The blinding power of dysphoria

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I believe that the disaster that has taken place on another forum is the direct result of a collision of denial, anger at the cost of family losses, jealousy, and misperceptions of binary identity, yet I also believe that for the fully mtf or ftm, it can be their truth and judgement should not be passed, unless they invalidate to try to justify their actions of forcing binaries, to silence their cores.

This place will need to recognize that, the betrayal they feel is agony, if they had self deceived.



But for many, full transition is the only path to peace.  And it is fully their truth.

Just as being a Nonbinary no op transsexual is my own.

Thoughts?

[Taka]

dysphoria can be blinding.
i have also thought, i had to seek out a full transition.
no wonder, when nobody ever made a huge famous website that said it's ok to be both or neither.
all tg resources in norway seem to say you have to choose.
the harry benjamin resource center, only tg resource center we have, told me that unfortunately, nb people won't get help in this country.

it's not odd if people make choices that they only later realize were wrong.
in some cases, the choice may have been right at the time it was made, because they had no possibility of knowing better.
and in other cases, people make the wrong choice because the right one is too scary, and they don't dare trust the inner voice that tells them this is wrong.

my own role in this all, the way i see it,
is to be here to tell people there are all kinds of choices you can make, and all of them are good, as long as you are true to yourself.
there is nothing you have to prove, even when professionals and big communities say you must be this or that.
knowing yourself is the most important thing, every step of the way.

when you know yourself, you are so much stronger to tell dysphoria that a different solution will be better.
or to lie when it is necessary, while still knowing this is a lie out of necessity, and not a truth that you are just not seeing like "everybody else" does.

being able to speak freely, without fear of being corrected, is one of the best ways to find yourself.
at least it was the best way for me to find myself.


another side of it all, is to allow regret.
there's no shame in regretting a choice.
and no shame in backing down, turning around, finding a new way, when you see that the road you are walking leads somewhere you don't really want to go.

and to give love a chance to prove itself stronger than death.
the only case where i'd tell someone they're wrong in acting out of love, is when they're caught in a blind love that tells them to harm others for their love's sake, even when their love is not in danger of being harmed. those cases are rare though...
for as long as love will hold and comfort or self sacrifice rather than sacrifice others, can we say the decision is wrong?


i'm not going to tell anyone what the right decision for their life is though.
it's all up to you. don't let anyone tell you what is right, find it out for yourself, and tell us about your discoveries if you want to.

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Brilliant.  Someone still kept there minds intact.  I am pleased.  That was perfect.

[Ayla]

Taka

I am not sure that I can add anything. Dysphoria can blind but it is never a necessary and sufficient condition precedent for invalidation, hectoring, ridicule or insult. Folk can be evil, they can also be nasty - lets not excuse all bad behavior on the basis of dysphoria.

Safe travels

Aisla