Question for AMAB folks

[Jennifer (Tink)]

So I have been struggling lately with major dysphoria and during this time I have started to notice that I am doing something unconsciously. 

I have never had a problem walking around my house without a shirt on but since my dysphoria kicked in I am finding myself going out of my way not to be shirtless. I'm embarrassed walking around without a shirt while at my parents house. And when getting out of the shower, I have to have a full change of clothes on before I leave.

What is your experience?

[Taka]

not amab, but i do notice that the bra is the last thing i take off when undressing, as well as the first thing i put on when i get out of the shower. it's something about not wanting to acknowledge these things hanging on me, and the bra at least keep them somewhat out of the way.

it's normal though for girls to be embarrassed about being bare chested long before they develop breasts, even if they grow up in a family where their bare chest would be seen as completely innocent and natural.

[Trinity]

Jun 25, 2017 7:09:11 GMT 8 Jennifer (Tink) said:

So I have been struggling lately with major dysphoria and during this time I have started to notice that I am doing something unconsciously. 

I have never had a problem walking around my house without a shirt on but since my dysphoria kicked in I am finding myself going out of my way not to be shirtless. I'm embarrassed walking around without a shirt while at my parents house. And when getting out of the shower, I have to have a full change of clothes on before I leave.

What is your experience?

Welcome to puberty.

[Valerie]

Haha honestly I'm the complete opposite! Like when I get home everything comes off, and I'm either in just underwear, or nude.
Like honestly I Snapchat my friends while nude & shirtless half time I mean obviously I cover up below my waist... but omg idk I'm just so excited & proud of my body I just go around snapchatting my friends "look at my new bra & underwear!!!!" Or just "looookkkk it looks my chest is starting to develop a little!" Haha I swear my poor friends they see so much of me half naked all time.
I do know I was dressing in private and trying to change quickly while I was staying at my grandma though for my cousin wedding, but that's because I didn't want my sister walking in on me (she's 8 and loves me so much she's attached to my hip whenever we're together haha) or my dad, grandma, or stepmom. But probably because they're family & who wants family walking in on you??
I'm also gonna be sharing a hotel room with my best friends when I go down to North Carolina to visit them for Charlotte Pride in August! I'll have to let ya know if I try covering up, and being private with dressing then. But honestly I'd probably still be super comfy with them and all "guys look at my body!!!!!"

[Jennifer (Tink)]

Jun 25, 2017 11:32:59 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Haha honestly I'm the complete opposite! Like when I get home everything comes off, and I'm either in just underwear, or nude.
Like honestly I Snapchat my friends while nude & shirtless half time I mean obviously I cover up below my waist... but omg idk I'm just so excited & proud of my body I just go around snapchatting my friends "look at my new bra & underwear!!!!" Or just "looookkkk it looks my chest is starting to develop a little!" Haha I swear my poor friends they see so much of me half naked all time.
I do know I was dressing in private and trying to change quickly while I was staying at my grandma though for my cousin wedding, but that's because I didn't want my sister walking in on me (she's 8 and loves me so much she's attached to my hip whenever we're together haha) or my dad, grandma, or stepmom. But probably because they're family & who wants family walking in on you??
I'm also gonna be sharing a hotel room with my best friends when I go down to North Carolina to visit them for Charlotte Pride in August! I'll have to let ya know if I try covering up, and being private with dressing then. But honestly I'd probably still be super comfy with them and all "guys look at my body!!!!!"

Ok I think I will plan on heading to Charlotte for Pride day. I have done the trip now so it isn't an issue.

I will make sure my schedule has me down here at that time (considering I am moving here that shouldn't be an issue LOL )

[Leena]

I was never all that comfortable walking around shirtless.

I bring a full change of clothes when I shower when I visit my parents now too, though that's mainly because I don't want them to notice that I shave my chest and legs.

It does seem a bit strange walking around my place wearing women's pants or shorts and shirtless though when I'm getting ready.

