Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2015 2:12:03 GMT 8
Mar 17, 2015 6:35:48 GMT 8 @julieblair said:
I was listening to a speaker the other day. It was suggested that for people like me to find success and happiness it is a good idea to keep my sails out of other people's wind. It took me a while to get it, but yes - it is in my nature to want to be supportive and to find the path for the people I care for. In so doing I am stealing other people's wind, assuming their struggle, owning their issues, slowing their progress.
For me to find my mission I need to release you to yours. For me to find solutions to my problems I need to release your problems to the solutions you discover.
I need to stay out of your wind. Maybe not relevant to the discussion at hand, but what wandered unsought through my mind.
Fair Winds,
Julie
Be very wary of "speakers" Julie. Especially the motivational kind. Remember the Geico commercial with Pinnochio. I love that commercial.
You my dear can be supportive but you can never find anyone else's path for them. Being supportive is good, but everyone is on thier own on their own paths. I think maybe this is what you are trying to say? I think I know what you are saying but I won;t go back and redo what I wrote previously.
Being supportive is being supportive unconditionally. You can't choose someone's path for them. That is something they have to do on their own. They may get mired down in mud and you can kind of show up in the badass Jeep and either pull them out or pull them forward but you have to make sure of the direction they want to go.