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Post by cayce on Oct 26, 2019 17:27:06 GMT 8
Hi everyone! I'm Cayce. Well, Cayce is not my real name but I like it as a pseudonym.
I arrived here because I've been struggling with my gender for a long time and finally on International Coming Out Day I made the leap of acknowledging, as much to myself as to a small group of online friends, that I am agender. Since that moment I've been feeling desperately in need of validation and so here I am, hoping to find "my people".
I was assigned female at birth. I identify as a human being, and as "me". I would prefer not to have to think about my gender at all, but society keeps shoving it in my face. My continued and inescapable discomfort with the assumptions people make about me based on their perception of me as a woman, is what has eventually led me to realise that I am not, in fact, a woman. At least according to society's definitions. I don't innately understand the concept of gender, and therefore can't apply it to myself. But over the course of the 23 years I've been alive, I've learnt some (not all - to my occasional embarrassment) of the rules about binary gender in society, so I understand just enough to know that I'm not a woman.
Look forward to getting to know you all and I will post a more in depth bio in the forums in a bit
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Post by Maka on Oct 26, 2019 19:03:55 GMT 8
Hi Cayce, nice to meet you and welcome here;) Honestly, you don’t need any validation for you to be you, especially from that outer world, right, it’s just that, you are always you regardless of what they say or imply. Being yourself is the only thing which is constant in this world, everything can change, friends, habits, style, appearance, the way of thinking, anything, but yourself will remain yourself regardless. Everyone is free to either squeeze themself into a set rules/expectations of the outside and be “free” in that tight frame don’t ever minding who they are; or find/reveal/brought back to light/connect to their deeper self, step back a bit, observe those silly rules of Game that people playing all over and over again, smile and lead their own way. You’ve just acknowledged to yourself that you are you so you are free to be yourself. :hugs:
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Oct 27, 2019 8:32:26 GMT 8
There are no rules to gender, it is yours to do with as you please. When it comes right down to it, nobody can actually explain what gender is without making a shitload of assumptions that might work for them, but not others. There is no such a thing as assigned gender at birth, you get assigned a sex and that is always questionable, because they give you one otr another and never consider that there are more than just that. Your gender is not the same thing as your sex, but to the people who choose theirs this way, its true, but they can't just apply what is true for them as a truism for the universe, they only occupy their own small space, not yours.
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Post by Trinity on Oct 27, 2019 8:50:19 GMT 8
Hi everyone! I'm Cayce. Well, Cayce is not my real name but I like it as a pseudonym.
I arrived here because I've been struggling with my gender for a long time and finally on International Coming Out Day I made the leap of acknowledging, as much to myself as to a small group of online friends, that I am agender. Since that moment I've been feeling desperately in need of validation and so here I am, hoping to find "my people".
I was assigned female at birth. I identify as a human being, and as "me". I would prefer not to have to think about my gender at all, but society keeps shoving it in my face. My continued and inescapable discomfort with the assumptions people make about me based on their perception of me as a woman, is what has eventually led me to realise that I am not, in fact, a woman. At least according to society's definitions. I don't innately understand the concept of gender, and therefore can't apply it to myself. But over the course of the 23 years I've been alive, I've learnt some (not all - to my occasional embarrassment) of the rules about binary gender in society, so I understand just enough to know that I'm not a woman.
Look forward to getting to know you all and I will post a more in depth bio in the forums in a bit You certainly are in the right place here. Welcome
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cayce
New Member
Posts: 3
Gender: Agender
Presentation: Fluid
Pronouns: They/Their/Them
Orientation: Pansexual
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Nov 8, 2019 16:58:05 GMT 8
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Oct 19, 2019 10:39:34 GMT 8
October 2019
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Hi!
Oct 27, 2019 11:00:05 GMT 8
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Post by cayce on Oct 27, 2019 11:00:05 GMT 8
You’ve just acknowledged to yourself that you are you so you are free to be yourself. I love this! Yeah it truly feels liberating, I've broken out of my own cage, now I just need to break out of the cages other people have put me in. Thank you for your lovely responses, everyone. It's an amazing feeling to know that there are other people who think like me.
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