[ti]happy[/ti]Another New Person...

[Price]

Hey all, I'm glad to find a forum such as this one exists.



I'm never really sure what to put in these introductory posts, but having read through a couple of the others I see most people are divulging a little bit of background information so I will endevour to do the same.


I'm 30 years old and based in the UK; I self identified as gay until I discovered the term 'asexuality' and that's been a permanent, if not widely advertised, label that I have adopted. My biological sex is female but I have never had any particular interest in being girly (I think I've worn a dress about five times in my life) but was just labelled a tom boy.


I don't know if anyone else experiences this, but I am always vaguely aware that my body seems bigger than I would like. Like I'm rattling around inside it, and not filling it up properly. (This is not a weight thing; as my weight has fluctuated wildly over my life and the feeling has never changed). The majority of this feeling is in terms of my chest. I'm conscious that it is shaped wrongly for what I internally feel my body should be. Since hitting my twenties I've hardly worn anything but a tight sports bra on top; and have occasionally dipped into binders.


I was asked if I was trans by my (asexual and cis female) partner; and after having given it some thought have decided that no, I am not. I don't particularly see myself as a boy, and don't particularly see myself as a girl. I have come to resent some of things that come with being a girl and would rather be able to define myself as neither.

In my head, my perfect body would be breast (including nipple) and genital free.


I am confused and frustrated. I wear men's clothes constantly (men's shirts, braces, men's jeans) to work and during leisure time but because I have long hair, wear make up and have a feminine voice I am still noticeably female. I would cut my hair if I thought I had the face shape for it; but alas, I don't and it's an area of very low confidence for me.
(I use it as a bit of a curtain to hide my face, sometimes).

I've mostly joined this forum so I can talk things through; maybe find people experiencing similar things and figure out what the hell I'm doing. Is the 'non-binary' label for me? I don't know. Maybe; it seems the thing that fits best at the moment.



TL;DR - confused; questioning - it's all one big journey.

So, yes - hello, and thank you for having me!

[Trinity]

Welcome tothe forum. You are in the right place.

[Ativan Prescribed]

A lot of people come here to find out more about themselves, most of us are here for the same reasons and some like me have been around a long time.
It does start to make more sense with time and answers, your intro is the usual stuff, and I'm sure you have more to find out.
Just join in on the discussions and don't be afraid of saying the wrong things, it's pretty hard to do that here.
Easy going is the usual, it can get heated, but it rarely does and when it does it never lasts.
No monitors, no need for them, golden rule and all that.
Just look through old threads if you want to search, but the usual is that the same questions come up all the time, and the answers are basically the same, but it keeps the information flowing for newer people here and reminders for the ones who have been here a while.
No body minds sharing information and there is a lot from each person that can apply, so make new threads if you want, post on the current and even the old ones, they do come back up to the front now and then, the basics are still the basics.
But more importantly, it's a good place to just talk about things that aren't necessarily NB in nature, but the answers to posts can be.
Like minds for most of the people here.

[Yuki]

Welcome! I'm almost 30 and also AFAB, and identify somewhere on the asexual spectrum too.

[Becky]

Welcome to the forum! Based on what you wrote, you have absolutely come to the right place! Please make yourself at home.

[EchelonHunt]

Welcome, Price!

I'm 28, AFAB and asexual!

There are plenty of people I know who got top surgery and they opted out of the nipple grafts.

I heard of someone who is AFAB, who got their breasts/nipples removed and got a vaginectomy, understandably, this person avoided showing photos of their body because they knew it would be shared like a wildfire on the internet.

There are guys who remove their genitalia and sometimes their nipples, they refer to themselves as "nullo" or "smoothies" - often times, removing nipples and/or genitalia are considered extreme forms of body modification.

I initially wanted to have a smooth area down there but over time, I realised male genitalia is crucial for me to alleviate dysphoria. This was my personal experience, though. I practised having a no nipples by covering them up with skin-tone silicone nipple covers and I really liked the look.

Feel free to comment on threads (no matter how old) or make new ones to kickstart discussion Members live in different timezones so don't fret if there aren't many replies at first, it'll trickle in when the hours go by!

[Price]

Thank you so much everyone for the warm welcome! It's really nice to know that the things I'm feeling/thinking are not as out there or as strange as I first thought they were. It's taken a lot for me to be able to put into words the things that I feel about myself and I'm starting to get the idea that it was the right thing to do.

I'm going to go and comb through the rest of the forum now and see what I find.