Post by Ayla on Mar 16, 2016 12:34:07 GMT 8
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For those of us who are transgender, the paranoia of being clocked can often be a big issue. You may be walking down a busy street and it seems like everyone is staring. You might be in a store or out at a club. You start to look at people’s faces and wonder what mat be going through their mind. Are they really looking at me? Maybe they think I am pretty? That would be a great reason. In my mind however, they are probably clocking me as transgender.
Let’s face it, we have all experienced some form of clocking. It could be by a stranger or even a friend. Maybe even a family member. We all have that one relative who can’t get the pronouns right or they accidentally call you by your old name in a crowded place. Usually in that instant my dysphoria is triggered. The downward spiral begins and I try my best to get myself out of it.
Some of us are lucky enough to have passing privilege. The degree in which we have it can often determine how many problems we will have out in the world. But even in the scenario where one has such privilege, the paranoia can still set in. You can be afraid your voice will give you away. It can be those features you possess that you hate the most. It can be anything really. We all have things that we don’t like about ourselves. We all go through it in our own way.
“WE ARE THE ONLY GROUP IN SOCIETY WHERE IT IS STILL OKAY TO OPENLY DISCRIMINATE AGAINST US.”
This is something that cisgender people take for granted. It is a privilege to be able to run down the block to the store in your sweatpants with no makeup on and do so without the fear of confrontation. For many of us this could be dangerous proposition depending on where we live. We exist in a world where we see people trying to pass bills that won’t even allow us to use the bathroom. We are the only group in society where it is still okay to openly discriminate against us. There are bills being passed that allow businesses to deny us service for religious reasons. Tell me, would it be okay to deny all women services for religious reasons? How about denying people services because they are not of the same religion? Is that okay? You get the point. This is why it is dangerous for us. There are people who are simply out to hurt us. The issue for us is not vanity. It is safety. It affects both transgender men and women alike.
The Fear of Getting Clocked - The Weekly Rant - Transgender Universe
While we all have insecurities, having gender dysphoria can take them to new heights. Cisgender people don’t have to worry about something triggering their dysphoria. It is one thing to have a bad hair day or worry about people not finding you attractive. It is an entirely different experience when you throw dysphoria in the mix. It can lead to all kinds of dangers if we don’t know how to cope with it.
Are these thoughts and fears justified? Maybe sometimes. Mostly it is just an extension of our dysphoria when we worry about being clocked. The thought that everyone is staring. It could be our own paranoia triggered by gender dysphoria. In the end it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that this is mostly in our head. A product of our condition. Though there will always be bad people, most others are not really that concerned with us or anyone else. It is just our fears manifesting themselves.
“IF SOMEONE WANTS TO HURT ME FOR BEING WHAT I AM, SO BE IT”
The Fear of Getting Clocked 3 - The Weekly rant -Transgender UniverseThe truth is for me I am out. I am really out. I am on the Internet for everyone to see. It is no secret that I am transgender and I am proud of who I am. There are times when I don’t care about what anyone will do. I know I am going to continue to be me no matter what happens. If someone wants to hurt me for being what I am, so be it. I know that by being out and open I am helping others like me by allowing myself to be seen. People need to see us. The more they see us the more they get used to us in society. This leads to acceptance.
But to be truly honest, there are also other times when I don’t want to be transgender. I just want to be like every other girl out there. It would be nice to go out every once and a while and not think about it. To exist for a moment without having to think about gender. To not worry about what I look like in the mirror. To not have to look over my shoulder. I would love to just exist as who I am with everything perfectly aligned. It is a feeling I have never known. It seems so far out of reach. Sometimes I just want to blend in and be like everyone else and not worry about getting clocked.
For those of us who are transgender, the paranoia of being clocked can often be a big issue. You may be walking down a busy street and it seems like everyone is staring. You might be in a store or out at a club. You start to look at people’s faces and wonder what mat be going through their mind. Are they really looking at me? Maybe they think I am pretty? That would be a great reason. In my mind however, they are probably clocking me as transgender.
Let’s face it, we have all experienced some form of clocking. It could be by a stranger or even a friend. Maybe even a family member. We all have that one relative who can’t get the pronouns right or they accidentally call you by your old name in a crowded place. Usually in that instant my dysphoria is triggered. The downward spiral begins and I try my best to get myself out of it.
Some of us are lucky enough to have passing privilege. The degree in which we have it can often determine how many problems we will have out in the world. But even in the scenario where one has such privilege, the paranoia can still set in. You can be afraid your voice will give you away. It can be those features you possess that you hate the most. It can be anything really. We all have things that we don’t like about ourselves. We all go through it in our own way.
“WE ARE THE ONLY GROUP IN SOCIETY WHERE IT IS STILL OKAY TO OPENLY DISCRIMINATE AGAINST US.”
This is something that cisgender people take for granted. It is a privilege to be able to run down the block to the store in your sweatpants with no makeup on and do so without the fear of confrontation. For many of us this could be dangerous proposition depending on where we live. We exist in a world where we see people trying to pass bills that won’t even allow us to use the bathroom. We are the only group in society where it is still okay to openly discriminate against us. There are bills being passed that allow businesses to deny us service for religious reasons. Tell me, would it be okay to deny all women services for religious reasons? How about denying people services because they are not of the same religion? Is that okay? You get the point. This is why it is dangerous for us. There are people who are simply out to hurt us. The issue for us is not vanity. It is safety. It affects both transgender men and women alike.
The Fear of Getting Clocked - The Weekly Rant - Transgender Universe
While we all have insecurities, having gender dysphoria can take them to new heights. Cisgender people don’t have to worry about something triggering their dysphoria. It is one thing to have a bad hair day or worry about people not finding you attractive. It is an entirely different experience when you throw dysphoria in the mix. It can lead to all kinds of dangers if we don’t know how to cope with it.
Are these thoughts and fears justified? Maybe sometimes. Mostly it is just an extension of our dysphoria when we worry about being clocked. The thought that everyone is staring. It could be our own paranoia triggered by gender dysphoria. In the end it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that this is mostly in our head. A product of our condition. Though there will always be bad people, most others are not really that concerned with us or anyone else. It is just our fears manifesting themselves.
“IF SOMEONE WANTS TO HURT ME FOR BEING WHAT I AM, SO BE IT”
The Fear of Getting Clocked 3 - The Weekly rant -Transgender UniverseThe truth is for me I am out. I am really out. I am on the Internet for everyone to see. It is no secret that I am transgender and I am proud of who I am. There are times when I don’t care about what anyone will do. I know I am going to continue to be me no matter what happens. If someone wants to hurt me for being what I am, so be it. I know that by being out and open I am helping others like me by allowing myself to be seen. People need to see us. The more they see us the more they get used to us in society. This leads to acceptance.
But to be truly honest, there are also other times when I don’t want to be transgender. I just want to be like every other girl out there. It would be nice to go out every once and a while and not think about it. To exist for a moment without having to think about gender. To not worry about what I look like in the mirror. To not have to look over my shoulder. I would love to just exist as who I am with everything perfectly aligned. It is a feeling I have never known. It seems so far out of reach. Sometimes I just want to blend in and be like everyone else and not worry about getting clocked.
