What remains authentic from your birth sex?

[Whisper]

For those non-binary that feel authentic mixed female and male - or neither - what part of your birth sex remains, or is preferred?


for example: me, I communicate vocally masculine. I prefer short direct communication. I also don't alter my vocal resonance.

What are some other examples?

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My core...

and

My beard, by circumstances.

My, ummm, well I am a no op. That thing down there.

My voice. I just am not into pretending (this is for me, I am nonbinary mtf) that I need another voice. My voice however change as I socially morph, I am socially genderfluid and love it. And I wont shape brows or do ffs.

Actually, those three things are all that is left.

Physically I am hormonally transitioned to female. It continues on, but at 18 months in, I can look quite yummy.

I present socially as genderqueer, but its kinda subtle. And looks totally like I am supposed to look like this, absolutely natural. Authentic.

[Kelly]

Umm.. Good question..

I use the same voice I've always had - but it's also always been a little betwixt and between as far as gender goes. My presentation generally tends towards female - except the lazy days when I don't shave and allow a little stubble to show.

I'd say there are some visual cues too, but I seem to be the only one who notices those..

[EchelonHunt]

My phallus, ovaries and vagina. Breasts and uterus remain but they are due to be removed.

I tried altering my voice resonance since I got severe voice dysphoria at one stage. Since then, I've learned to accept my deepened voice and am thankful that it's somewhat gender neutral.

[Laura J]

My male body remains.. Not as useful as I'd like at this point, but it feels comfortable for now.. Kind of like slipping down into the seat of your first car, it kind of defines you.. Or me..

I'm realizeng more and more that my mind, thoughts and emotions are very female in nature, and always have been.. It's been imposible for me to see before, because I had no way to judge myself on those things.?
One of my basic Trans issues I'm learning about myself now is just that.

So I keep my male body, but actually my female thinking and emotions I keep also, since I've always had them, even though I didn't recognise it before..

I let go my old interests and hobbies, and music for that matter, and I truly enjoy the things I'm now more interested in, that fit my personality much better.

Thats all I know.. I'm sure in the future I'll be better able to express this topic..

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The little thing that most girls always laughed at until they figured out I could "talk" really good and "speak" their language.

The guys I dated really didn't care too much as long... Well this isn't the sexuality part of the forums so I will leave it at that. It's kind of killing me leaving it there but sorry.

[Ayla]

With the exception of ffs, beard and hair removal and an adjustment to different hormone mix everything else remains from my birth gender. However my brain now has access to the hormones it needs. Without dysphoria I am free to find and to express myself. In short I was always there, but suppressed and hidden under my birth assigned gender

Safe travels

Ails

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Dec 24, 2014 5:17:29 GMT 8 @julieblair said:

What remains of my birth sex, and I am going to interpret this a little more broadly, is not physical. There is nothing about my body that I would retain from my life as a man. All of that was, and will always be, wrong for me. Its shape has changed with HRT and exercise into something tolerable, but is not where I would willingly spend the rest of my days.  There is more to do as time and resources allow, for me to be made whole.

What remains of he who I tried so hard to be however, is a core of spirit that is strong, admirable, and in many ways very male. Had I been raised as a woman, I would not have been required to consider and make choices about war, the taking of human life, the importance of sentience, and other ethical considerations as I would not have faced compulsory military service. If I had been raised a girl, I probably would not have understood the impact of bullying on children, the courage to stand up for people I believed were oppressed, and many other social sensibilities with the immediacy that I have today. Rather I would have been the princess my father always wanted and spoiled silly.

Who I am today is built on the foundation of my experiences over most of six decades living as a male. He was an admirable person, and I love him. I will never abandon him nor deny his wisdom, but I will never again be him either. That river has flowed passed, and to do so would be to die.

Peace

Julie

As always Julie, keen introspectiveness. We are who we are and who we were yesterday is not who we are today and who we will be tomorrow is not who we are today. It builds. Yeah, we seemed to have gotten screwed by nature, but did we really though? Did nature maybe make us how we are for a reason? The Spirit in a wrong body and being able to use the Mental or psychological aspect of our gender perceptions and feelings at our cores and the physical brain with the way the brain works naturally. I have said this before but some people have spent years doing what we feel is natural, a disconnect between mind and body. Most people can't differentiate their Psyche form their physical bodies. Our Psyches feel the disconnect and it comes natural for us so in the end there has to be a rhyme and reason for it. I personally believe there is a really big reason for it. It has made me who I am. It has given me tremendous senses of emapathy, compassion and acceptance of everyone. Even those that can't accept me. It has taught me not to ever judge anyone for anything. Oh yeah I know right and wrong but I have no authority to judge. If I can't let it go then that is my loss.

We make our own destinies. We define who we are and if we are strong enough then we can go against the grain and redefine ourselves. Dysphoria sux but it is a push for self expression and defining yourself instead of letting society do it for you. I just hate that dysphoria is so painful to so many people when it can be used as a tool or a wake up call. I personally believe you have to go through hell to get to heaven not in a literal sense but in a philosophical sense. Without the pain, ecstacy is not nearly as peaceful or blissfull.