[Yuki]

Jun 25, 2017 11:49:11 GMT 8 Jennifer (Tink) said:

Jun 25, 2017 11:32:59 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Haha honestly I'm the complete opposite! Like when I get home everything comes off, and I'm either in just underwear, or nude.
Like honestly I Snapchat my friends while nude & shirtless half time I mean obviously I cover up below my waist... but omg idk I'm just so excited & proud of my body I just go around snapchatting my friends "look at my new bra & underwear!!!!" Or just "looookkkk it looks my chest is starting to develop a little!" Haha I swear my poor friends they see so much of me half naked all time.
I do know I was dressing in private and trying to change quickly while I was staying at my grandma though for my cousin wedding, but that's because I didn't want my sister walking in on me (she's 8 and loves me so much she's attached to my hip whenever we're together haha) or my dad, grandma, or stepmom. But probably because they're family & who wants family walking in on you??
I'm also gonna be sharing a hotel room with my best friends when I go down to North Carolina to visit them for Charlotte Pride in August! I'll have to let ya know if I try covering up, and being private with dressing then. But honestly I'd probably still be super comfy with them and all "guys look at my body!!!!!"

Ok I think I will plan on heading to Charlotte for Pride day. I have done the trip now so it isn't an issue.

I will make sure my schedule has me down here at that time (considering I am moving here that shouldn't be an issue LOL )

I hope I can go, too! I haven't been to a pride, yet.

If I go, both of you better meet me there!

[Valerie]

Omg am I the only one who just hangs around their house in underwear? I mean hmm... granted I do live alone so I have the privacy to be in just underwear, or nude. But omg I'm just so comfortable with myself, and omg I have a full length mirror, and every time I walk by always check myself out. I'll look at my booty, and be like to myself "daaaammmmnnn you've a beautiful butt!!" And I'll check out my tummy, and look at my hips/look at my body trying to see if there's any curves coming in, and omg I play with my chest so much! I stop and stare trying to be like hmmmm... looks like you've got something going on there that's barely noticeable! And I'm just all squeezing them, and pushing together to see if I'm getting any boob action yet! Which I think I am! Very very tiny & subtly there so far. Idk I check myself out like a ton, and I'm always like daaaaammmnnn you're fine as hell! Like seriously the reason I'm single is because I haven't found the right person who can handle me yet, and well also because I know my self worth, and what I'm deserving of haha!
P.s. ahhh omg I think I been noticing changes in my face too!! Woooww... I'm realizing now I spend too much time in mirror either looking at my body, or face haha
P.S.S. ahhh violynne & jenn I'm soo down for saying hi if we run into each other at charlotte pride! I do know that I'm a super busy spending tons of time with my besties though because I haven't seen them in 3 years! But I'll be sures to say "heeeyyyy" if we run into each other, or meet! :3

[Avery]

Jun 25, 2017 12:06:18 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Omg am I the only one who just hangs around their house in underwear? I mean hmm... granted I do live alone so I have the privacy to be in just underwear, or nude. But omg I'm just so comfortable with myself, and omg I have a full length mirror, and every time I walk by always check myself out. I'll look at my booty, and be like to myself "daaaammmmnnn you've a beautiful butt!!" And I'll check out my tummy, and look at my hips/look at my body trying to see if there's any curves coming in, and omg I play with my chest so much! I stop and stare trying to be like hmmmm... looks like you've got something going on there that's barely noticeable! And I'm just all squeezing them, and pushing together to see if I'm getting any boob action yet! Which I think I am! Very very tiny & subtly there so far. Idk I check myself out like a ton, and I'm always like daaaaammmnnn you're fine as hell! Like seriously the reason I'm single is because I haven't found the right person who can handle me yet, and well also because I know my self worth, and what I'm deserving of haha!
P.s. ahhh omg I think I been noticing changes in my face too!! Woooww... I'm realizing now I spend too much time in mirror either looking at my body, or face haha
P.S.S. ahhh violynne & jenn I'm soo down for saying hi if we run into each other at charlotte pride! I do know that I'm a super busy spending tons of time with my besties though because I haven't seen them in 3 years! But I'll be sures to say "heeeyyyy" if we run into each other, or meet! :3

Haha you're definitely not the only one that runs around in their underwear! My partner and I had a lazy Sunday and I don't think I put on pants all day. I almost always wear a shirt though unless we're just laying around the bed, partly becAuse of chest Dysphoria and partly because I have no where near your confidence! Your confidence is amazing.

