[ti]question[/ti]Baldness and non-binary presentation

[mons]

So I'm AMAB and non-binary and have recently started experiencing gender dysphoria due to my pattern balding getting worse. I want to start experimenting with presenting androgynous/NB and my rubbish hair feels like the one secondary sex characteristic I can't do anything about unless I wanted to go down the route of transplants, wigs etc.

I'm thinking about what just embracing it and shaving my head would look/feel like for me. When I spoke to a therapist about it they suggested finding examples of bald people I would like to look like, rather than ruminating on images of hyper-masculine cis-guys that come into my head whenever I think of baldness. Which is easier said than done because the bald is beautiful thing is overwhelmingly directed at cis-women/AFAB people. The AMAB non-binary people I came across pull it off because they have a different face shape to mine (I have a massive forehead), their voices are more feminine, and they work in the art/performance world so can get away with bolder makeup/clothes (I'm a teacher so no chance!). Even if I worked on feminising my voice and changed careers the forehead would still be an issue.

Anyway I guess what I'm asking for is examples of bald AMAB non-binary people for inspiration. Also any tips on the forehead issue would be great ><

Thank you so much ^^

[Ativan Prescribed]

Shave your head to find out, I mean it will grow back and its just a look, think of it in terms of like a very short haircut maybe.
One of the most difficult things unless you are doing a transition is to accept how you look, regardless.
I look very masculine even with hair that goes halfway to my waist, and it does because I just hate getting a haircut, haven't had one in ten-fifteen years now.
Its like getting old, you can do various things but you are always going to look older no matter what you do, taking good care of your skin and eating healthy is about all you can do unless you get radical about it and eventually you are going to look old anyways.
Trying to look like who you just can't look like is the normal for most people, you can make some changes but a lot of things just remain the same basically.
Frustration over not being able to look different than you do is the biggest frustration most NB people have, accepting yourself and looks goes a long ways in being happy as NB.
On the other hand there are a lot of tricks of the trade for like people in performance role jobs etc., and those are carefully done and take a lot of practice because it isn't a matter of just do this, it has to fit you and the look you are going after.
I think something like learning those kinds of things and how they can be applied to any single person is more than just learning how to use makeup, its in how you move and how you talk, so learning to change your voice as well as learning how to change your mannerisms might be a process that you can do, over time and depending on how proficient you can be at it, I think not only will you learn how to do it but also learn how to accept yourself because you are who you are as the basis for everything you want to accomplish.
It's like learning anything, you are only as good as you can be and for some people thats limiting, but the beauty of life is that you have so many things and ways to get from here to there.
Its going to be about the journey, its never about the destination, you get there soon enough, as in if you could just Poof! and be exactly what you want, then what are you going to do?
The getting to the destination is never really what its about, its about the journey, thats where you learn about yourself, about others, about how you can expand your worldview and learn to be less frustrated because the grass just seems to be greener over there.....

[Trinity]

Look up Skakina Nayfack.

They rock bald or wigged, stage and film performer, was in the last installment of Transparent and they are pretty much just like they are in that show.

They just are very genuine, they don't play any of it up, dress how they like, present how they like, no voice mod really, they just are who they are.

Just saying.

But the bottom line is that they are NB, bald, secure in themself, kind, wild for sure, but they rock who they are.

And that's the thing with NB, you can rock who you are.

Right now I have short grey hair and a beard. I also am still full mtf hormone transitioned, but I am not mtf trans. Its been a long journey with unexpected results.

Just be you.

[mons]

Thanks for the responses!

I'm trying to work on the "change the things you can't accept, accept the things you can't change" thing. It's the part about learning to tell the difference that's the most difficult. 

Ativan Prescribed- I appreciate you saying frustration with appearance/struggling to accept this is common among NB people, that makes me feel a lot less alone in all this. 

Trinity- I'll look them up, thank you.