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Post by Trinity on Mar 31, 2016 9:16:34 GMT 8
Mine are nb and binary trans irl and on line.
And i love them all dearly.
Its a special understanding we have.
Do you have trans friends?
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Post by Valerie on Mar 31, 2016 9:34:46 GMT 8
I really really want have more other trans/ nonbinary friends! That's one goal I have currently is try, and meet others, and befriend them.
But in all honesty I have more cis friends in real life, and online it's more cis friends as well, but I have a few trans/non binary online friends.
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Post by Trinity on Mar 31, 2016 9:39:36 GMT 8
I was isolated for decades. Then came the forums. Then a few i call.
Then came new york. And the world opened itself to me.
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Post by Valerie on Mar 31, 2016 9:50:44 GMT 8
Yeah, I'm really hoping I won't be working on the night there's a trans meet and greet at the pride center in Albany, because I'd totally try and make it there!! I was planning on trying to make it to trans discussion group next week, but I'm working late
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Post by Trinity on Mar 31, 2016 17:47:52 GMT 8
Ive done trans aa but not done the pride meetings. Mostly i do forum contact and lately facebook groups.
Each seems to have their own dynamics.
I think the forums are the best outreach for people in isolation or who are scared to reach out.
People are coming here to make new friends and some stay but a lot post a few times and dissapear. They come wanting to make friends.
Others come for answers about themselves, this forum is loaded with those answers. It meets deep needs.
Pride centers...i see our trans kids having a blast in the center we meet at for AA. Such adorable kids.
They dont seem as conflicted as us old peeps are, they seem to just want to have fun. And they also are really loose...sexually i mean. That kinda freaks me out.
Im not loose i just flirt a lot for attention lol.
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Post by Julie B on Mar 31, 2016 20:28:39 GMT 8
Hmmm, I haven't really thought a lot about this. Most of my close friends irl are cis. About equally gay and straight which is a shift from years past. I go to the local trans support meeting and like those folks, but don't hang with them. I correspond with people probably too much, and make a pilgrimage or two every year to meet folk who I have met here and there on line, or in project collaboration, and would like to have migrate from on line acquaintances to people that I know and care for in the venue of reality.
That personal contact, where I get to share a hug, a cuppa, a story, a smile is enormously important to me. It changes the dynamic of conversation and lets me feel connected in ways that the ethereal nature of computer assisted chat does not. I hope to meet many of you in my wanderings, it makes an enormous difference in the depth and the dynamic of the friendship. I'll be in Ontario in July, if you hail from there and have a bit of time, I would love to get get together with you.
I spend a few hours a week in 12 step work and count many of the people who I know in the recovery groups as friends. But that friendship is founded on a core of a common problem, and a common approach to solutions, and while I love these people I don't spend a tremendous amount of time with them outside of meetings and step work.
I have three years left of a fifty hour a week job, but my work life and my real life do not have a lot of overlap with the exception of a dozen people that I have worked with on national and international projects for years. We see each other a couple of times a year and it is always a celebration of good food, long nights of conversation and occasionally morning treks to the sunrise. I find myself separating more and more from the workplace dynamic to the life dynamic. I just actually noticed that. I don't usually go to a play or on a hike with work folk much any more, and that is a big change from past years where work and life blended into a seamless whole. Project driven work is like that, particularly as the development cycle moves into reality.
I don't really make much of a distinction between the people I know who are gender fluid or binary. A lot of us seem to be both depending on the time and space. Today I'm a woman named Julie, tomorrow I may be more butch than today and people will call me Jules. Saturday I'll have dinner with a non-binary friend who I care a lot about and will be either or both over the course of a meal and conversation. Earlier that afternoon that I'm speaking at a women's meeting of AA and will be pretty femme. Writing this I feel blessed, but I'm also going to be late for work so it is time for aloha.
Till Next Time, J
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Post by Shan on Mar 31, 2016 23:50:09 GMT 8
Most of my acquaintances are cis currently. I did have several trans friends from local trans group meetings that I used to attend. In the past one trans woman from the Susan's website fixated on me and moved to Seattle from New Mexico just to be closer, it was a mistake to let it happen as it could have ruined my marriage. So nowadays my only trans "friends" and associates are found here on this forum, other than one of our members who I am fond of will be meeting once again Saturday evening and I'm looking forward to that as I have been estranged from the TG community for a long time.
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Post by Mickie on Apr 12, 2016 4:51:34 GMT 8
Literally all but 1 of my Irl friends are Cis. And the one that isn't lives on the other side of the country.
