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Post by Valerie on Jun 7, 2016 22:17:04 GMT 8
Well... Currently hmm... I gone to Trans meet and greets, and I met few cool peeps, and hung out at someone's place for her house warming party. I like the group, but I haven't really made super close friends of who I chat with and hang out. and I sadly haven't been able to makes it to a discussion group night because I keep having to close at work those nights. And for awhile I had something going with someone from meetings, but I kinda cut it short and told her I'd rather be friends. I don't know part of just it seems like I honestly don't have time for anyone or dating. I spend so much more time working on myself, and I gotta keep doing that, plus her personality was kinda bothering me a little haha
Let's see I have you guys here, then I have a trans friend I talk to on like a daily basis on tumblr, he seems really cools. And then a gender fluid friend I chat with on Kik here and there.
Ohh and a few friends when I lived in NC who were Trans.
Hmmm and then of course a ton of cis gay, and bi friends.
I guess it's a big mix of just everyone in LGBTQIA+ community haha
I'll need to start all over again if I decided to move to Connecticut, but thankfully Jacey, did help me out with resources in Connecticut. So that's awesome!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2016 2:43:12 GMT 8
Well... Currently hmm... I gone to Trans meet and greets, and I met few cool peeps, and hung out at someone's place for her house warming party. I like the group, but I haven't really made super close friends of who I chat with and hang out. and I sadly haven't been able to makes it to a discussion group night because I keep having to close at work those nights. And for awhile I had something going with someone from meetings, but I kinda cut it short and told her I'd rather be friends. I don't know part of just it seems like I honestly don't have time for anyone or dating. I spend so much more time working on myself, and I gotta keep doing that, plus her personality was kinda bothering me a little haha
Let's see I have you guys here, then I have a trans friend I talk to on like a daily basis on tumblr, he seems really cools. And then a gender fluid friend I chat with on Kik here and there. Ohh and a few friends when I lived in NC who were Trans. Hmmm and then of course a ton of cis gay, and bi friends. I guess it's a big mix of just everyone in LGBTQIA+ community haha I'll need to start all over again if I decided to move to Connecticut, but thankfully Jacey, did help me out with resources in Connecticut. So that's awesome! AHHH. Personalities shouldn't bother you for at least one night at least. After a while their personalities will get to you though. I have had a lot of lesbian relationships that I realized, OMG! She was really a bitch. I had a girlfriend once that preferred my smooth legs but around her family I had to wear jeans. She wanted a threesome which consisted of me and her an a guy. I was game. LOL it turned out he like me more. More than once and in the back seat of her bad ass car and he would go back home with me to pick up some "stuff" to sell up north . We always stayed in a hotel for two days at least before coming back. She fucked up my hair because it was halfway down my back and she thought I would look cute with a bob. I did back then anyway. But I missed the wisp of hair on my nipples while naked. I know this shit sound like a Jerry Springer episode. Damn she was so freakin' dominating. I was her "bitch". I actually kind of liked it. Maybe not so much if I had to be a guy but we wore the same sizes and she wanted a girl so "Bitch" I was. Eventually though she changed and wanted a real man. Not our man in the threesome because he eventually took me in. But some dickhead from LR that even I found was a unnattractive and way to arrogant. Never underestimate how freaky someone is. Just enjoy it and if it becomes too much, get the hell out.
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Post by FaerieKim on Jun 9, 2016 17:35:52 GMT 8
Damn she was so freakin' dominating. I was her "bitch". I actually kind of liked it. I think I'd like it too. I like dominant women, and I'd like a girl who called me her bitch
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Post by Amato on Jun 10, 2016 10:56:51 GMT 8
Most people I know irl are cis. Only my partner was gender questioning, but we broke up and I haven't spoken to them in a long time. I have many trans acquaintances I used to hang out with irl when I went to trans meets, but over time lost touch with them. Im not a social person and periodically turn into a complete hermit for a matter of months.
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Post by Wormmms on May 15, 2017 15:40:55 GMT 8
I'm super lucky in the sense that I'm surrounded by queer people. I have several trans girls in my circle of friends (including my partner), and my roommate is nb. I went to art school in San Francisco and a handful of my classmates used they/them pronouns. My boss at my college job actually used they/them too.
My narrative is not the traditional one because I've always existed in a relatively safe and encouraging environment for unconventional gender expression. That doesn't mean everything has gone smoothly and perfectly for me though (CLEARLY). Still, I know how lucky I am and I wouldn't change my friends for anything.
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Post by Taka on May 15, 2017 16:01:58 GMT 8
it's quite incredible how my outlook on life has changed on hrt. i got lots of friends, people i know, good colleagues.
apparently hormones matter seriously much. they're our feelings after all, or affect those hormones that make out our feelings.
nothing has changed in my life since the previous post i made in this thread, except for getting on hrt. i'm not a conpletely different person, the people around me are the same as ever. but my feelings about it all have changed so much i almost can't imagine what it felt like before.
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Post by Avery on Jun 6, 2017 23:13:04 GMT 8
IRL I'm so far in the closet I have mothballs...so I don't really know any nb or trans folks. One person I knew in high school has since transitioned but I haven't spoken to her in a few years. I keep thinking I should try and reconnect but the idea of being out to anyone in my hometown and old life is still too scary.
I did meet a few nb and trans people last night though, I participated in a focus group on trans media representation which was my first experience in a trans space IRL. It was scary and exciting and I'm glad I went.
