Post by TDude on Dec 11, 2014 0:23:16 GMT 8
I haven't done the classical relationship thing since forever but I got pretty much knowlegde of age diffrence thought my short life.
when I was 14 I began hanging out with guys older than me. I had a friend he was 42 and he was in love with his roommate at 18, I also had a friend from Italy, He was 21 and I was 14 and I was SOOOO attracted to him and excganged sexy messages beside casual talk nearly every night for a few years.
as I turned 18 I hanged out with a guy near his 30th and from I was 17-19 I hanged out with a few people around the age of 30 (+-)
Some of my other friend was also pretty young 15-18 who had a chrushes on people much older (28-50), One of my friend also had a sexual relationship with one of them.
I don't feel it too uncommon specially in the queer comunity, where ages are mixed and many start making trusting bonds because we meet people which (for some of us) are the first people who understand us, and can truely help and relate to us. I also feel as I mention in the peter pan thread, that many transpeople dont really fit our current age, at least thats how I felt when I was younger. I am not that much attracted to older guys, I felt guys around my age and younger is better looking , But I had a difficult time to relate to many of them and therefore my attraction mostly been for older people. one of my friend is exemple 15, he is pretty in love with me, I told him age dosent matter and his goodlooking and everything but our state in life dose not fit at all, neither dose our mental age so therefore I think if we where to be together it would be the worst idea ever, not because he is so young but because our mentality and goal dosent fit. When I heard of non-prejugde people speaking about age diffrence, they pretty much say the same, that its more about your goals in life and your mentality than about peoples age.
one thing to have in mind is there is way more discrimination of people from mixed age groups, specially when you are young you can easly recive alot of bad comments or fingers pointet or the worse. Due to this ignorance I often kept many of my friendship with older people a secret from those who probably only wanted me the best, and that is actually more harmfull because you then cant go to anyone for advice like you can with regular friendships or relationships.
One have to know theres this extra hatred, but in general I am positive of age diffrence, One of the people I have known to had what I consider the best relationships I seen, Was my moms friend and her husband. They get to know each other when She was working as a hairdresser and got a little boy as a customer. The little boy said he wanted to marrige her and she thought he was silly, When he grew up he still liked her and they eventually got marriged and been so untill she died in ther 40ties of cancer.
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when I was 14 I began hanging out with guys older than me. I had a friend he was 42 and he was in love with his roommate at 18, I also had a friend from Italy, He was 21 and I was 14 and I was SOOOO attracted to him and excganged sexy messages beside casual talk nearly every night for a few years.
as I turned 18 I hanged out with a guy near his 30th and from I was 17-19 I hanged out with a few people around the age of 30 (+-)
Some of my other friend was also pretty young 15-18 who had a chrushes on people much older (28-50), One of my friend also had a sexual relationship with one of them.
I don't feel it too uncommon specially in the queer comunity, where ages are mixed and many start making trusting bonds because we meet people which (for some of us) are the first people who understand us, and can truely help and relate to us. I also feel as I mention in the peter pan thread, that many transpeople dont really fit our current age, at least thats how I felt when I was younger. I am not that much attracted to older guys, I felt guys around my age and younger is better looking , But I had a difficult time to relate to many of them and therefore my attraction mostly been for older people. one of my friend is exemple 15, he is pretty in love with me, I told him age dosent matter and his goodlooking and everything but our state in life dose not fit at all, neither dose our mental age so therefore I think if we where to be together it would be the worst idea ever, not because he is so young but because our mentality and goal dosent fit. When I heard of non-prejugde people speaking about age diffrence, they pretty much say the same, that its more about your goals in life and your mentality than about peoples age.
one thing to have in mind is there is way more discrimination of people from mixed age groups, specially when you are young you can easly recive alot of bad comments or fingers pointet or the worse. Due to this ignorance I often kept many of my friendship with older people a secret from those who probably only wanted me the best, and that is actually more harmfull because you then cant go to anyone for advice like you can with regular friendships or relationships.
One have to know theres this extra hatred, but in general I am positive of age diffrence, One of the people I have known to had what I consider the best relationships I seen, Was my moms friend and her husband. They get to know each other when She was working as a hairdresser and got a little boy as a customer. The little boy said he wanted to marrige her and she thought he was silly, When he grew up he still liked her and they eventually got marriged and been so untill she died in ther 40ties of cancer.
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