choices that perpetuate evil

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In the wake of the suicides and the intense backlash on a couple threads, how do we  make choices that will help us become respected?

I came out of stealth in aa and at work so that's about fifty lives encountering genderqueer and raising awareness.

But I am still stealth to bigoted extended family knowing they would break up me and my wife.  I have no respect for them now.

So now questions, like, where the he'll is that playwright.  Why not post from the inside in institutions that harm, confront the bullshit.

Conflicted.  Like war, our wives have to go too.

Being trans is like being drafted.  Fight or die.

I  not so strong as to sacrifice my wife and the two years of slow progress for the cause, I am not of enough political courage to do it.

How are you making a difference f or trans my dears.  How is your life challenging others?



I should flash a tit at the Neanderthal at work and hit him in the face with it.

[Laura J]

I think we have to fight our battles carefully, so we're alive to fight another day, and we don't loose the entire war that could destroy vital relationships in our own lives, and possibly destroy us as well..

I so respect yourself and others here who have full, busy lives full of other people in them, and must deal with a ton of this stuff at the same time each day.. To me it would be a daunting task.

It seems logical to start with ones self, and fight for self respect from others around us first, and maintain that as a priority.. Spouses need to be protected, not dragged into our battles, unless they are willing and accept that role. Thats just how I was taught.?

I also spent time, like a prison sentence, in a workplace full of bigots, racists and haters.. Even though I was younger and not knowing my gender differences yet, I still intuetively knew right from wrong, ugliness from beauty, and I fought those people as best I could, not by confronting them at every nasty word they called someone, but by example, which seemed the right strategy as that was my personality anyway.. Maybe that has to be taken into account in this Trans war of sorts we find ourselves in, to recognize our strengths, and use them as weapons that we know we can win with..

It would seem that just blaitantly confronting bigots or religious zealots that have things wrong, without planning and thinking through the best strategy almost assures that we will loose that battle, because we often say things we normally wouldn't, our tempers flared, and often make mistakes ourselves that must be appologised for, which defeats the whole purpose.

And of course, tit flashing never hurts, lol..

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I just want to be real. I think people think of us according to ru pauls drag race. While I won't c rd criticize this venue of trans, it so totally misses the mark that it is just nuts.

I think there are answers in the performing arts, and I need to take a hard look at myself.

Choices for sure.

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Jan 2, 2015 22:48:50 GMT 8 Laura J said:

I think we have to fight our battles carefully, so we're alive to fight another day, and we don't loose the entire war that could destroy vital relationships in our own lives, and possibly destroy us as well..

It seems logical to start with ones self, and fight for self respect from others around us first, and maintain that as a priority..
It would seem that just blaitantly confronting bigots or religious zealots that have things wrong, without planning and thinking through the best strategy almost assures that we will loose that battle, because we often say things we normally wouldn't, our tempers flared, and often make mistakes ourselves that must be appologised for, which defeats the whole purpose.

I'd agree with so much of this post, especially what I put in bold.  What I've long been saying is this: If you want to make the world a better place, start with yourself.  My strategy in the little town I live in is not to be loud or pushy or in anybody's face.  I just go quietly about my business.  I try to show people that a transperson can be a perfectly sane individual, a good citizen, a good neighbour, a good friend.

I'm not really into activism as such.  I don't particularly like marching, banners, all that business.  I do my activism in my own quiet way, and I tell myself (rightly or wrongly) that that way is more effective in the long run.  A bit ironic but one of my mottos in life (conceived long before I ever dreamed of coming out of the closet) has always been, "It's not the dress, it's the woman!"  I.e., it's not the show, it's the substance.  Don't give people a show.  Give them the reality of transgenderism.  I think that's the way we can win them over.