Also I'm super jealous that you might all be at a Pride in one city! I wonder if I'm the only one on here that lives north of the border

[Valerie]

Jun 26, 2017 11:06:37 GMT 8 Avery said:

Jun 25, 2017 12:06:18 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Omg am I the only one who just hangs around their house in underwear? I mean hmm... granted I do live alone so I have the privacy to be in just underwear, or nude. But omg I'm just so comfortable with myself, and omg I have a full length mirror, and every time I walk by always check myself out. I'll look at my booty, and be like to myself "daaaammmmnnn you've a beautiful butt!!" And I'll check out my tummy, and look at my hips/look at my body trying to see if there's any curves coming in, and omg I play with my chest so much! I stop and stare trying to be like hmmmm... looks like you've got something going on there that's barely noticeable! And I'm just all squeezing them, and pushing together to see if I'm getting any boob action yet! Which I think I am! Very very tiny & subtly there so far. Idk I check myself out like a ton, and I'm always like daaaaammmnnn you're fine as hell! Like seriously the reason I'm single is because I haven't found the right person who can handle me yet, and well also because I know my self worth, and what I'm deserving of haha!
P.s. ahhh omg I think I been noticing changes in my face too!! Woooww... I'm realizing now I spend too much time in mirror either looking at my body, or face haha
P.S.S. ahhh violynne & jenn I'm soo down for saying hi if we run into each other at charlotte pride! I do know that I'm a super busy spending tons of time with my besties though because I haven't seen them in 3 years! But I'll be sures to say "heeeyyyy" if we run into each other, or meet! :3

Haha you're definitely not the only one that runs around in their underwear! My partner and I had a lazy Sunday and I don't think I put on pants all day. I almost always wear a shirt though unless we're just laying around the bed, partly becAuse of chest Dysphoria and partly because I have no where near your confidence! Your confidence is amazing.

Also I'm super jealous that you might all be at a Pride in one city! I wonder if I'm the only one on here that lives north of the border

Awww thanks you!! Honestly I was just thinking about that last night after I posted in this thread & thinking over how much my self esteem, & confidence has boosted. I've put a ton of hard work on myself trying to learn to love myself more, build my self esteem more, confidence, and feel comfortable within my body & self over these past 3 years, and boooyyy have they paid off!! The way I think about myself, and view myself has changed drastically!
I use to have so much self hatred for myself, and I'd look in mirror and tear myself down hating on what I saw in mirror, and hating my body like every inch of my body I felt disgusted with. Like I'd break down in tears in shower with how much I'd hate my body. I mean my depression was really really bad too at the time as well on top of It that could have played a part... plus I was grieving so I had a lot on my plate.
But daaammnnn how much I've changed so much as a person for the better over just 3 years, and I'm so proud of myself for putting so much hard work on myself in learning to love myself more because it's paid off! I also think starting hormones has also helped In me feeling better, more comfortable within myself, and actually liking my body recently too as well.

[Yuki]

Jun 25, 2017 12:06:18 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Omg am I the only one who just hangs around their house in underwear? I mean hmm... granted I do live alone so I have the privacy to be in just underwear, or nude. But omg I'm just so comfortable with myself, and omg I have a full length mirror, and every time I walk by always check myself out. I'll look at my booty, and be like to myself "daaaammmmnnn you've a beautiful butt!!" And I'll check out my tummy, and look at my hips/look at my body trying to see if there's any curves coming in, and omg I play with my chest so much! I stop and stare trying to be like hmmmm... looks like you've got something going on there that's barely noticeable! And I'm just all squeezing them, and pushing together to see if I'm getting any boob action yet! Which I think I am! Very very tiny & subtly there so far. Idk I check myself out like a ton, and I'm always like daaaaammmnnn you're fine as hell! Like seriously the reason I'm single is because I haven't found the right person who can handle me yet, and well also because I know my self worth, and what I'm deserving of haha!
P.s. ahhh omg I think I been noticing changes in my face too!! Woooww... I'm realizing now I spend too much time in mirror either looking at my body, or face haha
P.S.S. ahhh violynne & jenn I'm soo down for saying hi if we run into each other at charlotte pride! I do know that I'm a super busy spending tons of time with my besties though because I haven't seen them in 3 years! But I'll be sures to say "heeeyyyy" if we run into each other, or meet! :3

As long as I know no one can see me through the camper windows, I take my time getting dressed.

