Happy Mother's Day to me...

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I'm getting really tired of having to be a parent to the people I live with. Everyone is in their late 20s but have the responsibility level of a teenager. I shouldn't have to remove someone's clothes from the washer and dryer every time I need to do mine. I certainly wouldn't want someone doing that with my clothes, especially if something I've washed needs to be hang-dried. I'm not a mother, but I certainly could use this day as a break.

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The clothes in the wash smelled of mildew, because it's been sitting in there since Friday. I just threw it in the dryer. If I have to deal with it then they're getting smelly clothes. I don't give a fuck anymore.

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*hugs* I have to do this with my parent's clothes every time I go to visit. Every time I go to do my laundry, both washer and drier are piled full and I have to do everyone else's clothes before I can do my own. Yeah, it's a pain.

Happy mother's day, Arin.

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May 10, 2015 21:49:48 GMT 8 @pikachu said:

*hugs* I have to do this with my parent's clothes every time I go to visit. Every time I go to do my laundry, both washer and drier are piled full and I have to do everyone else's clothes before I can do my own. Yeah, it's a pain.

Happy mother's day, Arin.

Wow. It's pretty sad when your own parents are that lazy.

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Speaking of, I guess my mum should be awake by now. Better call her since it's mother's day.

I hope the rest of your day is less annoying. I'm glad I don't live with roommates.

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May 10, 2015 20:11:53 GMT 8 @illuminess said:

I'm getting really tired of having to be a parent to the people I live with. Everyone is in their late 20s but have the responsibility level of a teenager. I shouldn't have to remove someone's clothes from the washer and dryer every time I need to do mine. I certainly wouldn't want someone doing that with my clothes, especially if something I've washed needs to be hang-dried. I'm not a mother, but I certainly could use this day as a break.

Well Guy clothes? They get dried and put in a clothes basket and when I need them I find them. Panties, bras and woman clothes I take really good care of. Either dried or hung to dry. Even ironed if need be. But guy clothes? I would rather be a slob of a guy. No one even suspects. I guess  that is my "incognito".

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When my girls were in their first few years of grade school, I ended up not living with them, except on and off until they were in High School.
I took care of them from infants on, except for the few times their mother took off with them, to punish me. She failed whenever she did.
Before the first time I wasn't living with them, their mother barely took care of them , they were more like something she liked to show off.
I was the one who changed their diapers, cooked them food, showed them how to do things, read them stories, bandaged them up when needed.
I took care of them, they came to me when they got hurt, wanted something, sat by me to watch movies, etc. They have a horrible mother.
When I wasn't living with them, I would stop by and check up on my girls and would look in the laundry room, like always washer and dryer full.
Cat box overflowing, kitty litter everywhere. There were times that the washer had mold growing on the clothes... Mildew maxed out, black mold.
I'd talk to them or their mother and they just took what they could find out of the dryer, but as soon as they sweated even a little, that mildew smell was there.
Bedrooms had clothes covering the floors, stacked on stuff. Their mother told me one time it was easier to take them to Goodwill, than to do the wash.
Sink full of dirty dishes and full of water that reeked. She took them to McDonald's instead of cooking, but then she couldn't cook anyways.
Always, at least the younger one, they would complain to me about stuff that their mother could have taken care of. I tried to stay a few times.
Just couldn't stand to be around their mother for more than a day or less. As a person, she's a master manipulator, as a mother she fails.
When my girls entered High School, their mother latched onto and brought home a guy who made lots of money. He bought my girls love, didn't earn it.
So now, their mother is the best there can be, she can afford to give them the best and whatever they want. They know how to take care of themselves.
They both excel at most everything they do, are almost on their own now... As am I.
They barely acknowledge me, their mother has them convinced that before rich guy came along, everything that was wrong was my fault.
But they really do know, in the last couple years, every so often they ask me about things, and I tell them the truth. They get it.
That everything they have become is because I helped them, taught them to be better. I think they would have on their own, but their mother never did a thing.
She paid for their love as well. I know they get it, it's mothers day and they acknowledge their mother in the ways she likes, to be told she is the best.
But I know better and I think my girls do to. They acknowledged me yesterday, in their own ways.
Happy Mother's Day, their mother deserves all that she bought of it.
Happy Mothers Day, I earned it.

