patient endurance which is saying a lot considering the frustrating emotional disabilities that Ativan suffers from. People show their love for others in various and differing ways, Ativan shows it in their own unique way and it's much appreciated.

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One thing I forgot and it's crucial, they taught me that when I am in emotional pain to help others selflessly. That is huge, and it works.

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Dec 31, 2014 2:19:05 GMT 8 Trinity said:

One thing I forgot and it's crucial, they taught me that when I am in emotional pain to help others selflessly. That is huge, and it works.

Well yes indeed, it takes you out of the center of the universe and puts someone else on that throne for awhile and gives you a chance to help them work through their stuff. It is critical to leave the pity party and think of others, the blessing comes from the healing you get while helping someone else.

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I am f..ing crying my eyes out.
Shit I never expected that.

Satinjoy

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Dec 31, 2014 2:30:22 GMT 8 Trinity said:

I am f..ing crying my eyes out.
Shit I never expected that.

Satinjoy

I'm sorry honey, my comment was intended as appreciation for and an expansion of what you had previously stated and not as a hurtful thing. WTF - maybe I should just not post here anymore!

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Dec 31, 2014 2:29:32 GMT 8 Shan said:

Well yes indeed, it takes you out of the center of the universe and puts someone else on that throne for awhile and gives you a chance to help them work through their stuff. It is critical to leave the pity party and think of others, the blessing comes from the healing you get while helping someone else.

This has always been my own modus operandi for dealing with all the things I have stuffed throughout my life, it is personally therapeutic.

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Honestly, I don't think I learned any lessons from Ativan. I had to figure out a lot of this on my own. I just learned that Ativan is one hell of a person, extremely insightful, wise, extremely helpful and I miss Ativan tremendously.

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Dec 31, 2014 2:38:31 GMT 8 Shan said:

Dec 31, 2014 2:30:22 GMT 8 Trinity said:

I am f..ing crying my eyes out.
Shit I never expected that.

Satinjoy

I'm sorry honey, my comment was intended as appreciation for and an expansion of what you had previously stated and not as a hurtful thing. WTF - maybe I should just not post here anymore!

Not you dear, come on. I miss Ativan deeply.

Don't you dare stop, you have Never ever triggered me, only helped.

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Dec 31, 2014 3:45:31 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Dec 31, 2014 2:38:31 GMT 8 Shan said:

I'm sorry honey, my comment was intended as appreciation for and an expansion of what you had previously stated and not as a hurtful thing. WTF - maybe I should just not post here anymore!

Not you dear, come on. I miss Ativan deeply.

Don't you dare stop, you have Never ever triggered me, only helped.

Oh, I misunderstood.

[Laura J]

Here, Ativan taught me the most gracious way to forgive misunderstandings, and allow friendship to fill its place almost instantly.

I watched them improve theyr knowledge and understanding by leaving, and traveling to other places to gain more insight and knowledge than before.

They taught me from experiences at that old forum to listen, trust in those who know more than I, and be still and quiet when emotional things are happening around me, that I'm not involved on directly..

And very important, at least to me is being better as a person now, even though theyr not here, than I was before , because I had those experiences with thm.

[Ayla]

How do I separate the love, the insight, the support, the wit and the brilliance that Ativan brought to me directly; brought to me indirectly via others or via their availability to others; and to the culture of which they were a part of its very weft and its weave .. this is impossible, somewhat reductionist, overly simplistic and possibly insulting.

Ativan provided warmth, colour and inspiration where there had been none. They helped me find my way along a path which I had, until then, only vaguely perceived. As a guide and as a fellow traveller, they - like so many of you, have given me the life that I now have. For this I cannot ever show the appreciation that is their due. My hope is that at some stage we will meet again, check in with each other, laugh a little at life's absurdities and then continue on with our respective quests with lighter feet and a new song in our hearts.

Safe travels

Aisla