Post by EchelonHunt on May 28, 2015 19:03:50 GMT 8
Pikachu:
Delete my account. I'm not staying here where two people can crucify a woman for doing nothing more than saying "Awwww" in reply to someone saying they were happy to see her, and then the admin decides to erase it all.
I invited her back here. She missed her friends. I thought better of the people here. Mariah is a mod on the previous place. So fucking what? So is my girlfriend. Many members here are also members over there. Most of us came from over there. This isn't war. This is ridiculous.
If you all want to keep on perpetuating hate and fighting, go right ahead. But you can count me out.
EchelonHunt:
I deleted it because the replies had gone off topic. I don't condone hate and fighting, it hurts you would assume I do
I am going to speak to the members involved. The previous place is not meant to be brought up on forum because it triggers people who are vulnerable like Mark and Trinity.
If you still want to delete your account, let me know.
Pikachu:
No... Sorry, Jacey. I'm a bit of a hothead. It just made me so mad. Mariah did not bring up the previous place or say anything to either Ativan or Trinity. Mark (Laura) was happy to see her.
It just made me so fucking mad...
Urgggh.
You're right. I'm sorry for jumping the gun and accusing you.
Pikachu:
I'm a little confused... Mariah is claiming she's been IP banned from this site. I don't understand why that would be the case.
Pikachu:
She only wants to be able to view as a guest again. She said she won't rejoin. She doesn't want to cause trouble.
EchelonHunt:
Please. Stop. I banned her because everyone needs time to cool down. I don't know why she needs to view the site as a guest and frankly, I don't care.
I am on my way to my appointment to see a surgeon about top surgery. I don't need anymore stress. Please, just give me time and I will sort things out once and for all.
Pikachu:
Oh what the fuck ever. Go ahead and delete me then. So sorry doing your fucking job is so stressful. I won't be around to trouble you any more.
EchelonHunt:
I am the only person running this website. I'm sorry that I cannot drop everything to cater to your demands.
This was discussed in PM, normally I would not share this due to privacy but given the way things turned out, I felt it would set an example to everyone that this behaviour isn't acceptable.
I understand Stephanie was hurting because she felt her friend was driven away, she was hurt and angry so she lashed out at me because I was an easy target.
I was someone she could blame and place all responsibility onto for everything that had happened.
Deleting her account and banning her IP address was the hardest thing I had to do. I had enjoyed her company on the forum, especially in the weight loss thread and enjoyed reading her responses to Aisla's articles.
She's not the only one whose friend has been banned from this forum. Yeah, it sucks but guess what? Life isn't fair and being transgender and/or non-binary, we understand that more than anyone else.
Juggling transitioning, studies, work and life all at once is stressful enough for me, throw forum stuff over the top, my breaking point was evidently shown in my message to Stephanie.
I'm not saying all this to get sympathy and I'm not showing this to encourage people to bash her. That is not what this is about.
I like to think I'm kind and lenient. Yes, behind the scenes, I have to make hard decisions in order to do what I believe would be in the forum's best interests... to keep it the safe place it can be, it should be.
Help me keep it that way. Let's continue to be respectful to one another, to be compassionate, to never jump to conclusions, to inquire, to share information and experiences, to seek advice on your journey.
I tried to be patient with Stephanie but I am finding lately that I have zero tolerance for the attitude she displayed towards me.
Kind regards,
Jacey
Delete my account. I'm not staying here where two people can crucify a woman for doing nothing more than saying "Awwww" in reply to someone saying they were happy to see her, and then the admin decides to erase it all.
I invited her back here. She missed her friends. I thought better of the people here. Mariah is a mod on the previous place. So fucking what? So is my girlfriend. Many members here are also members over there. Most of us came from over there. This isn't war. This is ridiculous.
If you all want to keep on perpetuating hate and fighting, go right ahead. But you can count me out.
EchelonHunt:
I deleted it because the replies had gone off topic. I don't condone hate and fighting, it hurts you would assume I do
I am going to speak to the members involved. The previous place is not meant to be brought up on forum because it triggers people who are vulnerable like Mark and Trinity.
If you still want to delete your account, let me know.
Pikachu:
No... Sorry, Jacey. I'm a bit of a hothead. It just made me so mad. Mariah did not bring up the previous place or say anything to either Ativan or Trinity. Mark (Laura) was happy to see her.
It just made me so fucking mad...
Urgggh.
You're right. I'm sorry for jumping the gun and accusing you.
Pikachu:
I'm a little confused... Mariah is claiming she's been IP banned from this site. I don't understand why that would be the case.
Pikachu:
She only wants to be able to view as a guest again. She said she won't rejoin. She doesn't want to cause trouble.
EchelonHunt:
Please. Stop. I banned her because everyone needs time to cool down. I don't know why she needs to view the site as a guest and frankly, I don't care.
I am on my way to my appointment to see a surgeon about top surgery. I don't need anymore stress. Please, just give me time and I will sort things out once and for all.
Pikachu:
Oh what the fuck ever. Go ahead and delete me then. So sorry doing your fucking job is so stressful. I won't be around to trouble you any more.
EchelonHunt:
I am the only person running this website. I'm sorry that I cannot drop everything to cater to your demands.
This was discussed in PM, normally I would not share this due to privacy but given the way things turned out, I felt it would set an example to everyone that this behaviour isn't acceptable.
I understand Stephanie was hurting because she felt her friend was driven away, she was hurt and angry so she lashed out at me because I was an easy target.
I was someone she could blame and place all responsibility onto for everything that had happened.
Deleting her account and banning her IP address was the hardest thing I had to do. I had enjoyed her company on the forum, especially in the weight loss thread and enjoyed reading her responses to Aisla's articles.
She's not the only one whose friend has been banned from this forum. Yeah, it sucks but guess what? Life isn't fair and being transgender and/or non-binary, we understand that more than anyone else.
Juggling transitioning, studies, work and life all at once is stressful enough for me, throw forum stuff over the top, my breaking point was evidently shown in my message to Stephanie.
I'm not saying all this to get sympathy and I'm not showing this to encourage people to bash her. That is not what this is about.
I like to think I'm kind and lenient. Yes, behind the scenes, I have to make hard decisions in order to do what I believe would be in the forum's best interests... to keep it the safe place it can be, it should be.
Help me keep it that way. Let's continue to be respectful to one another, to be compassionate, to never jump to conclusions, to inquire, to share information and experiences, to seek advice on your journey.
I tried to be patient with Stephanie but I am finding lately that I have zero tolerance for the attitude she displayed towards me.
Kind regards,
Jacey