5 questions trans people are afraid to ask

[Yuki]

I saw this shared on Facebook. I thought it might be important for some of us, especially the newer people, to see!

letsqueerthingsup.com/2017/08/13/5-totally-normal-questions-transgender-people-may-be-afraid-to-ask-answered/

[Trinity]

Aug 17, 2017 2:05:15 GMT 8 Yuki said:

I saw this shared on Facebook. I thought it might be important for some of us, especially the newer people, to see!

letsqueerthingsup.com/2017/08/13/5-totally-normal-questions-transgender-people-may-be-afraid-to-ask-answered/

We should read and talk about it.

Its an interesting article, a good one.

[Trinity]

So the core question that drives this is...are you ashamed to be trans, or queer, or nb?

I used to be.

Now, I am not. But I think society should be ashamed of themselves.

[Quill]

Question 1 definitely rings true for me, especially since I'm not looking to make a lot of (any?) outward changes. Honestly, there's a lot of crap out there-- when I first started thinking I might be non-binary, two of the first articles I read said that people like me (afab, female-presenting, agender), are all faking it, or even that we're traitors to our (supposed) gender.

[Yuki]

Sept 2, 2017 10:17:27 GMT 8 Quill said:

Question 1 definitely rings true for me, especially since I'm not looking to make a lot of (any?) outward changes. Honestly, there's a lot of crap out there-- when I first started thinking I might be non-binary, two of the first articles I read said that people like me (afab, female-presenting, agender), are all faking it, or even that we're traitors to our (supposed) gender.

That's ridiculous. I've heard people say that, too... but that's just stupid.

Sounds like some TERF stuff to me. (TERF is Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, for anyone on here who might not know. I think that explains what they are, well enough.)

Just ignore them tbh. They are shitty and don't know what they are talking about.

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Aug 17, 2017 7:52:11 GMT 8 Trinity said:

So the core question that drives this is...are you ashamed to be trans, or queer, or nb?

I used to be.

Now, I am not. But I think society should be ashamed of themselves.

Society is not individual people. Society is a monster that consumes individuality. You could actually say society is a community or a commune or maybe even borderline cult that strongly suggests people think what is commonly accepted within itself or be punished. You either live within it or outside of it.

This will sound so messed up but usually those that live outside of it are more successful, happier, more content and so on that those that follow or allow it to dictate their lives and happiness.

Society does not exist without those that submit themselves to live within it and support it and strengthen it and then allow it to mold their own thoughts and minds.

We are all the same. People should be individuals and if they don't like me them so be it. I don't like some people either. There are some LGBT people that I don't like. I am me and not part of a community, society, cult or anything else. I am me and that is all. I may piss people off but oh well because a lot of people piss me off too. That is their right and my right to do so. But really why get pissed off instead of respecting one another's points of view?

And yes I just finished what I started a long time ago. Now I am a full blown Parapsychologist which will never make me rich but screw it, I make a living otherwise and can afford it. Psychology is boring when you listen to others if you are a Psychological therapist. That sux and I feel for them but... It sux. God Bless the ones that do it though. Put me where most would shit their panties or boxers and run away screaming and I am right there.

But dear how we are treated in society is not the Individual's faults within society. They are going with what others are telling them to feel. Sadly it ain't going away until people start realizing that they are true individuals and can actually think on their own without society having and effect. what came first, the chicken or the egg? The same is true of society, what came first the person or the people?

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In relation to the five questions. These questions are mostly related to trans but with different wording can be related to everyone. What if I am trans? What if I was not always this way? What if I take Hormones???? Yadda yadda yadda. What if I am not good enough? What if I am not smart enough? what if I put out all this money and fail?

Look folks, everyone is the same. We are people and our questions may not be the same as anyone else's but it is the same with everyone. Life is scary and unpredictable and that is a fact. We make choices we may regret or fail at. I have failed many times in my life with business decisions and it isn't about making a bad decision but your commitment and how you react to that bad decision.

As an example of myself. I wanted to be a girl at 14. I also strived to be a boy at 14. HRT for me at 14 would have been a blessing if I could have just disappeared and then have SRS with a really expensive plastic surgeon and so on. I would be like a dream but in reality I didn't really know. I knew I was feminine and now if the choice would have been available back then I would have probably made a mistake.

This is the deal. If you are trans you will always be trans. A penis or vagina will not make a difference. Most men would die at the chance to date Bailey Jay and I would like to date her too as a transbian. Most women would love to date Buck Angle and I am no exception either. That bald head and those muscles oh hell.... With Mr. Angel just don't expect me to stick what I got in. I may do the oral but he would be the man.

So am I female. Oh yeah. Did I know this when I was young, hell yeah because I had more "dolls" than trucks. Would I have had SRS when I was in puperty? Hell yeah. would it have been a mistake now looking back? Hell yeah too. Would I have rather had a vagina instead of a penis, you bet your life but I was not dealt that hand though. Those that I have loved and loved me back knew and all were sweet loves until the expiration date on them.

Like I responded to Trinity's post and Society. Society is a monster. It is not an individual or even many individuals. I am MTF. I have a penis does that make me less feminine than a cis woman? No. Maybe even more feminine than quite a few cis women. I love my femininity and a lot of cis women hate it because they can't be equal to men. I am not equal to men. I am better than men in my natural gender areas though and vice versa.

If I would have been in puberty and if there were gender therapist in my area back then the I would have a vagina today. I don't want or need a vagina to make me happy. I am always going to be trans so what is between my legs doesn't really matter and I will never lie to a lover about it. That would be unfair to another person. I would rather a lover love me for all that I am even the three inches that don't stick out when getting hot and excited.

Gender dysphoria is just as bad as body dsymorphia. So there rally are no questions that need to be answered. That is a myth from society in order to be accepted and screw society. Most people will find that those that go against society will find a more enriching life outside of the "beast" that we call society. Society is telling MTF that they should have a vagina. Society is the beast telling FTM that they should have a penis. Who the fuck cares? Unfortunately we listen though and that is sad.

The Infamous Seven Year Itch. Personalities may change every seven years most times. It was about commonly mostly accepted about sex and sexual attractions but it is deeper than that though. It is deeply rooted and we really have no control over it.

So with al bull shit aside. The one question and the answer should come natural is who am I? Any other question and the relevant answer may change over time.

Am I trans? Yes. Have I always been trans? Yes. Will that ever change? No. Will I ever not be trans? No. Do I regret anything that I have done in order the be feminine? No but I was in my twenties when I started. But of course my small boobs helped. But in my case if therapy would have been available back then I may have regreted what the options taken by what was laid out before me without having ever to live.

A lot of people are pushing the trans issue but take some time and get to know your self because after 49 years, there are no quick fixes. Self search instead of letting someone else persuade you. Now I am a 49 or close to it shemale. Big deal because I have no regrets.

So there are no questions but one; Who are you? Then go from there a little at a time and find yourself. It sounds stupid I know and patience is not much of a virtue anymore but....

Now I will shut up but please remember that one question. All you need is that one question and self reflect.

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This is going to sound repetitive but the number one question am I HE or SHE?

Either one needs to be thought about a lot before a decision made. Sometimes a decision may never be made. It is or may be the hardest question you ever ask yourself and only you hold the answer. To me it was SHE. To others it is HE and to some Neither but Both.

o there should be none but one question. All the  others leading up just lead to that one question.

Only one question out of the five can be answered and that is "Who am I?" well maybe two, "Who Am I and What am I." But who and what are the same though.

[mgq]

Very nice article indeed.