I like to put on my bra and shirt last sometimes, until after I do other stuff around the camper, and just pretend that my chest is flat.

It's nice, plus it gives my shoulders a break from the extra weight. (I'm prone to getting stiff neck and shoulder muscles, and my sports bra does not help that.)

I'm not really confident in my body like that, but no one is going to see me anyway, aside from my husband when he's home.

Oh, and I sleep naked. Because why not? And it's comfortable. I started doing that out of curiosity, and now I can't get comfortable with clothes on unless it's really cold.

In public though, I cover up as much as the weather allows because of dysphoria. I definitely prefer things like big sweaters and other things that hide my chest.

[Jennifer (Tink)]

Jun 26, 2017 11:37:40 GMT 8 Yuki said:

Jun 25, 2017 12:06:18 GMT 8 Valerie said:

Omg am I the only one who just hangs around their house in underwear? I mean hmm... granted I do live alone so I have the privacy to be in just underwear, or nude. But omg I'm just so comfortable with myself, and omg I have a full length mirror, and every time I walk by always check myself out. I'll look at my booty, and be like to myself "daaaammmmnnn you've a beautiful butt!!" And I'll check out my tummy, and look at my hips/look at my body trying to see if there's any curves coming in, and omg I play with my chest so much! I stop and stare trying to be like hmmmm... looks like you've got something going on there that's barely noticeable! And I'm just all squeezing them, and pushing together to see if I'm getting any boob action yet! Which I think I am! Very very tiny & subtly there so far. Idk I check myself out like a ton, and I'm always like daaaaammmnnn you're fine as hell! Like seriously the reason I'm single is because I haven't found the right person who can handle me yet, and well also because I know my self worth, and what I'm deserving of haha!
P.s. ahhh omg I think I been noticing changes in my face too!! Woooww... I'm realizing now I spend too much time in mirror either looking at my body, or face haha
P.S.S. ahhh violynne & jenn I'm soo down for saying hi if we run into each other at charlotte pride! I do know that I'm a super busy spending tons of time with my besties though because I haven't seen them in 3 years! But I'll be sures to say "heeeyyyy" if we run into each other, or meet! :3

As long as I know no one can see me through the camper windows, I take my time getting dressed.

I like to put on my bra and shirt last sometimes, until after I do other stuff around the camper, and just pretend that my chest is flat.

It's nice, plus it gives my shoulders a break from the extra weight. (I'm prone to getting stiff neck and shoulder muscles, and my sports bra does not help that.)

I'm not really confident in my body like that, but no one is going to see me anyway, aside from my husband when he's home.

Oh, and I sleep naked. Because why not? And it's comfortable. I started doing that out of curiosity, and now I can't get comfortable with clothes on unless it's really cold.

In public though, I cover up as much as the weather allows because of dysphoria. I definitely prefer things like big sweaters and other things that hide my chest.

I would love to be able to sleep naked but my problem is I use a sleep apnea machine and the hose just doesnt feel right on my chest. But I have moved to using a long thin  smooth sleepshirt that just feels wonderful.

That as well as a silk nighty sometimes (which is just heaven

:hugs:

-- Jenn

[Jennifer (Tink)]

Jun 25, 2017 11:57:34 GMT 8 Yuki said:

Jun 25, 2017 11:49:11 GMT 8 Jennifer (Tink) said:

Ok I think I will plan on heading to Charlotte for Pride day. I have done the trip now so it isn't an issue.

I will make sure my schedule has me down here at that time (considering I am moving here that shouldn't be an issue LOL )

I hope I can go, too! I haven't been to a pride, yet.

If I go, both of you better meet me there!

If you need a ride let me know.

But after tomorrow that won't be an issue

:hugs:

-- Jenn