Post by anzu2snow on Oct 31, 2018 6:50:39 GMT 8
Hi everyone! I'm excited to have found a community like this. Anyways, I'm almost 34 (8 more days until my birthday!), and from Washington state. I'm an author (5 self-published books out so far), clarinetist, blogger, and amateur photographer. I love cooking and eating food from around the world, learning languages and cultures, anime/manga, and my cats.
I'm afab and agender. Realized a little over a year ago, and have come out to everyone I know. Including my 92-year-old grandpa. He always said that everyone has both a masculine and feminine side, it's just some lean on more than the other. He was flabbergasted when I told him that I feel like neither. He kept asking me how that was possible. He said he wanted to support me and accepts who I was, but needed to do some research on it. This was over the phone, since he lives on the other side of the country. He hasn't really spoken to me since, and that was a year ago. He accepted my parent, who's a trans woman, quickly. I think someone who's binary is easier to wrap his head around.
I've mostly had positive reactions to it. The only one that was truly bad was someone in a health-related group online. Someone I'll never meet. I also have realized that I experience quite a lot of dysphoria. I feel like a patchwork doll, to sum it up. I couldn't place what I was feeling before I realized being agender. My parent created a trans support group 6 years ago (there wasn't one in the entire county at the time), and I joined as an ally at first. I didn't know why I felt I could relate so much to what was brought up. It feels more like a group for me too now. They all support and accept me, but there aren't that many other enbies there. (Certainly not many agender people of the ones that might show up.) So, most of them aren't very well informed, but willing to learn from me on this front. I haven't really done much to start my 'transition' (this sounds weird to me for some reason), other than get a binder. It's the right size, but sometimes a pain to put on, it's not all the time, and doesn't completely flatten my chest. I can only really do that with top surgery. At least, I have something. I still use she/her, since it might be easier for some people. As well as they/them because it seems more 'accurate'. Yet, I still don't feel like either really 'fit'. I'm also an aromantic asexual. Fully realized those roughly 3 years ago.
Sorry for the long post. Nice to meet everyone!
I'm afab and agender. Realized a little over a year ago, and have come out to everyone I know. Including my 92-year-old grandpa. He always said that everyone has both a masculine and feminine side, it's just some lean on more than the other. He was flabbergasted when I told him that I feel like neither. He kept asking me how that was possible. He said he wanted to support me and accepts who I was, but needed to do some research on it. This was over the phone, since he lives on the other side of the country. He hasn't really spoken to me since, and that was a year ago. He accepted my parent, who's a trans woman, quickly. I think someone who's binary is easier to wrap his head around.
I've mostly had positive reactions to it. The only one that was truly bad was someone in a health-related group online. Someone I'll never meet. I also have realized that I experience quite a lot of dysphoria. I feel like a patchwork doll, to sum it up. I couldn't place what I was feeling before I realized being agender. My parent created a trans support group 6 years ago (there wasn't one in the entire county at the time), and I joined as an ally at first. I didn't know why I felt I could relate so much to what was brought up. It feels more like a group for me too now. They all support and accept me, but there aren't that many other enbies there. (Certainly not many agender people of the ones that might show up.) So, most of them aren't very well informed, but willing to learn from me on this front. I haven't really done much to start my 'transition' (this sounds weird to me for some reason), other than get a binder. It's the right size, but sometimes a pain to put on, it's not all the time, and doesn't completely flatten my chest. I can only really do that with top surgery. At least, I have something. I still use she/her, since it might be easier for some people. As well as they/them because it seems more 'accurate'. Yet, I still don't feel like either really 'fit'. I'm also an aromantic asexual. Fully realized those roughly 3 years ago.
Sorry for the long post. Nice to meet everyone!