bubbleteachild
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Post by bubbleteachild on Oct 4, 2017 10:41:03 GMT 8
Ok so has anyone else ever been in that weird state with names where you're equally as ok with being referred to as your birth name or your chosen name? That's where I am right now. Like my feelings on my names change CONSTANTLY and it makes everything more confusing than it should be. Right now I'm in the weird in between place where I'm Kai on everything online but Lilly in real life and I'm like leaning towards Kai but okayish with Lilly and everything's confusin. I had an idea to go by "Kailee" (pronounced like Kylie) when I feel more feminine but idk if that'd stick. (Weird side note: I realized like halfway through typing this is that all I do on this forum is bitch about my own problems rather than trying to help others with their problems, which I feel extremely bad about; I'm sorry about not ever interacting with y'all)
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Post by Trinity on Oct 4, 2017 11:05:19 GMT 8
Ok so has anyone else ever been in that weird state with names where you're equally as ok with being referred to as your birth name or your chosen name? That's where I am right now. Like my feelings on my names change CONSTANTLY and it makes everything more confusing than it should be. Right now I'm in the weird in between place where I'm Kai on everything online but Lilly in real life and I'm like leaning towards Kai but okayish with Lilly and everything's confusin. I had an idea to go by "Kailee" (pronounced like Kylie) when I feel more feminine but idk if that'd stick. (Weird side note: I realized like halfway through typing this is that all I do on this forum is bitch about my own problems rather than trying to help others with their problems, which I feel extremely bad about; I'm sorry about not ever interacting with y'all) I use two names....it all depends on how I am presenting. Trinity for transfeminine, and Perry for living androgyne. I like the freedom of living that way.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Oct 4, 2017 11:05:24 GMT 8
Ok so has anyone else ever been in that weird state with names where you're equally as ok with being referred to as your birth name or your chosen name? That's where I am right now. Like my feelings on my names change CONSTANTLY and it makes everything more confusing than it should be. Right now I'm in the weird in between place where I'm Kai on everything online but Lilly in real life and I'm like leaning towards Kai but okayish with Lilly and everything's confusin. I had an idea to go by "Kailee" (pronounced like Kylie) when I feel more feminine but idk if that'd stick. (Weird side note: I realized like halfway through typing this is that all I do on this forum is bitch about my own problems rather than trying to help others with their problems, which I feel extremely bad about; I'm sorry about not ever interacting with y'all) I go by different names and it can be weird at times, but it is also pretty nice to be known by different names as well. I've slipped up a couple times with saying my online name, but corrected it and no harm done, they just look at me weird. I've had several names at the same time before, it depended on the situation, and who I was interacting with, but it was just the way it was. Professional life interrupted by social life and the nicknames I had from different people, it was all good, I liked each of them, they fit for what they were. Don't worry about helping and such and it isn't bitching, it is you asking for an opinion, maybe as help. We're here for that, some of us have known each other for a long time now and we know each others ins and outs, we PM each other. But we also participate on the board because we have a lot to offer as far as experience goes. Join in on discussions as you want, help when you feel like it, it's all OK, just being here is helping others, their problems might be like yours. There are a lot of people who just guest in and they might be being helped by you as you talk about this and that, it all helps one way or another. So yah, just don't ever worry about the things you can do here, you do what is right for the moment and that's good enough.
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Post by Yuki on Oct 4, 2017 11:58:18 GMT 8
Ok so has anyone else ever been in that weird state with names where you're equally as ok with being referred to as your birth name or your chosen name? That's where I am right now. Like my feelings on my names change CONSTANTLY and it makes everything more confusing than it should be. Right now I'm in the weird in between place where I'm Kai on everything online but Lilly in real life and I'm like leaning towards Kai but okayish with Lilly and everything's confusin. I had an idea to go by "Kailee" (pronounced like Kylie) when I feel more feminine but idk if that'd stick. (Weird side note: I realized like halfway through typing this is that all I do on this forum is bitch about my own problems rather than trying to help others with their problems, which I feel extremely bad about; I'm sorry about not ever interacting with y'all) I've changed my name a few times. Actually, I started out with Kai. Lol. But then started to not feel like it was the right one, anymore. So I changed it again. I always wanted a "softer" sounding name, I guess. K is such a hard sound. And my birth name starts with K. But I changed from that, to Mikio... which wasn't my first choice but I wanted to try it out. And now to Sawyer, which was my favorite from the beginning and I should have just went with it to start with. Lol. But yeah, I'm used to having two separate "identities" right now since I'm not out to family yet. And that might be a while, still. So I guess you could kind of say I'm equally as okay and uncomfortable with both? Because Sawyer is still new and I haven't had a chance to use it much for it to feel like mine. And my birth name never felt like mine. So I'm just kind of... whatever about it at the moment. Nameless. Haha. That's how I feel right now, anyway. You could try out Kailee for a while, if you really like it, just to see how it goes. You don't know until you try it out!
