Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2015 21:19:38 GMT 8
How far are you willing to go to show just how much you are gender nonconforming? Society at least for the oldies is programmed a certain way for social gender expectations, some of which is almost laughable, like the business tie. Skinny, fat... funny it would be a nifty visual indicator better than looking at a guys feet...
That social programming, I like to think of it as being jacked into the matrix if I am not overusing the allegory, which is real to me, but that programming is dictatorial and rather unhealthy and really dumb. I remember a guy that got freaked out because his wife was on the top and he was facing her in bed. He thought it was unmanly, of course this was one of the guys that really messed with me in the factory when I was young. What an idiot, but he was genuinely freaked out about it.
The same thing applies in a thousand nuances to social gender stereotypes and expectations. Go back to the 50's and they were even more rigid. Now they are loostening up, although there is pushback. I wont talk religion on a thread outside that category, but they are like the guy facing his wife, they need to understand it from another perspective, and realize nothing is being compromised here. Not on this thread though...
So we tear down the stereotypes and are labelled. Fine, label us as rebels or whatever, we'll wear it if you want, just dont box us into that system.
Now on the other hand, I buy into that system when I need to be demonstrative of the sensual feminine side as defined as society's norm. And I love it of course. Wine and dine me, put your hand on my knee, look out. (Not going to happen). And then there is the mirror. So for me, regardless of what I show to society, there is always me in there, and my sex and sexuality just beneath the surface of it all, and that is darn close to the female binary model. That is changing by the way, as I accept and relish my new gender, which isn't female. Its actually as mixed as my mind is, the blocks are just off now, I was stuffing feelings both sensual and emotional there. Its really cool having a female body with a penis in it, and the complex wiring that goes with that.
I push boundaries, the motives behind that are not always clear. I dont buy into the matrix unless I feel like it, like the scene eating the steak in the movie. Then I enjoy it, and its very physical and emotional. A part of me getting needs taken care of. I bet others here have this too, even while the whole of us is conscious of the whole deal, that a gender aspect or component or attribute is a part of, not all of, us, and that we can choose what parts we reveal, and dont put other precious parts in harms way socially.
And thats where I stand on it. I wont put those parts precious to me in harms way. I always have had a protective element, and a private one, that part of me started screaming for help in here and I got it. I see it for where it fits in me now, from another light.
But there are times when the courage is needed to challenge the social norm and get in its face. Wear the feather earing, or whatever the equivalent is for those who lean towards a male physical gender expression. Fedora's are nice, I do that to go guy mode. And love it actually, just look out if I unbutton my shirt, trap....
But really, these norms, challenging them. Lot of common sense comes into play, right? Blinding dysphoria for me has nothing to do with common sense or self preservation or collateral damage. It wants what it needs, it craves it, it will have its way, it is more powerful than I, unless in me I see it for what it is FOR ME. Not necessarily for others. Hense, nonbinary...for me.
Curious how you react to it. Folks do like it when we have the balls to be ourselves though...
Trinity
That social programming, I like to think of it as being jacked into the matrix if I am not overusing the allegory, which is real to me, but that programming is dictatorial and rather unhealthy and really dumb. I remember a guy that got freaked out because his wife was on the top and he was facing her in bed. He thought it was unmanly, of course this was one of the guys that really messed with me in the factory when I was young. What an idiot, but he was genuinely freaked out about it.
The same thing applies in a thousand nuances to social gender stereotypes and expectations. Go back to the 50's and they were even more rigid. Now they are loostening up, although there is pushback. I wont talk religion on a thread outside that category, but they are like the guy facing his wife, they need to understand it from another perspective, and realize nothing is being compromised here. Not on this thread though...
So we tear down the stereotypes and are labelled. Fine, label us as rebels or whatever, we'll wear it if you want, just dont box us into that system.
Now on the other hand, I buy into that system when I need to be demonstrative of the sensual feminine side as defined as society's norm. And I love it of course. Wine and dine me, put your hand on my knee, look out. (Not going to happen). And then there is the mirror. So for me, regardless of what I show to society, there is always me in there, and my sex and sexuality just beneath the surface of it all, and that is darn close to the female binary model. That is changing by the way, as I accept and relish my new gender, which isn't female. Its actually as mixed as my mind is, the blocks are just off now, I was stuffing feelings both sensual and emotional there. Its really cool having a female body with a penis in it, and the complex wiring that goes with that.
I push boundaries, the motives behind that are not always clear. I dont buy into the matrix unless I feel like it, like the scene eating the steak in the movie. Then I enjoy it, and its very physical and emotional. A part of me getting needs taken care of. I bet others here have this too, even while the whole of us is conscious of the whole deal, that a gender aspect or component or attribute is a part of, not all of, us, and that we can choose what parts we reveal, and dont put other precious parts in harms way socially.
And thats where I stand on it. I wont put those parts precious to me in harms way. I always have had a protective element, and a private one, that part of me started screaming for help in here and I got it. I see it for where it fits in me now, from another light.
But there are times when the courage is needed to challenge the social norm and get in its face. Wear the feather earing, or whatever the equivalent is for those who lean towards a male physical gender expression. Fedora's are nice, I do that to go guy mode. And love it actually, just look out if I unbutton my shirt, trap....
But really, these norms, challenging them. Lot of common sense comes into play, right? Blinding dysphoria for me has nothing to do with common sense or self preservation or collateral damage. It wants what it needs, it craves it, it will have its way, it is more powerful than I, unless in me I see it for what it is FOR ME. Not necessarily for others. Hense, nonbinary...for me.
Curious how you react to it. Folks do like it when we have the balls to be ourselves though...
Trinity
