Cis male asks...

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Q: "Being a cis male, I'm kinda confused. I am attracted to women but I'm also attracted to trans women. Does this change my sexual orientation from hetro to anything else? I apologize if I sound ignorant, this is all new to me."

A: Being a woman is all about how you carry yourself, how you think and observe the world, how you treat others, and so on. Whether or not the biology is female, the woman is on the inside. The body is just a vessel for consciousness to experience the world.

A trans woman’s body, through HRT, essentially feminises, anyway, as best as it possibly can given the circumstances if you’re concerned about aesthetic appeal; but is that what really attracts you? Is that what makes you want to know them, be around them, and love them indefinitely? Highly doubtful. You love who she is far more than what her genetics are. That’s what matters.

So no, being attracted to a trans woman is definitely not a change of sexual orientation. If you were attracted to a man then it would be his masculinity that woos you, not the fact that he has a penis. The majority of trans men have vaginas. I seriously doubt you would be hitting on one just because of that. 

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If a cis male is attracted to a transwoman I do not see him as anything but straight as long as he is top. If he wants to be bottom still he can be cis but a little more to it. I won't be top. Hell I can't be because it don't get that way enough, but toys if he prefers. We all have kinks. Maybe a finger or whatever he wants if I like him but he needs to be as clean as I am before. He may have bi tendencies but that is OK.

But no I see cismales that like transwomen as straight because it is the femininity, the smell, the sensuality, the clothing, the hair and on and on that they are attracted to. So what if they like a little longer clitoris? I may only have two warm holes instead of three but the one under my nose I can take them to heaven because I know what to do. The other one will always be cleaner than a lot of vaginas. I have dated some women and my Ex never douched. To me that is plain nasty and I am bi but if a woman wants oral from me then she needs to be as clean for me as I am to a guy.

But any guy that is drawn to femininity whether trans or straight cis are straight as long as they are top. OK so a little prostate message, a lot of straight cis guys like that so a finger but for me, his has to be as clean as mine is for him.