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Post by Leena on Oct 4, 2017 13:45:33 GMT 8
A good place to try how you feel towards a new name is at Starbucks, or perhaps another coffee shop, as long as they are not like totally dead, they'll ask your name and call it out.
Don't feel bad. I'm stuck a bit between just going Veronica Lynn, which I've been using online for a pretty long time, or going with a feminized version of my birth name. I've professionally been going with my birth initials, which are not VL, for over a year now, which makes it even more complicated...
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Dippy
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Hello, I'm Dippy. (Short for Serendipity.)
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Gender: Non-Binary
Gender: Genderfluid
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Pronouns: She, He or They according to presentation
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Orientation: Primarily andro/skoliosexual
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Hello, I'm Dippy. (Short for Serendipity.)
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Oct 5, 2017 13:17:09 GMT 8
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Post by Dippy on Oct 5, 2017 13:17:09 GMT 8
I've never liked either of my birth names, and years ago I began to ask people to call me Andrew, a name that I thought suited me well, and I added it to my official name by deed poll. Then later, when I needed to acknowledge the growing feminine within me, I called myself Andrew-Julia when I was with people who understood. So that was how I introduced myself at an LGBTQIANB+ festival earlier this year. But a lot of people at the festival had a Faerie name, and I wanted one for myself. Talking with another Faerie about names, I eventually settled on Serendipity, although I worried that it might be a bit long. Those worries were soon resolved when, at a naked dance session, I danced, flirted and fell in love with another non binary festival-goer; we became lovers, and a few days later, while we were having sex, my lover exclaimed in a moment of ecstasy, *Oh - OH - OH DIPPY!" So Seren-dipi-ty became Dippy. It's a nice, friendly, gender-neutral name. I like it.
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Post by Jennifer (Tink) on Oct 5, 2017 21:26:35 GMT 8
For me I go by Jennifer. My parents and my aunt / uncle use my birthname and that didn't bother me for a while. Now it's making me a little dysphoric. But I figure it will be difficult for them to change their ways so I let it go. And you aren't bitching on these forums. That's what this is all about. You can ask for help as well as help others if you feel you can. There is no pressure :hugs: -- Jenn
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danishcouple
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Post by danishcouple on Nov 16, 2021 1:48:33 GMT 8
At the start of our transition we've discussed a lot about our names, both wi didn't want to keep our binairy names because in our minds this was wrong to be non-binair with binair names.
We find out that in side the animal world lots and lots of animals are called by sort of race, and not specified by gender. both we had at that time a very strong bond with cats, so 20 years a go when we legal changed our gender marker in to X, we changed also our first names at that time.
Solveg changed into Felis Catus, goes by Cat
Ingrid changed into Lynx Rufus, goes by Bobcat
When our child was born, our child is born non-binair, we give hen the name Felis Lynx goes by Lynx.
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Post by Trinity on Nov 16, 2021 3:08:37 GMT 8
At the start of our transition we've discussed a lot about our names, both wi didn't want to keep our binairy names because in our minds this was wrong to be non-binair with binair names. We find out that in side the animal world lots and lots of animals are called by sort of race, and not specified by gender. both we had at that time a very strong bond with cats, so 20 years a go when we legal changed our gender marker in to X, we changed also our first names at that time. Solveg changed into Felis Catus, goes by Cat Ingrid changed into Lynx Rufus, goes by Bobcat When our child was born, our child is born non-binair, we give hen the name Felis Lynx goes by Lynx. This is so cool
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Nov 16, 2021 6:37:09 GMT 8
I've never considered changing my name, its my name regardless, it would be weird to have a different name, even if I go by Ativan on here, I don't know if I'd even respond to being called that in real life. The very few I have talked to on the phone from here know me as that, but only a couple know my real name and hearing them call me Ativan sounds weird, but its certainly not a big deal at all, its kinda cute to be honest.
