IDIOTS!!

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There have been some people posting in the /r/asktransgender subreddit saying how friends and/or family have accused them of being gay (or asked them when they became gay) for dating a trans woman. That is so fucking frustrating.

You cannot be gay from dating a trans woman (unless you are female). You have to be attracted to some level of masculinity (mentally, emotionally and physically) to be attracted to men.

I'm pretty sure they're dating them because they see a woman, not a man. Being Man or Woman is just so much deeper than physical sex.

An analogy I like to use is to imagine two computers next to each other. One contains an AI operating system that self-identifies as female, and the other self-identifies as male. Both computers have casing and hardware that serve a basic function, but these things do not define or determine the gender of the AI OS.

It's no different than the human being. The body is just our casing in the form of "male" and "female" biology for the purpose of reproduction and pleasure, and our operating system is our conscious awareness of Self within the brain (hard drive).

I think that's pretty cut and dried. If people have a problem with that analogy then they just don't care.

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I'm pretty sure that my recurring relationship failures had a lot to do with not being the man they thought they were dating no matter if I was aware of that issue fully. You can't hide who you are no matter what façade you're living, consciously or unconsciously. They were unwittingly dating a woman, and that's not going to provide the right kind of chemistry when you're a straight cis woman.

For the brief time that I dated Nicole back in March/April we had a chemistry that I've never felt before. She saw the real me, not the non-passing body I carry around. I always felt awkward and uncertain in past relationships, but I didn't feel that way with Nicole. Sadly, she dumped me for something stupid, but it had nothing to do with how we clicked overall.

Male body or not, our relationship was totally gay (in the good way)! Only some irritating TERF would have said otherwise.

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Another thing I've noticed is how people will say "God doesn't make mistakes" when referring to being transgender. These same people will say it's "God's plan" if someone is born with Autism or Down's Syndrome, but being trans is no less of a developmental issue than either of those.

I don't consider myself "a mistake" or as some perfect holy design. I'm just a product of Nature, and I can't begin to understand what that ultimately means. I just have to look at my life as a unique experience, and see everything as a lesson.

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No he doesn't.


But they do. To satisfy themselves.


It'll cost them, if they don't learn unconditional love, and to open their eyes and ears.