Even online my contact with nb or trans folks is pretty much limited to this forum (which I haven't been so great at keeping up on. Life is busy. I need to make more time for it. )
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Post by Yuki on Jun 9, 2017 8:37:43 GMT 8
I All the people I'd really count as friends are cis. But I've already met some trans and NB folks. And somehow I'd like to have more such connections. Maybe I'll meet some (again) at the Pride this Saturday. Be safe at Pride! I don't mean to scare you, but there was someone local to where I live who was making threats on social media... posting pics of himself with guns, face mask, etc. with the caption of "Can't wait for my first gay pride parade!"... referring to the local one here that's near the end of August. Disgusting. Someone I know called the FBI to report him and they are supposedly taking it serious... but it's scary because I was thinking of going, and what if no one saw that?? I dont mean to scare you from going, but be cautious and alert while you're there!
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Post by Valerie on Jun 30, 2017 0:28:31 GMT 8
I need more trans/nb friends in my life because being surrounded by cis people all time is soo annoying, & draining. Like uuugghhh (I think I'm bit more annoyed by people today haha than usual)
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Post by timelessexplorer on May 6, 2018 11:52:29 GMT 8
Hmmm, I haven't really thought a lot about this. Most of my close friends irl are cis. About equally gay and straight which is a shift from years past. I go to the local trans support meeting and like those folks, but don't hang with them. I correspond with people probably too much, and make a pilgrimage or two every year to meet folk who I have met here and there on line, or in project collaboration, and would like to have migrate from on line acquaintances to people that I know and care for in the venue of reality. That personal contact, where I get to share a hug, a cuppa, a story, a smile is enormously important to me. It changes the dynamic of conversation and lets me feel connected in ways that the ethereal nature of computer assisted chat does not. I hope to meet many of you in my wanderings, it makes an enormous difference in the depth and the dynamic of the friendship. I'll be in Ontario in July, if you hail from there and have a bit of time, I would love to get get together with you. I spend a few hours a week in 12 step work and count many of the people who I know in the recovery groups as friends. But that friendship is founded on a core of a common problem, and a common approach to solutions, and while I love these people I don't spend a tremendous amount of time with them outside of meetings and step work. I have three years left of a fifty hour a week job, but my work life and my real life do not have a lot of overlap with the exception of a dozen people that I have worked with on national and international projects for years. We see each other a couple of times a year and it is always a celebration of good food, long nights of conversation and occasionally morning treks to the sunrise. I find myself separating more and more from the workplace dynamic to the life dynamic. I just actually noticed that. I don't usually go to a play or on a hike with work folk much any more, and that is a big change from past years where work and life blended into a seamless whole. Project driven work is like that, particularly as the development cycle moves into reality. I don't really make much of a distinction between the people I know who are gender fluid or binary. A lot of us seem to be both depending on the time and space. Today I'm a woman named Julie, tomorrow I may be more butch than today and people will call me Jules. Saturday I'll have dinner with a non-binary friend who I care a lot about and will be either or both over the course of a meal and conversation. Earlier that afternoon that I'm speaking at a women's meeting of AA and will be pretty femme. Writing this I feel blessed, but I'm also going to be late for work so it is time for aloha. Till Next Time, J I loved what you wrote. I too would like to have more non-binary friends in the real world, that may happen as I venture out and look for them. My presentation depends on my mood. I am always a bit mixed, but some days I feel more feminine and dress a bit more lavishly. I wish I had the guts to go all out around others occasionally. I would love to explore that experience.
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Post by Moira on Jun 27, 2018 6:41:47 GMT 8
I have more trans and non binary friends than I have cis friends. The only cis friends I really talk to are both female; cis men tend to make me uncomfortable, despite having many cis male role models in my life. I get along best with people of "other" genders/sexualities, because I can identify best with them.
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Post by Avery on Jun 27, 2018 21:36:05 GMT 8
IRL I'm so far in the closet I have mothballs...so I don't really know any nb or trans folks. One person I knew in high school has since transitioned but I haven't spoken to her in a few years. I keep thinking I should try and reconnect but the idea of being out to anyone in my hometown and old life is still too scary. I did meet a few nb and trans people last night though, I participated in a focus group on trans media representation which was my first experience in a trans space IRL. It was scary and exciting and I'm glad I went. Even online my contact with nb or trans folks is pretty much limited to this forum (which I haven't been so great at keeping up on. Life is busy. I need to make more time for it. ) This is funny to look back on. I definitely don't have mothballs anymore, haha. I'm so far OUT of the closet I have... I dunno, what's the antithesis to mothballs? My friends are pretty much a mix now. I have two friends IRL who are trans (one mtf, the other ftm, both binary), a few close friends who are cis queers, and one that's cishet
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Post by FaerieKim on Jun 27, 2018 23:00:25 GMT 8
I have a real mixture of cis, trans and nb friends. Which is just the way I like it.
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Post by Price on Jul 15, 2018 2:55:02 GMT 8
Nearly all of my friends are CIS, I have one nonbinary friend who I don't see or talk to often, but we'll make contact once or twice a year (busy lives in opposite ends of the country). I know a few people who are trans through the fringes of my friendship group (as in, I have them facebook - we occasionally comment on each other's shit but we hardly see each other IRL.)
I guess it doesn't help that in real life I'm not particularly social? I don't really have the drive to 'make new friends' when out and about; I'm not even sure how to anymore! :')
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Post by Physics Buff on Oct 26, 2018 12:46:15 GMT 8
Hi, I'm new. I am interested in trans people but probably not sexually. I don't have any trans friends either IRL or online. Most of my friends are gay cis males with a few cis lesbians. I would like to find a friend on this forum. I am looking for answers about myself, don't really understand my own gender identity, even at this late date.
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