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Last night, I go into the kitchen to get some food. I go to get a plate and fork and there's nothing in the cupboard, nothing in the drawer, and nothing in the dishwasher. Everything was fucking dirty. My house mate Ricky was in there and I got irate and yelled. I rarely get mad like that, but every time I have Ricky starts on his "if you want to leave, I'll understand" routine. Instead of getting on everyone's case about keeping shit clean, I just get the "there's the door" routine. I'm the fucking enemy for getting mad about everyone else's lack of sense of responsibility. I always wash the dishes I use right after I use them and put them back. All I'm asking for the same courtesy. Ricky can't be bothered, though, because he doesn't want conflict. He'd rather put up with everyone's crap so he doesn't lose them as "friends", although he's quick to let me go over something I didn't even do. If I could leave here, I would, but I have no options, and I can't afford my own place. I could seriously scream right now.

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May 13, 2015 1:52:42 GMT 8 @illuminess said:

Last night, I go into the kitchen to get some food. I go to get a plate and fork and there's nothing in the cupboard, nothing in the drawer, and nothing in the dishwasher. Everything was fucking dirty. My house mate Ricky was in there and I got irate and yelled. I rarely get mad like that, but every time I have Ricky starts on his "if you want to leave, I'll understand" routine. Instead of getting on everyone's case about keeping shit clean, I just get the "there's the door" routine. I'm the fucking enemy for getting mad about everyone else's lack of sense of responsibility. I always wash the dishes I use right after I use them and put them back. All I'm asking for the same courtesy. Ricky can't be bothered, though, because he doesn't want conflict. He'd rather put up with everyone's crap so he doesn't lose them as "friends", although he's quick to let me go over something I didn't even do. If I could leave here, I would, but I have no options, and I can't afford my own place. I could seriously scream right now.

Really Arin? None of my business but are all your roommates guys? So maybe it is time to hit the door. Why can't you leave? What are you in? If I seem to remember something about TX then some places are really cheap. Well I do the house work because I have the time. I hate washing dishes but do it anyway. My BF won't and all the time before we opened up to each other I thought he was gay. I have never seen a gay guy such a slob. But GB him or GD him. But he goes to work everyday to take care of his business and mine takes care of itself and unless I get a creative hair then all the stuff gets done. Now that is me and a guy that I am in a relationship with and an aging parent so I am the woman of the house which don't mean shit. If the tables were turned and I was an actual guy and my BF was my GF and went to work everyday then I would still do the same. But when it comes to room mates, I could not live with slobs. So scream, cuss and let it out. Keep paper plates and plastic spoons in your own room and your own pots and pans, all you need is one of each and cook your own stuff and clean your own stuff. eventually they will get the hint. 

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May 13, 2015 5:00:00 GMT 8 @jamie said:

May 13, 2015 1:52:42 GMT 8 @illuminess said:

Last night, I go into the kitchen to get some food. I go to get a plate and fork and there's nothing in the cupboard, nothing in the drawer, and nothing in the dishwasher. Everything was fucking dirty. My house mate Ricky was in there and I got irate and yelled. I rarely get mad like that, but every time I have Ricky starts on his "if you want to leave, I'll understand" routine. Instead of getting on everyone's case about keeping shit clean, I just get the "there's the door" routine. I'm the fucking enemy for getting mad about everyone else's lack of sense of responsibility. I always wash the dishes I use right after I use them and put them back. All I'm asking for the same courtesy. Ricky can't be bothered, though, because he doesn't want conflict. He'd rather put up with everyone's crap so he doesn't lose them as "friends", although he's quick to let me go over something I didn't even do. If I could leave here, I would, but I have no options, and I can't afford my own place. I could seriously scream right now.

