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Post by Deleted on Feb 9, 2015 18:23:41 GMT 8
Do movies trigger your dysphoria?
Did that get better over time?
Over treatment?
Over hrt?
After surgery?
Does it get better?
Did going full time help?
Did keeping boundaries help?
If there were boundaries at home did that make you push them elsewhere?
My bond flicks are creating jealousy and bitterness for me. It sucks. Women jogging does too. Actually, I guess it's fairly constant.
I'd like to know if that gets better. If it got better for you. Focussing on how it is for you. So we can all help you.
How has this gone with you over the course of time?
Love to all here.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 2:41:26 GMT 8
Oh yes, films can definitely trigger dysphoria in me. A few days ago I saw "Must Love Dogs", and Diane Lane was smashing in it. I couldn't help but envy her--especially since John Cusack was her man. Love scenes will also grab my attention.
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Post by Leena on Feb 10, 2015 14:00:28 GMT 8
It depends on the movie. Women jogging does too, though men's jogging shorts are pretty much the only actual men's shorts still in production, even if most of them have that stupid liner like swim trunks…they possibly intentionally aren't going to match the currently popular colors in women's jogging shorts, last summer, I found a pair of half gray, half neon green men's jogging shorts, that are actual shorts, with no liner and with pockets…I've also seem some guys jogging in leggings and shorts over them…
Back to movies, the vast majority of roles simply are going to be binary. Even if there is a non-binary role, the other characters in the movie are probably going to be binary.
It shouldn't mean you can't enjoy the movie, try not to focus on the gender of the character, but just on the character. You probably don't want to really be exactly like whatever character that is, though they might be funny, or interesting in some other way…Hollywood also almost always designed them to be flawed in some way...
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Post by Ativan Prescribed on Feb 10, 2015 22:52:42 GMT 8
The movies themselves don't trigger dysphoria, but sometimes there are characters that might as more of an afterthought. Even if they aren't portrayed as specifically trans in some way, their roles are more important than who they are in regards to gender, I feel drawn to them, but there are certainly other roles that do the same thing. I recognize that they may be trans in the way they are portrayed, but that's not the focus of their role. I have to admit that strong willed and especially just bad-assed female characters do tend to get me into a wish I knew that person, sometimes even fantasize with that 'what if being that character' in that kind of thinking, frame of mind. But it never gets in the way of the movie or show, it isn't any different than being drawn to any other character, sometimes that's the function of their role. There are those times that I can see myself in a character, I am much alike or wish I could be that way. I suppose if their gender presentation is one that I can appreciate, trans or cis, it adds to my dysphoria, but doesn't trigger it. Really just the opposite in most cases, it calms my dysphoria, there is someone right there who I can identify with. I feel less alone with the dysphoria that I do have, which usually isn't something that is up front in my thinking, but is just there. So are a lot of things, just there somewhere in the background, an awareness, those things that I don't pay much attention to but are still there, just the same. There are a lot of movies and shows that the characters are not defined by gender. I tend to see them as not cis, not in that binary 'that's the way you are born' kind of logic. That they aren't defined, that lets me define them in the ways that I see trans in general, but that still doesn't define the character. There are the exceptions, but most of the time, it just makes me aware of what dysphoria I usually carry around with me, I don't let it get in my way. So it's less like a trigger and more like an untrigger, I feel less alone with mine. Same as being around other trans people IRL. I don't want to be someone else, I want me to be better when I can, but that's the same for most things, I can do better. Ativan
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Post by Edge on Feb 13, 2015 5:38:10 GMT 8
Yes, movies do trigger transphoria in a way, but I don't mind it because they also help me fantasize about the body I want. In some cases, it also helps me see ways in which I am close to looking how I want.
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Post by Donna Troy on Feb 23, 2015 4:40:13 GMT 8
Movies used to trigger a lot of disphoria for me, I would feel completely like shit whenever a beautiful girl was in the scene especially if she was being treated special because of said looks, I've gotten over it though sometimes it still makes me sad
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