Finally seeing a therapist

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She had sent me a letter that was dated June 30th saying I had two weeks to contact her before she closed my case, but nobody told me I had any mail, so I didn't get it until Saturday.

Apparently, it was shitty of me to posit the question "Would everyone let me know when I have mail?" in a Facebook post, and one room mate lashed out at me saying it wasn't her responsibility and some other harsh things. It's nobody's responsibility, it's just the kind and considerate thing you do when you live with people (especially five others than yourself). She made it sound like I was asking for some super special treatment. Well, I just found out that she's going through a tough situation right now, so that explains some of it. It really hurt, though.

Then her boyfriend, Rex (who also lives here), messaged me last night and made me cry again. I never disliked either of them, but I'm glad they are moving within the week. I wished we had worked things out several months ago. I told everyone when I got here to just let me know if there's anything I do or say that upsets them. Rex said I was told not to "vaguebook" about them anymore like I was being shady. Venting online is how I blow off steam and get through the day. I would block those posts from them so I wouldn't upset anyone, not because I was trying to be malicious.

Anyway, I will be going in to see my new therapist this Friday afternoon. I'm glad she didn't close my case. If she had, I doubt anyone here would have given a shit, and just tried to make me feel guilty. I wish I was going in to see her tomorrow, but I can manage until Friday. I'll just be hiding in my room the whole time. I can't be in the same room with them anymore. It's a shame things had to turn out this way.

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It's nice that you feel comfortable enough to tell us these things.
I've talked about having a therapist and I have a psychologist once a month as well as weekly visits with my therapist.
I think I'm pretty lucky to have a good working relationship with both of them, enough that they are allowed to compare notes.
I don't know if they do or not, it's a part of the trust I'm able to have with them.
It's a shame that the trust you had with a couple roommates was broken, it hurts when that happens.
Building a trusting relationship with a therapist is pretty key to having a good working relationship.
If there are issues about it with them, it's best to discuss it right away, they need to be able to trust you as well.
To me, it's easier to do that with a therapist (and my psychologist), than it is with the people around me.
Sometimes it's hard to see what their lives are doing and trust can become sensitive, it's just the nature of those kinds of relationships.
Here on this forum, I think it is fair enough that any of us can speak freely about anything and each other as need be.
I learn a lot about things that way, sometimes it's difficult to see things from other perspectives, but when I do, it is always a learning experience.
We use PM's if it is something personal, and 'vaguebook' just isn't in the description of them. They are personal messages, nothing less than that.
I think trust is something we strive for here, and there is more than other places on the Internet, it is key to what the forum is here for.
I like that it has turned out this way.

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So do I.

And I feel protective of it.

Vent away, Erin.

Transparency can be healing, when it's in the right place. We work hard to do that here, even if paths are much different.

Because we all need each other here. W rd get passionate though don't we.

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I saw my therapist today for an intake interview. I'm looking forward to our sessions. I like how she pointed out that I "lit up" when talking about certain things, and she was so much more flexible and much easier to talk to than the psych who diagnosed me with Asperger's back in 2009. I just wish I didn't live away across town.

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My therapist is about 30 miles from me, my psychologist is 65 miles away.
Both are worth it.

[Taka]

that's still not very far. people in this area drive 30 miles twice a day just for work.
and my brother has to travel 80 miles to see a therapist. he's lucky it isn't over 100, where the next therapist is at.
i would have to travel around 1000 miles to see one of those few known gender therapists in this country, doctors with experience who know how to treat trans.
this would be the main reason why i haven't started transition years ago.

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Jul 27, 2015 9:04:34 GMT 8 Taka said:

that's still not very far. people in this area drive 30 miles twice a day just for work.
and my brother has to travel 80 miles to see a therapist. he's lucky it isn't over 100, where the next therapist is at.
i would have to travel around 1000 miles to see one of those few known gender therapists in this country, doctors with experience who know how to treat trans.
this would be the main reason why i haven't started transition years ago.

It wouldn't be a big deal for me if I had a car, and nobody here really likes driving too far unless they're going to see a band. My grandmother doesn't mind driving me there, but I have to try to work with her schedule as her niece often uses her car.

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Living where you do, across town is a long ways, even longer in time than out here in the country.
Public transportation to get across the city near here is a nightmare of transfers for most people.

I have my therapist schedule on an automatic schedule, same time, same day of week.
If that works for setting up rides with your grandmother, see if your therapist does that as well.
Mine likes it a lot, she can count on me being there without the hassles of rescheduling and filling time if there's a cancellation.
Disability SSI here, allows for up to 65 miles each way with a transport company here, I don't know if that works for you there...
It covers all medical and related (therapy). Might be worth it to check into it. It might be a state benefit, but it seems to me SSI covers it.

I use a privately owned transport company to take me where I need to go, and have people here who will drive me most places as well.
It's one of quite a few who work this area, but the one I use has new vehicles and the drivers are well vetted.
If I want to just ride, I simply sit in the back and they leave me alone, but I like to sit up front and talk most of the time.
I have a driver pick me up and most of the time they wait to bring me back, or another driver is there waiting.
I have them on an automatic scheduling as well, no muss or fuss, they confirm appts and rides a day ahead of time.