Really Arin? None of my business but are all your roommates guys? So maybe it is time to hit the door. Why can't you leave? What are you in? If I seem to remember something about TX then some places are really cheap. Well I do the house work because I have the time. I hate washing dishes but do it anyway. My BF won't and all the time before we opened up to each other I thought he was gay. I have never seen a gay guy such a slob. But GB him or GD him. But he goes to work everyday to take care of his business and mine takes care of itself and unless I get a creative hair then all the stuff gets done. Now that is me and a guy that I am in a relationship with and an aging parent so I am the woman of the house which don't mean shit. If the tables were turned and I was an actual guy and my BF was my GF and went to work everyday then I would still do the same. But when it comes to room mates, I could not live with slobs. So scream, cuss and let it out. Keep paper plates and plastic spoons in your own room and your own pots and pans, all you need is one of each and cook your own stuff and clean your own stuff. eventually they will get the hint. 

It's really sad that men are the ones who usually tend to be slobs, expecting the women of the house to clean up after them. There are three guys here. One of them will put dishes in the sink covered in food they didn't finish, and not even rinse them. I have to run hot water over them so the food doesn't stick. Dishwashers are mainly for the purpose of sanitising, not scrubbing. I always handwash everything, though, with scolding hot water. I don't like things piling up. My house mate Erica wrote out a list of things for people to do, and nobody pays any attention to it. I'm the only one who ever vocalises my frustrations, though, so I end up being the bitch. Ricky would soon show me the door than stick up for me, because he doesn't want the "conflict" and is afraid people might stop being his "friend". I'm a better friend to him than anyone in this house, and yet I'm treated as if I'm not allowed to be mad and that my feelings don't fucking matter.

I wish I could leave, but I just can't. I can barely afford the $200 a month that I pay to stay here. I really have no other options right now. Keeping paper plates and stuff won't make them get any hints, trust me. They won't give a shit.

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May 13, 2015 5:16:40 GMT 8 @illuminess said:

May 13, 2015 5:00:00 GMT 8 @jamie said:

Really Arin? None of my business but are all your roommates guys? So maybe it is time to hit the door. Why can't you leave? What are you in? If I seem to remember something about TX then some places are really cheap. Well I do the house work because I have the time. I hate washing dishes but do it anyway. My BF won't and all the time before we opened up to each other I thought he was gay. I have never seen a gay guy such a slob. But GB him or GD him. But he goes to work everyday to take care of his business and mine takes care of itself and unless I get a creative hair then all the stuff gets done. Now that is me and a guy that I am in a relationship with and an aging parent so I am the woman of the house which don't mean shit. If the tables were turned and I was an actual guy and my BF was my GF and went to work everyday then I would still do the same. But when it comes to room mates, I could not live with slobs. So scream, cuss and let it out. Keep paper plates and plastic spoons in your own room and your own pots and pans, all you need is one of each and cook your own stuff and clean your own stuff. eventually they will get the hint. 

It's really sad that men are the ones who usually tend to be slobs, expecting the women of the house to clean up after them. There are three guys here. One of them will put dishes in the sink covered in food they didn't finish, and not even rinse them. I have to run hot water over them so the food doesn't stick. Dishwashers are mainly for the purpose of sanitising, not scrubbing. I always handwash everything, though, with scolding hot water. I don't like things piling up. My house mate Erica wrote out a list of things for people to do, and nobody pays any attention to it. I'm the only one who ever vocalises my frustrations, though, so I end up being the bitch. Ricky would soon show me the door than stick up for me, because he doesn't want the "conflict" and is afraid people might stop being his "friend". I'm a better friend to him than anyone in this house, and yet I'm treated as if I'm not allowed to be mad and that my feelings don't fucking matter.

I wish I could leave, but I just can't. I can barely afford the $200 a month that I pay to stay here. I really have no other options right now. Keeping paper plates and stuff won't make them get any hints, trust me. They won't give a shit.

Yeah it is and some aren't but welcome to the happy world of genders. OK so my SO takes care of the stuff outside the house, he does work at his place of business. I check the computer to see how my business is going and take care of an elderly parent and I guess I am the woman of the house. But with me they are family and not room mates. Well in La my BF and I can't marry but are still in a relationship. So I do take care of the hearth and home. Yeah it sux because it just plays into the gender stereotypes but I love it. But like I said, my house. My BF's girlfriend and my Dad's Daughter/Son.

