Post by justjg on Jan 28, 2019 18:53:00 GMT 8
Hi all
Phew - it's great to be here! I came across this forum a few days ago and was delighted to find people that seemed to be going through the same things I am.
I've struggled with gender issues my whole life, but grew up in a very strict religious environment where anything remotely right or left of centre was not accepted. Fast forward 45 years and I finally had a seminal moment where everything finally made sense. That moment was the 1st May 2018 and I've been on a path of authenticity ever since then. I'm married and my wife, family and friends have been incredibly supportive which has been a great help. The early days were filled with reading as much as I could about being transgender as I believed that I was MTF transgender and hadn't really come across non-binary or anything similar. I went to see a gender specialist who confirmed my dysphoria and suggested that I start on HRT. I gave this some thought and started investigating side effects and talking through the options with my wife. The truth is that I just didn't feel that my gender dysphoria was that bad that I wanted to take the risks. I was also worried about the effect on libido and my relationship with my wife.
So, for the past 6 months or so I've been attacking my gender dysphoria on a physical level - laser treatment for the beard and nuking as much body hair as possible. I also wear light make up and wear earrings. I came out to friends and work colleagues in November and present as much as a I can in a non-androgynous way. Left to my own devices I'm happy in a pair of trousers (jeans, chinos or cords) and a blouse or shirt with. All of my clothes are women's clothes and I through out all of my "boy clothes" last September. I do have one or two skirts and wigs and ever since I've come out to everyone I've been finding that I wear them less and less. What I have found though is the pressure from society to be male or female - not in the middle. The problem is that's not me! And I don't want to feel like I have to transition to being female just because that's what society wants. To me, that just feels like another cage that I'm putting myself in.
Over the past few months I've been getting more and more comfortable identifying as non-binary and came across the term "non-binary trans femme" recently - that was finally something that was 100% me.
So here I am - this is me! Hello to all of you and look forward to being part of this community.
JG.
Phew - it's great to be here! I came across this forum a few days ago and was delighted to find people that seemed to be going through the same things I am.
I've struggled with gender issues my whole life, but grew up in a very strict religious environment where anything remotely right or left of centre was not accepted. Fast forward 45 years and I finally had a seminal moment where everything finally made sense. That moment was the 1st May 2018 and I've been on a path of authenticity ever since then. I'm married and my wife, family and friends have been incredibly supportive which has been a great help. The early days were filled with reading as much as I could about being transgender as I believed that I was MTF transgender and hadn't really come across non-binary or anything similar. I went to see a gender specialist who confirmed my dysphoria and suggested that I start on HRT. I gave this some thought and started investigating side effects and talking through the options with my wife. The truth is that I just didn't feel that my gender dysphoria was that bad that I wanted to take the risks. I was also worried about the effect on libido and my relationship with my wife.
So, for the past 6 months or so I've been attacking my gender dysphoria on a physical level - laser treatment for the beard and nuking as much body hair as possible. I also wear light make up and wear earrings. I came out to friends and work colleagues in November and present as much as a I can in a non-androgynous way. Left to my own devices I'm happy in a pair of trousers (jeans, chinos or cords) and a blouse or shirt with. All of my clothes are women's clothes and I through out all of my "boy clothes" last September. I do have one or two skirts and wigs and ever since I've come out to everyone I've been finding that I wear them less and less. What I have found though is the pressure from society to be male or female - not in the middle. The problem is that's not me! And I don't want to feel like I have to transition to being female just because that's what society wants. To me, that just feels like another cage that I'm putting myself in.
Over the past few months I've been getting more and more comfortable identifying as non-binary and came across the term "non-binary trans femme" recently - that was finally something that was 100% me.
So here I am - this is me! Hello to all of you and look forward to being part of this community.
JG.