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Post by Leena on Nov 16, 2021 9:18:08 GMT 8
I'm kind of back to going by my initials professionally, at least for now. I don't like it, but I like having to explain why I go by Leena instead of [legal name] at an inopportune time in the interview process even less.
I don't really like being assertive about my name or pronouns. Would have been even more complicated had I went with Veronica, though it seems like I'm stuck having multiple names.
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koiandras
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Gender: Ambigender (Agender Woman / Libramasculine)
Presentation: Female
Presentation: Tomboy-femme
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Orientation: Bisexual/Orchidian
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Post by koiandras on Dec 20, 2021 17:53:50 GMT 8
Despite my name being a female name, I don't think of it in terms of gender, only in terms of it being mine. As such, any other name feels weird to me and I don't feel any compulsion to change it. That being said, I do enjoy using different names online and for fictional characters in games and in writing. If I wrote a book, I would adopt a male pen name, not because of issues with being perceived as a female author, but because it would be an expression of my masculinity in a specific area of my life. Part of me does seem quite intrigued by the prospect of trying out a different name just to experiment, but I'm not bothered if I don't.
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Gender: Non-Binary
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Post by at on Sept 4, 2023 22:34:17 GMT 8
Ok so has anyone else ever been in that weird state with names where you're equally as ok with being referred to as your birth name or your chosen name? That's where I am right now. Like my feelings on my names change CONSTANTLY and it makes everything more confusing than it should be. Right now I'm in the weird in between place where I'm Kai on everything online but Lilly in real life and I'm like leaning towards Kai but okayish with Lilly and everything's confusin. I had an idea to go by "Kailee" (pronounced like Kylie) when I feel more feminine but idk if that'd stick. (Weird side note: I realized like halfway through typing this is that all I do on this forum is bitch about my own problems rather than trying to help others with their problems, which I feel extremely bad about; I'm sorry about not ever interacting with y'all) Oh, yah! for majority of people I know, I just go by my birth name since they're mostly cis and don't really get the ins and outs of being nonbinary, and I don't really have the energy to explain my relationship with gender to them dksdnskds, but I have some friends who are nb and trans, and they're the ones who know my chosen name. I don't have negative feelings toward my birth name; it's just something I'm completely used to. But having just those few friends who call me by my preferred name and use all my pronouns means a whole lot!
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welshadventurer
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Orientation: Bisexual
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Post by welshadventurer on Sept 9, 2023 15:09:38 GMT 8
When I came out as nonbinary I said I was going to stick with my birth name as it had been my name for so long, I was used to it and didn’t dislike it. Earlier this year I started to feel like I wanted a change, and changed my name socially to Morgan.
At the stage where in daily life nearly everyone I interact with calls me Morgan, but anything official, like pay from work, bills, the doctors still use my birth name.
As time goes on I’m starting to find myself feeling a bit uncomfortable when my birth name comes up.
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Sept 11, 2023 9:00:11 GMT 8
It's relatively simple thing to just change your name on all the docs you need and then some. In this state its a fill out the name and give them a few bucks and they take care of most of it. It's like getting your sex/gender changed on your birth certificate, a few bucks and its done and they hand it to you right there. You can have a different name on it as well, the old ones are filed away and I suppose they need a reference point for some things, but who you are when you walk in is different when you walk out. But people just don't put a lot of stock in whatever your name is especially the younger you are, the same goes with gender and that pesky sex slot on DL's, but if you want to change it, then change it. Names and such are getting to the point of like wearing different clothes or fashion, want to change, then just change and if someone doesn't like it, it's their problem and isn't yours to deal with. And considering what they are doing with printers for fleshy parts of humans, it isn't going to be long before you can design a look and have it printed out in no time. Hell they are tinkering with printing out DNA changes so you will live long anyways, so get ready to find out your DNA is not going to be unique anymore....
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