Sounds like womanhood to me. We just have to make it matter and let them know it matters. Friends or Boyfriends or Husbands. But I would rather do shit myself anyway. When he washes dishes, OMG.! Really? He don't let them soak and never pays attention to what is left on the dishes. I will do them myself thank you. SO maybe 200 dollars is more than you should be paying if you are doing the dishes and so on. Tell them you want 150 dollars per month for keeping the dishes clean and even the common area. Then your rent will only be 50 dollars a month.

Nope. Keeping paper plates and plastic forks, knives and spoons won't make a difference. But having your own shit to cook with and clean will. Leave them to themselves. Clean your own stuff and lock our stuff up so they can't get to it. Eventually they will have to clean or get sick.

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May 13, 2015 5:58:13 GMT 8 @jamie said:

May 13, 2015 5:16:40 GMT 8 @illuminess said:

It's really sad that men are the ones who usually tend to be slobs, expecting the women of the house to clean up after them. There are three guys here. One of them will put dishes in the sink covered in food they didn't finish, and not even rinse them. I have to run hot water over them so the food doesn't stick. Dishwashers are mainly for the purpose of sanitising, not scrubbing. I always handwash everything, though, with scolding hot water. I don't like things piling up. My house mate Erica wrote out a list of things for people to do, and nobody pays any attention to it. I'm the only one who ever vocalises my frustrations, though, so I end up being the bitch. Ricky would soon show me the door than stick up for me, because he doesn't want the "conflict" and is afraid people might stop being his "friend". I'm a better friend to him than anyone in this house, and yet I'm treated as if I'm not allowed to be mad and that my feelings don't fucking matter.

I wish I could leave, but I just can't. I can barely afford the $200 a month that I pay to stay here. I really have no other options right now. Keeping paper plates and stuff won't make them get any hints, trust me. They won't give a shit.

Yeah it is and some aren't but welcome to the happy world of genders. OK so my SO takes care of the stuff outside the house, he does work at his place of business. I check the computer to see how my business is going and take care of an elderly parent and I guess I am the woman of the house. But with me they are family and not room mates. Well in La my BF and I can't marry but are still in a relationship. So I do take care of the hearth and home. Yeah it sux because it just plays into the gender stereotypes but I love it. But like I said, my house. My BF's girlfriend and my Dad's Daughter/Son.

Sounds like womanhood to me. We just have to make it matter and let them know it matters. Friends or Boyfriends or Husbands. But I would rather do shit myself anyway. When he washes dishes, OMG.! Really? He don't let them soak and never pays attention to what is left on the dishes. I will do them myself thank you. SO maybe 200 dollars is more than you should be paying if you are doing the dishes and so on. Tell them you want 150 dollars per month for keeping the dishes clean and even the common area. Then your rent will only be 50 dollars a month.

Nope. Keeping paper plates and plastic forks, knives and spoons won't make a difference. But having your own shit to cook with and clean will. Leave them to themselves. Clean your own stuff and lock our stuff up so they can't get to it. Eventually they will have to clean or get sick.

The situation here is a bit sketchy. The house belongs to Ricky's mother, and I pay her the $200 a month. She doesn't know the other people are staying here, or at least pretends not to know. So, I can't really make that kind of demand. Two of the people here will be moving an a month or two, and one of them is the guy who is the super slob. The other one is his girlfriend who is just as negligent. Erica and I are the only ones, though, that keep this place as tidy as possible. We also have some Mexican ladies (who speak no English) who come clean twice a month. They do a half-ass job, and never finish any laundry they start.

If Ricky had his way he'd just let them take care of everything. If he could afford it he would probably pay people to grocery shop for him, too. He's 30 years old and still has the responsibility level of a child. I mean, he is autistic so his emotional maturity is a bit stunted, but that's no excuse. I was born with Asperger's, and I forced myself to learn as much as I can, because I don't like relying on people. I don't know how these people are going to take care of themselves when mommy isn't around anymore. No respectable woman is going to want to be with some pathetic man-child. Not in the long-term, anyway.