Post by kbb0 on Sept 15, 2018 12:47:20 GMT 8
*Trigger warning for non explicit mentions of sexual trauma. Please do not read if this will trigger you.*
Hello everybody! I have always considered myself a cis woman just because being considered a woman never felt wrong, but honestly most of the time I do not think about my gender at all and I forget about my gender. Right now I am trying to figure out if I may actually be genderqueer. I was talking to my roommate who is nonbinary and I mentioned that I don't like looking at anyone's genitalia (I am asexual and sex repulsed, though I am sex positive for others who enjoy it). They understood that to be simply my asexuality, but then I mentioned that I don't like to look at my own genitalia (My top half is fine, just my bottom half). And they said that that is not a normal part of asexuality. They thought it was because of the sexual trauma I had as a very small child (also for anyone wondering my asexuality is not caused by my trauma), but then later approached me and asked if maybe it felt like dysphoria. And honestly I don't know. I do always forget I have genitalia until I see it and I feel like having none at all would be comfortable. I love to crossdress, and my gender expression is fluid. Some days I like to dress more feminine and some days androgynous or a combination of feminine and masculine. If I don't dress the way I am feeling I do experience discomfort, but I don't like being called he/him unless I am purposely trying to cross dress and be a man. I have never tried being called they/them so I don't know what that feels like.
It's hard to figure this out because my trauma happened at such a young age that I don't remember it. It's hard to know what feelings are due to what, what is normal and what is not. Would anyone else who has knowledge or experience with either dysphoria or trauma be able to help differentiate them for me?
Sorry this is so long. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Hello everybody! I have always considered myself a cis woman just because being considered a woman never felt wrong, but honestly most of the time I do not think about my gender at all and I forget about my gender. Right now I am trying to figure out if I may actually be genderqueer. I was talking to my roommate who is nonbinary and I mentioned that I don't like looking at anyone's genitalia (I am asexual and sex repulsed, though I am sex positive for others who enjoy it). They understood that to be simply my asexuality, but then I mentioned that I don't like to look at my own genitalia (My top half is fine, just my bottom half). And they said that that is not a normal part of asexuality. They thought it was because of the sexual trauma I had as a very small child (also for anyone wondering my asexuality is not caused by my trauma), but then later approached me and asked if maybe it felt like dysphoria. And honestly I don't know. I do always forget I have genitalia until I see it and I feel like having none at all would be comfortable. I love to crossdress, and my gender expression is fluid. Some days I like to dress more feminine and some days androgynous or a combination of feminine and masculine. If I don't dress the way I am feeling I do experience discomfort, but I don't like being called he/him unless I am purposely trying to cross dress and be a man. I have never tried being called they/them so I don't know what that feels like.
It's hard to figure this out because my trauma happened at such a young age that I don't remember it. It's hard to know what feelings are due to what, what is normal and what is not. Would anyone else who has knowledge or experience with either dysphoria or trauma be able to help differentiate them for me?
Sorry this is so long. Thank you for taking the time to read this.