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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2014 10:56:41 GMT 8
How has it been, for those out or those telling or those presenting..... how have the Cis handled you?
They sure as heck look really confused to me.....
experience, strength, hope, and tears let it fly
Love you dear ones love you lots
Satinjoy - Trinity
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Post by Laura J on Dec 13, 2014 10:40:52 GMT 8
At first it was shaky, but went quite well.. I was more concerned about it than anyone else was it seems.?
Now that time has gone on a while, I think everyone enjoys the more real me.. Actually..
I don't really have any fear of having to defend myself anymore, or explain myeslf, I think everyone I know pretty well "Gets me" now.
I've even had one or two CIS friends tease me, which thats the biggest compliment of all, that they are that comfortable with me.. Be as sarcastic and tease me as much as they want, I give it as good as I get it, and I love laughing with others about ourselves.
So all is good..
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2014 11:07:54 GMT 8
I've been embraced. Surprised the heck out of me, but that was my experience. Occasionally a troll will say something crude but rarely. Even they aren't entirely sure, and I am sure as heck not telling any tales. Strangely the people who have rejected me were almost entirely related to me. That still seems so very odd, that the ones who I would expect to be there no matter what, are the ones who said so long. No matter any more, my family is here. Julie That is so typical though Julie, as the saying goes familiarity breeds contempt. Back when I was telling my family members how i found Jesus they immediately brought up all of my most sordid past as if to intimate that it couldn't be true and that I was a phony. It works the same when we come out as transgenderd types.
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Post by Edge on Dec 13, 2014 11:33:49 GMT 8
Most cis people handle me pretty well. I've had problems once in awhile, but most of my cis friends see me as a guy no problem.
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Post by Ayla on Dec 15, 2014 3:06:49 GMT 8
Have really had only 3 out of 50 plus cis folk who have not understood this or could not handle it very well - my father (ex military, does not 'see' this nor believe it), my daughter (who was a nurse in a high security women's prison with a number of binary TS inmates, does not wish to talk about it), and another friend (another nurse who says 'but you are still a guy, you have not changed'). All of the others have listened, questioned, accepted, supported and validated me
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Post by Deleted on Dec 15, 2014 3:13:57 GMT 8
Have really had only 3 out of 50 plus cis folk who have not understood this or could not handle it very well - my father (ex military, does not 'see' this nor believe it), my daughter (who was a nurse in a high security women's prison with a number of binary TS inmates, does not wish to talk about it), and another friend (another nurse who says 'but you are still a guy, you have not changed'). All of the others have listened, questioned, accepted, supported and validated me Safe travels Aisla The only reason they do that to you Aisla, is because they feel threatened because you dislodged them from the security of their comfort zone.
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Post by Ayla on Dec 15, 2014 3:33:09 GMT 8
Shan
I think that you are right. Folk seem most comfortable when you remain a constant, a known and unchanging. Changing seems to threaten or yo destabilise folk. Perhaps it causes them to reflect upon themselves.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2015 2:10:50 GMT 8
My experience with cisfolks has been overwhelmingly positive. I live in a very small town, and I was afraid that people would run me out on a rail. But they haven't. Of the people I know personally, not one has turned their back on me. I've had some hassle from a few people who don't know me personally, but a pox on them.
The real blot on my record is my dad. He's well up in his 80's and my brother and sister and I agreed that he wouldn't be able to deal with it. So he still knows nothing about me. We live far enough apart that that's not a huge problem in my life. Still, I wish it could be otherwise. But on the whole I have nothing to complain about compared to what a lot of people are going through.
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