the phases of transition

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It seems to me that the process, the journey, has phases, like a second puberty.

Physical, mental, social phases.

Like fear, denial, hitting f2f the wall, desperation, depression

Hormones, fear, coming out to family

Healing growth repression acceptance freedom

Body, personality, defining objectives, New life

Then...?

Your thoughts on the process dears?

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Dec 27, 2014 22:20:09 GMT 8 Trinity said:

It seems to me that the process, the journey, has phases, like a second puberty.

Physical, mental, social phases.

Like fear, denial, hitting f2f the wall, desperation, depression

Hormones, fear, coming out to family

Healing growth repression acceptance freedom

Body, personality, defining objectives, New life

Then...?

Your thoughts on the process dears?

I'm probably not the best one to answer this Trinity.

My social was probably more female than male growing up and coming into my own during puberty. I was kind of lucky or not depending on how I want to look at it. I tend to think now I was pretty lucky. My physical is kind of in between. Mental. Yeah I'm a little mental.

Fear, denial, desperation and depression. Oh yeah I have suffered depression. Desperation not so much though. I had to figure all this stuff out on my own.

Hormones, fear and coming out to family? Well if they can't tell, either they are blind or stupid. I came out to my spouse and she couldn't be a lesbian so. Ces't la Vie. My life is mine and I deserve to be somewhat happy instead of making everyone else happy. SOunds a little selfish right? But if I'm not happy, who can be around me or who can I ever make happy?

Healing, growth, repression, acceptance and freedom? I am free to be me. Healing? Never was hurt to begin with. Growth? I kind of grew into my own. Repression? I did for four years and another two would have killed me.

Body, personality, defining objects and a new life. Body I kind of got a little blessed with. It didn;t seem like it always but now. Yeah a little blessed. Personality has changed over the years but has always beeln a little both and now the female is a wee bit stronger. Defining objects? That I really don;t understand but if you are talking shoes and clothes, I am there. Acceptance I have always accepted myself and screw anyone that can't accept me. Their loss and not mine. If they can;t accept me, I dontt want to know them anyway. New life? after my divorce, I have a new life and one that is way better. Just because I can be me.

That's my thoughts Trinity. Maybe not the best answers in the world but the ones that were right for me. 

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Just posted something relevant to this in "What kind of non binary are you?"

[Ayla]

Trinity

I think that Jamie is right when she says that the best answers are the ones that work best for you. The steps and order of transition may well follow that which you have described, but it may also start at a different point, slow down, accelerate, reverse, pause, skip a step, start with emotional change and may involve varying degrees of physical and chemical change.

The only constant is change. How we deal with change. How we understand, accept and express these changes are key to our happiness and to our success.

But what do I know? I once thought that I was TS but now understand and express myself as NB. It doesn't feel like a transitional state but who really knows.

This is a journey. We select our path and we step out. Our companions will change. We will face new challenges and have new experiences. Our perspective will change and we will 'become'. Just what we become depends on our journey. If it is self authored, if we are present and if we are authentic then I think that we have the possibility of greatness and the possibility of a rich and happy life. I wish you well. You deserve the best of lives.

Safe travels

Aisla

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Dec 28, 2014 5:02:21 GMT 8 Ayla said:

Trinity

I think that Jamie is right when she says that the best answers are the ones that work best for you. The steps and order of transition may well follow that which you have described, but it may also start at a different point, slow down, accelerate, reverse, pause, skip a step, start with emotional change and may involve varying degrees of physical and chemical change.

The only constant is change. How we deal with change. How we understand, accept and express these changes are key to our happiness and to our success.

But what do I know? I once thought that I was TS but now understand and express myself as NB. It doesn't feel like a transitional state but who really knows.

This is a journey. We select our path and we step out. Our companions will change. We will face new challenges and have new experiences. Our perspective will change and we will 'become'. Just what we become depends on our journey. If it is self authored, if we are present and if we are authentic then I think that we have the possibility of greatness and the possibility of a rich and happy life. I wish you well. You deserve the best of lives.

Safe travels

Aisl

I don't know if I'm right or not but right now I feel so lost and alone. In the morning I will be back to normal but right now I feel like the most useless bitch in the world. Yean it's kind of hitting me hard now.

Dysphoria sux.

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Big time dear, yes it does.

Wear a flower in your hair, think of us as you see it, carry us with you dear.