What can sometimes be hard is that while some of my Irl friends know of my gender issues, I feel like it's hard to actually talk about it or express myself without making people very uncomfortable.
Granted that could be all in my head anxiety nonsense too... Haha... Meh.. I digress
I'd like to meet more local people, but until recently my scheduling has made that hard. Hopefully with a few things happening like my new job, that can change!
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Post by Arkham on May 2, 2016 8:32:05 GMT 8
Most of my friends are cis as far as I know, with the exception of one of my long-time friends being a trans guy and a friend who I'm not as close with being genderfluid, and there's another trans guy I know but I don't know if we're friends per se (we used to talk more... ;_;) I keep hoping I'll make more NB friends D:
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2016 7:36:14 GMT 8
I have friends all across the spectrum. A lot are gay or lesbian. A few are trans and more than not keeping up with statistics a lot are cis or so they say. But NB. Most of my friends have no idea what that is, even my gay and lesbian friends. A couple of trans friends know and non of my cis friends can not understand the concept. With them it is either or and nothing in between. The same with my gay and lesbian friends. To them I am either a tranny, shemale or gay or bi. I am patient though and try to explain but... Well if you don't feel it, its really hard to understand when everyone else is obsessed with sex and has very little knowledge of the meaning of gender and tie sex and sexual orientation with gender.
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Post by Taka on May 25, 2016 4:02:35 GMT 8
depending on how you define "friend" i may have many or none irl.
there are some online people i care about, and quite many i consider friends. from all over the spectrum even. nice people are nice. though i remember the first time i found a home in an online community, it was very gay and muscle loving. once upon a time, the bara forums were great...
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Post by FaerieKim on May 29, 2016 20:36:14 GMT 8
most of my friends are cis. But I do have one transgender friend. She's lovely. I used to know a trans man too. We fancied each other but he was reluctant to take things further than friends. Think he must have been self-conscious about not having a penis. We met at a bisexual group and I was talking enthusiastically about how I like sucking cock, which probably didn't help (I didn't know he was trans when we had that conversation)
I've also met lots of trans women and crossdressers at a transgender group I used to attend.
Sadly no non-binary friends irl. Not that I know of anyway.
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Post by Trinity on May 30, 2016 1:44:07 GMT 8
Trans guys are so attractive... So are androgynes... Actually... Ummm.. My cis friends are two wonderful women, Melba and Cynthia. And they are amazing.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2016 4:27:53 GMT 8
most of my friends are cis. But I do have one transgender friend. She's lovely. I used to know a trans man too. We fancied each other but he was reluctant to take things further than friends. Think he must have been self-conscious about not having a penis. We met at a bisexual group and I was talking enthusiastically about how I like sucking cock, which probably didn't help (I didn't know he was trans when we had that conversation) I've also met lots of trans women and crossdressers at a transgender group I used to attend. Sadly no non-binary friends irl. Not that I know of anyway. Kind of sad really. Hell we MTFs are self conscious too because of our penises. I'm not that self conscious though and I would hope that a trans man that may ever be attracted to me and me him would not be self conscious because of the lack of a penis. Sexual and sensual pleasures and desires can be achieved in many different ways but that should never be the basis of a successful relationship. A perk for sure but the safety within within each other. The intimacy shared on non sexual levels. The vulnerabilities of each shared and trusted with the other is priceless. Sexual gratification can be achieved in other ways.
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Post by Trinity on Jun 7, 2016 8:46:41 GMT 8
most of my friends are cis. But I do have one transgender friend. She's lovely. I used to know a trans man too. We fancied each other but he was reluctant to take things further than friends. Think he must have been self-conscious about not having a penis. We met at a bisexual group and I was talking enthusiastically about how I like sucking cock, which probably didn't help (I didn't know he was trans when we had that conversation) I've also met lots of trans women and crossdressers at a transgender group I used to attend. Sadly no non-binary friends irl. Not that I know of anyway. Kind of sad really. Hell we MTFs are self conscious too because of our penises. I'm not that self conscious though and I would hope that a trans man that may ever be attracted to me and me him would not be self conscious because of the lack of a peni×s. Sexual and sensual pleasures and desires can be achieved in many different ways but that should never be the basis of a successful relationship. A perk for sure but the safety within within each other. The intimacy shared on non sexual levels. The vulnerabilities of each shared and trusted with the other is priceless. Sexual gratification can be achieved in other ways. Jamie, Ummmm Its all part of whats under the giftwrap isnt it girl? Christmas every night..
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